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AAkasha -> Teasing and Denial (2/4/2008 5:46:28 PM)
I grow more fond of chastity every day. It's not so much the locking up part - although, that can be incredibly hot. What drives me most is the teasing and denial. It's extremely exciting and arousing to torture a man when he is turned on and can do nothing about it -- making him face his helplessness and confinement and curse the cage he is locked in. Not letting him know when relief is going to happen just adds to the intensity. What are your favorite kinds of teasing and denial? What do you find most effective, but also most arousing and amusing? Some of my favorites include: Making him watch me/hear me/see me masturbate and cum while he is bound and gagged Making him masturbate with, worship, sniff my wet panties (often unexpectedly - out of the blue) Making him masturbate to the edge and then stopping him - on the edge. Sitting on his face and pleasuring myself while he's in chastity Leaving extremely nasty voice mails, especially graphic ones that include mock sympathy Sending graphic pictures Forcing him to watch porn while bound and gagged, plugged or with a vibrator inside One word: Milking! Any other ones to add? I don't think I would ever find much interest in chastity for the sake of chastity - which some submissive men seem to enjoy on some level (ie, they will even lock up themselves and not have a woman involved). I think the entire point is to make the balls ache and the cock throb -- and have him willing to endure anything for release because the denial is too much to stand. Akasha

gdslvr -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/4/2008 7:08:33 PM)
The mind boggles.

bobipanti -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/4/2008 7:36:12 PM)
Mistress AAkasha, As a trans who desires to be feminized and become a woman serving a Dominant Female, i understand Your thoughts on chastity. I lock myself up at times to entertain the fantasy that I have been locked-up by a group of Dominant Women and have no idea when or how I will be released. It also helps me to maintain my feminine feelings and actions. When locked I feel better about myself, am able to get more done, and want to stay en femme as long as I can. I know that may seem unusual, but being feminine gives me a better outlook on life.

Aimtoplease101 -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/4/2008 8:51:02 PM)
One of the interesting aspects of enforced chastity is that activities that you would not have thought were arousing, or had a "tease and denial" component to them, become erotic and arousing when you haven't had release in a bit. A touch, a word, the sight of bare instep, a hint of cleavage that may have been overlooked before may seem incredibly erotic after you've been "bottled up" for a week or so. This creates its own increasingly frustrating cycle in that more and more events, actions, and sights become "teases," further deepening the psychological impact of the captivity of one's sexuality. Regards, ATP

LadyPact -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/4/2008 10:19:23 PM)
Just to add to the list, I've found that scent marking, in just about any form, is great for the tease and denial factor. Placing just a bit of your own scent on the lips can throw some subs into a virtual dance of desire.

onthenosetone -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/4/2008 11:19:18 PM)
Just being in chastity is a constant tease in itself, being around the lady that owns your heart knowing she will take gratification from you at her whim, never knowing if and when a release will be allowed/granted...... I love my life[:)]

AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 4:22:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha One word: Milking! I think the entire point is to make the balls ache and the cock throb -- and have him willing to endure anything for release because the denial is too much to stand. That's one pretty powerful word! [:D] I agree: denial is all about creating a physical, mental, and emotional frenzy that washes away whatever self-control I may have had left.

Aubre -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 7:00:04 AM)
Chastity without the tease to me wouldn't be worth much. A sub in chastity should be teased and tormented sexually as often as possible. My ideas for you: -Lock him up and take him to a strip club, buy him lots of lap dances and tell the strippers about his predicament. -Lock him up and take him with a strapon. See if you can make him drip. -Tie him up tight in the closet, maybe throw in some nipple clamps and a vibrating (inflatable?) plug. Close the door, and make it sound like you are having wild passionate sex with someone else. You can do the real thing or have a friend pretend along with you and be a foley artist. When you are done, have the friend leave or have them stay and enjoy him, up to you. -While he is bound tightly, tease his frenulum and head with a greased strip of dental floss. Soft bristled toothbrush or feather is another idea. -Make an audio tape/file of people having orgasms. Blindfold him, tie him up and have him listen to this while you are teasing him, even better if he doesn't get to have an orgasm himself. -Tie him up kneeling, locked in his belt, get one of those gags that has a dildo protruding from it (preferably one longer and thicker than his own member), and have him use that to please you. -Oh and I'd make sure you have as many orgasms as you want, the unfairness of you having lots of orgasms while he is so horny and denied is very hot.

Dnomyar -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 7:12:52 AM)
The dance of desire. I like that. Is that the the hippie hippie shake?

