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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/16/2005 8:30:43 PM

PetTeacher

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PetTeacher, I like your way of handling things. Welcome to the Message Boards, btw.

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PetTeacher, I like your way of handling things. Welcome to the Message Boards, btw.

K

Thank you very much. I love hearing what is going on in the corner of other people's world. -PT

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/17/2005 8:52:31 AM

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Well first off to answer some questions. I don't always tell people that I was previously a sub. As for giving off mixed messages I may be doing that because I am rather a quiet person when one meets me for the first time and also I am not in Domme mode 24/7 I am usually just plain old me until I am in the mood or in a situation where I should be in Domme mode and when my sub is not in roll he does most of the talking because well he talks a lot and is a people person where as I am not. None of my experiences luckily have happend here but have hapened in real life. I feel it should not matter that I was previously a sub wich was probably only for a year tops year and a half. The point is I am no longer a sub and it quite clearly states that in my profile. How I act when I am not Dominant should not reflect the fact that I am sub or domme it should just reflect who I am as a person. So if people see this as mixed singnals then they need a life. Most of my experience has been a lot of men assuming because I was quiet and female I was the sub even though they have read my profile online before meeting me and my husband in person so it just really bothers me to no end how people are either truly ignorant and just chauvanistic pigs.

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/17/2005 11:38:10 AM

TexasMaam

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Email received in My inbox today:

"...something about a closet makes a seleton very restless..."

That was it. Entire email.

I dunno. Maybe it's just Me but thats simply unnerving. Am I supposed to anticipate extortion now or what?

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/17/2005 11:40:25 AM

TexasMaam

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woops.

"...something about a closet makes a sKeleton very nervous..."

sorry(sp).

TM

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/17/2005 2:01:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

Email received in My inbox today:

"...something about a closet makes a seleton very restless..."

That was it. Entire email.

I dunno. Maybe it's just Me but thats simply unnerving. Am I supposed to anticipate extortion now or what?

TM

TM, don't worry it was probably sent out to 50 dommes to try to get a nervous one to answer. After all, it's not like there are any "nutters" that are members, right?

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/17/2005 5:38:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

woops.

"...something about a closet makes a sKeleton very nervous..."

sorry(sp).

TM

Funny You should mention closets...as i'm currently in discussion with a Domme who wishes to put me through isolation/sensory deprivation training...in part at my urging, but it appears to be something She wants also...i find this an incredibly exciting prospect and hope to soon realize it...and yes, we both know it's not an easy thing to do...but are determined to make it happen.

Wish me luck

sting
Hopefully we will commence with this in early-mid November...

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/17/2005 5:39:39 PM

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Thank goodness for ye ole 'block' button. arrrgh!

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/18/2005 11:37:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

Email received in My inbox today:

"...something about a closet makes a seleton very restless..."

That was it. Entire email.

I dunno. Maybe it's just Me but thats simply unnerving. Am I supposed to anticipate extortion now or what?

TM

I wouldn't worry about it at all. The bigger question is, do you have something in the closet you are worried about? I agree that this email has possibly been sent out to many Dominas. Who knows the reason?
I have had a few boys who have conducted themselves very poorly. They have tried, in concert, to sabotage Me. It didn't work, but they did try!. It seems that the moment they do not get to have it thier way, they get petulant, and throw temper tantrums. Something I have no time for! *shrugs* And all of these boys have tried to get back into My good graces.
My favorite, though, is a boy who did live with Me and was kicked to the curb. After a year of trying to make it work his way, and running the gamut of complaints on his profile, he is now the "ex-slave of the beautiful Goddess DustyGold". hmmmmm... I noticed this as I checked his profile when he suddenly showed up on My admirer's list.
If anybody hears from this boy, do write to Me. There is a reason, after all, why he is My ex-slave !!!!!

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/18/2005 12:01:52 PM

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I have had this conversation many times in the past on AOL until I blocked IMs:

Unknown Dom: "Kneel to me."
Me: "No."
Unknown Dom: "Why not?"
Me: "I'm Domme."
Unknown Dom: "So?"
Me: "It means I'm Dominant, like you."
Unknown Dom: "Doesn't mean you still can't serve me."
Me: "No."
Unknown Dom: "Why not?"

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/18/2005 2:22:55 PM

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Don't ya just love that AOL group? Sorry to any AOL fans out there.
Actually, I suppose the same could be said, at least by Me, of all the chat groups...yahoo, msn, et al.
But I did spend a short amount of time with a profile on AOL about 2 1/2 years ago. And I never wasted so much time in My life, in one place. I lasted about 2 months, and I was out of there!
The only good thing that came from that debacle, was a referral to collarme.com. It may not be perfect, but this is the best place I have found for some decent conversation and, at least, a small shot at an online connection.

