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RE: When we were young - 9/8/2005 11:24:22 AM

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i can remember from a young child trying to help and please everyone and trying to take on their burdens and making their life easier. As hormones hit, i remeber *play struggling* with my partners to get them to hold me down or restrain me..ahhh the circles still continue:)

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RE: When we were young - 9/8/2005 3:29:06 PM

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The beginning is the same

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ORIGINAL: Veav
I can look back now and spot a few things... I was one of those kids with my nose in a book, didn't interact with others well, didn't play outside ...

then at age 11 or 12 I started doing self-bondage, and fantasizing about submission. I think the foot fetish came at 13. Of course I didn't know what "fantasize" or "fetish" meant. I just had to deal with the fact I was abnormal.
I try to go beyong the age of 10...(10 minutes later)... I had some strange feeling reading some fairy tales, that I now relate to my female domination fantasies. It's a bit vague, I would have to reread those fairy tales to remember exactly, but I remember precisely this feeling about a (famous) book I read later at age 13, where a girl becomes a strict dominatrix of the hero (that's in today's words, in the book they play queen and knight, and she makes him do whatever she wants). Anyway I was reading fairytales from 5 to 10 (My parents never read them to me so I had to read them by myself).

But anyway, at age 12 I already knew I was very abnormal. Oh well, nobody ever complained about my deep desire to submit to and satisfy women... actually, yes, once : a neighbour.

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RE: When we were young - 9/8/2005 7:56:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: WickedKev
Anyone else think of things from thier childhood that on closer inspection may be and indicator that they were heading for this life?

I never put much stock in this. I do believe we can find anything in our pasts of we look hard enough. On the other hand...

On a recent trip down memory lane with a relative, I was reminded that in the few instances where I played "house" with other youngsters, I never understood the "One Wife" or "One Husband" theory. I was raised in the Mormon part of the country, and the polygamous families were simply a fact of the areas history. No one bothered to explain the chauvinism or gender-bias aspects until later years. I always saw myself as "one of" the family of many husbands and wives that all worked together. This very vanilla person reminded me that even then I directed the whole thing because no one would do the work if I didn't tell them to. She giggled remembering that they all had no problems with my orders either.

My husbands just chuckled and rolled their eyes. I blushed a bit and smiled quietly thinking that it was odd that a moment of my very, very short childhood was so clearly embedded in this persons memory. My only memories of my own that I could relate to my current lifestyle is the desire to find people that can Trust intimately and completely. That, very definitely, is a strong part of my kink and my entire life.

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RE: When we were young - 9/9/2005 8:56:49 AM

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I do believe there are some things we just do because we are children. Just that, no one way or anouther. However I can now see that there were many red flags in my life that were trying to get my attention... See, you've always been like this. Age 6 my mom caught me putting straight pins into my pivates. I was being torchered by a witch. (Funny because now many would say I am a Witch) Later as I started having sexual fantasies they were ALWAYS about being forced. Either just to have sex or forced to do things i didn't 'like'." Then when I started writing erotica it was always submissive. Now I look at it and go... well Duh. I just this last weekend had someone point out that I was submissive to my best friend when I was 16. We never did anything sexual, but to look at our relationship it was a very Ds thing. Whatever she said I did. My life was lived for her. Sigh, and I've been trying to avoid the whole idea of submitting to a woman.. damn it.

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RE: When we were young - 9/9/2005 9:30:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: srahfox
I just this last weekend had someone point out that I was submissive to my best friend when I was 16. We never did anything sexual, but to look at our relationship it was a very Ds thing. Whatever she said I did. My life was lived for her. Sigh, and I've been trying to avoid the whole idea of submitting to a woman.. damn it.

I had a situation like that, but I've been writing it off as having been in wuuuuuv.

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RE: When we were young - 9/9/2005 11:25:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsPurrmeow

I never put much stock in this. I do believe we can find anything in our pasts of we look hard enough. On the other hand...

On a recent trip down memory lane with a relative, I was reminded that in the few instances where I played "house" with other youngsters, I never understood the "One Wife" or "One Husband" theory.

A few years ago, I overheard some kids playing outside. Two little girls, and one little boy. All of them were under five years of age.

They decided to play house.

The boy picked his "wife."

The other girl shouted out..."If SHE'S your wife, then what am I?"

The little boy, quickly replied..."You're my EX-wife."

Kids!

K

PS I knew as far back as I have memories, that I had interest in spanking fun. I didn't realize what it was, or why...and probably still don't get it, but I know it started before I was five. Once I got online, I discovered my interest in other things, and then quickly to real life contact, and delicious MORE things.

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RE: When we were young - 9/9/2005 11:57:23 AM

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Oh lord, I can honestly say this wasn't the case for me. I am bi but I can never say I was IN love with her. I just had never even realized how... much control I gave her over my whole life. Thing was I was perfectly happy with it that way. She use to tease me about liking to have something on each limb. (Bracelets and anklets) She says she knew all along I was Sub but I doubt it. Funny how we can blind ourselves to things for so long.

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RE: When we were young - 9/9/2005 12:26:04 PM