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Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 10:55:53 AM

feetpet

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I'm new to this web site, and i have not been with a mistress yet!!!But i do have a submissive foot fetish, and i wanted to ask you about this girl that i know!!!
Well i'm going out with her tomorrow night.I met her couple of years ago, i was dating someone else, but i haven't seen her for more than a year now, and i run into her last week!!!we talked for a few minutes, i got a vibe that she likes me, and of course i always wanted to go out with her, so we exchange phone numbers(she asked first) and we are going out tomorrow night!!!!!!!!excited!!!!!
Im not expecting to sleep with her right away or even push it, cause i'm not that kind of a guy, but i do have a foot fetish and is a big part of my sexual life!!!!!!!!
I asked a couple of friends about her already and they said she is a control freak, especially with ex-boyfriends, and she is also bi!!!!!Now with my submissiveness in the bedroom, that would be perfect for me if she likes to have a her feet worshiped!!!!!!
My question is, should i be upfront about my fetish from the first date???or shall i wait for a few weeks and let her discover it by herself if everything goes well and we continue to date??????

Thank you for your time!!!!

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 11:04:57 AM

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I don't know that I would "lay it all on the line" on the first date. Just relax and have fun. If by, maybe the 3rd date, you are feeling a good connection - then just be honest. If it is right, it will naturally take its course. By the third date, you can establish you are having fun with one another, yet haven't invested too much time to lose if it isn't right. Maybe plan that date to make her dinner and watch a movie at home. Offer to give her a foot massage...if she accepts - it should be real easy to bring up the conversation...if she says NO - and hates having anyone touch her feet - you may want to just back off and go back to the "friend zone". Just my $0.02

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 11:14:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: feetpet

I asked a couple of friends about her already and they said she is a control freak, especially with ex-boyfriends, and she is also bi!!!!!

Um...yay?

I'll give you some advice. The first bit of advice being that you really only need to use a question mark or an exlamation point once at the end of a sentence. The second bit is...

You shouldn't worry about it until you're sure you actually like her. You've not seen her in a year and there's always a good possibility you might not even like the woman. The fact she's a control freak may sound like the stuff of fantasies, but here's a HUGE difference between a dominant and a control freak.

Also, if you really end up liking her, maybe your own needs might actually take a back seat. Imagine that...

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 11:26:02 AM

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Relax, have fun, be yourself and compliment her shoes. flowers are most often a good choice.

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 11:45:44 AM

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well if she says no... you can offer her $10 per toe...

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 12:16:13 PM

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You don't have to lay it all out there at once. Go slow. There are a lot of ways to gradually test the waters.

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 1:06:46 PM

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Thanks Mistress Sandy, i like your advice!I think i will take it slow and test the waters first!!I know she is open minded, i know she is attracted to me, i know i'm physically attracted to her, but i need to find out first if she likes getting foot massages!!!thanks!

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 1:10:12 PM

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I think it will get around to what each of you likes and you could say you are enamoured of it, but I would be far more concerned about dripping gravy on my tie and whether or not she is allergic to flowers, or doesnt like hazelnuts in chocolate, right out of the box.

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 3:08:55 PM

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So you fall in love with her. She's everything you ever wanted in a partner but she doesn't have a foot fetish.
Here's hoping.
I know I'm a sadist. lol

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 3:15:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: feetpet

My question is, should i be upfront about my fetish from the first date???or shall i wait for a few weeks and let her discover it by herself if everything goes well and we continue to date??????

Thank you for your time!!!!

Depends.. is she a Mistress with feet.. or a pair of feel that happens to have a Mistress attached? What's more important to you?

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 3:53:26 PM

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Do you want to date her....or her feet?

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 4:02:19 PM

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oops should have read the whole thread first....

.....but yes, I'd wait until you've gone out a couple of times first and are at the point of discussing sexual likes and dislikes. Be honest, but present it in a light that she feels appreciated, not threatened.

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 5:52:18 PM

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You got some very good advice here. Relax, see if you like each other first, then worry about "the talk".

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 5:58:01 PM

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I think you'd run a risk of offending her if you leapt right to announcing that you have a foot fetish. She might think you're objectifying her in a way she doesn't want to be.

It's easy to think that a foot fetish wouldn't seem objectionable, because it is so "service to women" oriented. But change the object of fascination a bit and think how it sounds: "I really love tits. I'd really like to feel and suck on yours." Not a line that is likely to work.

You may eventually want to get freaky with this lady, but my advice is don't immediately risk being banished as a [foot] freak. Take it slow. You can tell her, at some point, what beautiful feet she has, and see where that goes.

Good luck-- ATP

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/5/2008 10:07:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: feetpet

My question is, should i be upfront about my fetish from the first date???or shall i wait for a few weeks and let her discover it by herself if everything goes well and we continue to date??????

Damn the torpedos. Full speed ahead.

Get her good and drunk. Then at the end of the night, say "Hey baby, wanna toe-job?"

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/6/2008 5:42:43 AM

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Shawn quit with the english corrections. To the op. Dont beat aroiund the bush. Go for it on the first date. Have her sit on the couch and take her shoes off and start massaging her feet. Go from her reaction. To many whimpies on here.

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/6/2008 9:56:22 AM

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So far AtlantaMistress, has the best advice, thank you very much!!!!i think taking it slow, and having her discover it, it will be fun for her too!!I don't want to come out obsessed with it!Have to keep the balance at the beginning, and make it a game!!

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/6/2008 7:15:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Shawn quit with the english corrections. To the op. Dont beat aroiund the bush. Go for it on the first date. Have her sit on the couch and take her shoes off and start massaging her feet. Go from her reaction. To many whimpies on here.

Okay, then, do that before you take her out, when she greets you at the door, why waste an evening if she ain't into it.

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/6/2008 9:04:06 PM

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Seriously, this is why devout fetishists drive me to drink. They don't realize just how much they objectify the woman and treat her like a piece of meat rather than a woman (nor do they seem to care.)

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RE: Looking for help with a date!!!!i like her!!! - 2/7/2008 7:03:21 AM

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What part of the meat is the foot?? Some women thrive on objectification. Good thinking atursvcMaam.

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