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/19/2005 4:50:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Sardax
Saying you are submissive seems to be accepted as fact and never doubted-especially if you are male.
(Actually I doubt I really am sub-but that's another matter)

OK, Sardax! Back it up! You're not slipping past the group without clarifying that final statement. <Hands planted firmly on hips.... giving you "the look" -- intensely.>

But before we go there, I must disagree STRONGLY with the notion that I'll buy into a guy being submissive just because he claims he's submissive. In fact, I've met few men who are genuinely submissive. Sure, it's easy to find guys who want kinky sex, and/or to immerse themselves in bottoming jollies during playful scenes; once the scene is a done deal, however, all signs of alleged submission evaporate. OTOH, there's a rare subset (no pun intended) of men who have -- for lack of a better description -- that rare asset: a slave heart, brain, gut. They exude submission. It's distinct from people with a pathological "disease to please" (as Oprah likes to call it).

As for you.... for someone who isn't a sub, you sure spend a whole bunch of time invested in created drawings depicting that role. We're good friends with several well-known artists. Though their styles and thematic content are as diverse as anything one can imagine, they all pretty much concur about one facet of art: An artist puts himself into what he depicts. Accordingly, if you're not a sub, how do you view yourself? Are you saying you're merely a fetishist who gets off on bottoming?

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/19/2005 5:21:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: NightRoseBud

I have had this conversation many times in the past on AOL until I blocked IMs:

Unknown Dom: "Kneel to me."
Me: "No."

For future reference, your "error" was giving him a lead-in by engaging him in discussion. Knock wood.... I rarely get Doms coming at me from that angle. I have my hypotheses as to why that might be.

When I get an inappropriate IM (and I should not be getting any, as my profile and home page stipulate NO instant messages), depending on my mood, I either ignore the IM, or type something back to the effect of: "Take your hand out of your lap and go take a long walk off a short pier." I only block if some fool continues his pathetic contacts on an ongoing basis (e.g., weekly, monthly).

My faves are the ones who have blackmail fantasies. I always tell them to buzz off or I'll tell their mothers. They never know how to reply to that.

Fortunately, I get very few IMs on AOL -- except, of course, from friends, who are welcome to IM whenever they please. Despite having multiple ISPs through the years, AOL has always been with me. I wouldn't give them up for the world. They have features no other ISP provides. Though my primary service is from SBC Yahoo, I maintain my AOL account, too.

On Yahoo Messenger, however, I always feel like a sitting duck. It's like the locusts are attacking with horny guys of every persuasion. I have to keep myself in Invisible Mode to try to fend them off.

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/20/2005 12:59:48 PM

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For future reference, your "error" was giving him a lead-in by engaging him in discussion.

~ Ti ~

Usually the "kneel to me" would come after they said hello or good evening and I responsed to that. Sometimes I would ignore it, sometimes I would say no. If I ignored them, I would always get the "NOW BITCH," like even a self-respecting sub would react to that.

Other than those idiots I have only had one Dom who seemed to not accept me as his equal as a Dominant. He role-plays in Gor so his view is "men are men and women are women" meaning "men are dominant and women are submissive."

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/20/2005 2:00:25 PM

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Even female subs get things like that all the time.

me: Thank you for the link (name).
Gorean male: Dont use my name slut.
me: Dont call me a slut, i am not a Gorean slave, i am just here to learn.
Gorean male: Then get out slut.

And this is just an example, i find it anoying when men in the lifestyle dont take me seriously, as anything, becouse i am a female. It is the same realy when submissive boys come and say, be a Domme for me, whip me, spank me, hurt me, they want some woman to speank them, regardless if she is a submissive, she is just a pice of woman meat to him. If the guys are so needy, go get a pro.

As for if a man had taken a choke grip on me, unless he knew material arts, he would be leving the event whit a blue eye, at least.

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RE: Does this happen to you - 9/21/2005 10:23:51 AM

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Hi, I'm new here, but the discussion is fascinating (if a bit redundant at times). I present myself as a Domme, and I am for the most part. But it's not really a sexual thing for me. I honestly get a rush out of forcing men to scrub my floor, clip my toenails as I watch TV (a hilarious sight), etc. I'm a former military interrogator and I DO get off on verbally humliating and attacking men.
But I'm tiny (5'41, 100 lbs) and I don't do the cliche Domme thing - no leather, no whips or other tools. I'll allow him to perform his service in the nude if he wants - I'm usually just watching TV in a tank top and shorts while he works.
This is the point of "no strings housecleaning," right?
A lot of guys seem to play the role of sub just to try and get into my pants ar get me to indulge their fetish. They SAY on email that they're COMPLETELY fulfilled simply by cleaning my apartment. But usually, when they show up, some other "seleton" comes out of the closet. He has a weird fetish that he conveniently neglected to reveal during our emails and phone calls.

OR he'll intentially botch the chores assigned to him, just to get punished.
I have never had a "2nd date" from this website. The guys come in and clean, they leave, and I never hear from them. Am I doing something wrong?

I have another question about my switching and submitting to a Domme, which I neve never really done "formally." (only with my ex-girlfriend, and neither of us knew what BDSM was about.) But this post is long enough and I think it's grounds for a new topic.
Thanks for reading. And I need all the advice I can get! feel free to PM me. xoxo, M

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