MistressVnus -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 7:25:17 AM)
Hahahahah!! I love it. You have many of the same activities I have. My slave, besides my chastity devices, has a thick (about 2") metal band "collar" that locks around the cock and balls with many points of intrigue inside. It can be quite painful when erection occurs. I like to have this on him at night while being semi-bound in my bed at night so I can roll over at any time and cause excitement. Also, once the teasing has gone on for a few days they tend to sleep semi-aroused or wake up several times a night with a raging hard-on. I will then exacerbate the issue...grin Something humorous......One night I was sleeping soundly. Slave next to me. Mitten restraints on and hooked to neck collar. Sens Dep hood. Ankle restraints clipped together. All of a sudden I hear this loud screaming...."OH MIIIIIIIISSSTRESSSSSS!!!" Thinking something horrible has happened, I roll over quickly and start undoing his hood going, "Whats wrong? Whats wrong?" His reply.................."My cock is hard!!" I laughed until I had tears in my eyes. His first time with extended tease/denial was an "awakening," so to speak. hahahahahaha Great thread.

Aubre -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 7:51:32 AM)
Forgot one: Put a parachute harness on his balls - tease, get him close to the edge, when he is just about to come, pull down on the chain of the parachute and cease any contact with his penis. You need to be careful, but if done right the feeling it gives the sub is excruciating in a good way.

canupleaseme -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 9:34:47 AM)
I must admit I love tease and denial too [:D] In fact I spend most weekends thinkning up new ways to do it. Not wishing to hijack your thread AAkasha but milking is something I am trying to learn to do and most of the sites Ive looked at (only 3 so far) have such different advice Im still not sure where to start lol could you point me in the direction of some helpful advice? Thank you

lockmeupplease -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 9:59:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I don't think I would ever find much interest in chastity for the sake of chastity - which some submissive men seem to enjoy on some level (ie, they will even lock up themselves and not have a woman involved). I think the entire point is to make the balls ache and the cock throb -- and have him willing to endure anything for release because the denial is too much to stand. Akasha Thanks for the post--a fine diversion in the middle of another boring work day. I agree with you--the chastity has to be combined with other activities that drive the need for release. I have been chastised by someone who I saw infrequently and didn't add any teasing elements between release, and between meetings I would actually just get bored. However, when teased between meetings---whether by nasty/humiliating phone calls/e-mails/text messages or by being told to wear a plug, clamps or other toys along the way--then the need was strong and all I could think of was release (not to mention that getting hard in a CB-3000 just flat-out hurts!)

Aimtoplease101 -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 12:10:47 PM)
Don't forget about redirecting the stimulus to his nipples. Mine are very responsive, and if I've been denied long enough sufficient nipple stimulation is almost enough to make me pop all by itself!

ClicheDomme -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 1:00:54 PM)
Figging is soo delicious. Tie him up to the bed, place a cock ring on his penis, insert the ginger and watch the magic happen. You'll have to frequently replace the ginger. But nothing beats the tears and begging... you'll almost have pity on him...hehe almost. During his chasity you can give him the chance to masturbate without a cockring (this is for your enjoyment for he isn't allowed to orgasm..) Also, when his chasity is over and he begs to be allowed release you can give him a time limit.. for example he can cum, but only if he cums within 40 seconds. If he doesn't cum within said time, his chasity will be reinstated/prolonged..

LadyMyles -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 1:05:46 PM)
whew! teasing and denial is one of my very favorite things. Aakasha's entire list just made me grin enough that I had to de-lurk and drop in my .02

MistressVnus -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 1:34:34 PM)
I play that game as well. The time limit thing. Nothing like a little pressure...LOL

suessub -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 1:55:53 PM)
A topic close and dear to my heart. Being on the receiving end, I mean. I haven't read one of my favorites. Tie me down, gag and blindfold me and tease me with sex. After a week of being locked up, this is so cruel wink. Mistress will do this for an hour or so, alternating between letting me be inside her and using her canes, wooden spoons, etc on my inner thighs. She gets the rhythm right and keeps me on the edge while she satisfies herself. Repeatedly. I am not one for begging, but when she climbs off me, I beg. And not for release, but just to be teased some more. And when she is done with me, she just leaves me bound for a while "to cool down" so she can lock me up again. Or, with me still locked up, has me use her strapon harness with her favorite dildo to pleasure her. Aimtoplease101: you are dead on about the nipples. Mistress loves to come into the kitchen and just play with and pinch them. I get all excited (and uncomfortable in the CB6000) and distracted. Then back to making dinner/cleaning dishes for her.

SubJordanTyler -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 9:51:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I think the entire point is to make the balls ache and the cock throb -- and have him willing to endure anything for release because the denial is too much to stand. Akasha I agree completely on this. The chastity itself really does nothing for me. But bringing me to the edge repeatedly, causing increasing pain in my cock and balls, will eventually bring me to tears and cause me to beg for release. And believe me, I will do just about anything to get that release, as the pain can become almost unbearable.

hardbodysub -> RE: Teasing and Denial (2/5/2008 10:44:05 PM)
I'm with you on this one, Aakasha. Chastity per se, not terribly interesting. But tease and denial, and the use of chastity to arouse the male to the point where he'll do almost ANYTHING for release, that's HOT! The helplessness, humiliation, and sheer demonstration of her power over him, adds to the already torturous arousal ... um, sorry, gotta go ... something's come up ...!!!

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