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ORIGINAL: denversubnewbie

I read a wonderful profile from MS Bearlee,  about Dominant relationships...I love the idea of giving myself , of sharing this intimate lifestyle beyond sex.But I don't know if I can stand the pain implied..been spanked and whipped (whipped with discomfort) would do it again though with someone trusting..as I wrote to her.If you cant stand the heat in the kitchen   stay out of the kitchen....But I might like it in the kitchen..snuck a peek a couple of times. How to proceed ...obviously with caution.
Another thing..I want sex and the closeness..the cuddling afterward..I dont expect my way all the time..maybe not even 50%..but come please I need to climax occasionally..and for my lover as well..I have known my lover to be pleased by a visiual and physical display of her demands.  Thats  how I ended up in panties..another story...about the pain.   Thanks Jim
sorry I

How on earth do you know as newbie what you're into or not ? That is something to figure out for you, and in which you can ask the guidance of people around you, or a Kind Domme online who is willing to help you, discover certain things.

That's for starters, then the hard road begins, to find the One for you.

There are only 10000 subs out there,
and how many Dommes?
Then you've gotto find someone who is interested in taking you on, and then together walk the road of Bdsm, and slowly experiance with the whole equipment of Bdsm.

It's a long process, to discover your likings and limits.

What's good for one isn't for someone else.
So take your time to discover where your interests lie, and dont let someone tell you anything different.

I wish you enough

GoddezzT`