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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/9/2008 6:50:10 PM

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Yes, I had read that about koalas (see, OP? Youre not silly in your fear.theyre EVIL!!)

Spiders..ICK!! I can deal from a DISTANCE.. but god help the bastards if they surprise me....

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/9/2008 8:47:09 PM

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My girl still laughs about me stalking through the house naked with my long sword in hand about to hack up intruders. At least I had enough presence of mind to toss on a robe when I went outside to circle the house and check for a lic. plate number.

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LOL I love ya..at least I am not the only one who has at LEAST one sword in every room ( and a gun in da bedroom, but I always reach for the sword..hmm). I figure the person who breaks into my house is gonna have a BIG surprise, after he has tripped over the black and white cat, the 85 lb black chow cross, the 150 lb black and white akita, he is gonna be very unhappy to see the wild haired, nekkid woman taking a slice out of him with a long sword. Thats If Komodo (akita) has left anything for me to slice and dice, or Master hasn't woken up and shot him ( he reaches for the gun)

*muhahahaa* glad to see I am not the only sword wielding gal on here.. or gun toter either. Never had a problem with people breaking into my place when I was much younger... and living in not such a nice place. I honed my swords outside, as well as cleaned my guns outside on my door step. Nothing says Crazy quite like that. My dog would bark a good bark.. but would prob piss himself and run to his crate if it came down to it. Poor thing was severely abused and from an rescue shealter when I got him for my girls 1 year anniversary of being with me. He came with a lot of fears and baggage. But he is now the best and sweetest dog imaginable. He is afraid of men.. all men but one. ~and thats my other sweetie.

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/9/2008 8:50:06 PM

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Everyone has something like that about them. I am terrified of heights and it can get to the point of a panic attack. I don't see it as a weakness at all. I have lots of other strengths and I just focus on those.

I used to have that fear.. but then I started diving off of tall piers... and then I bungee jumped. That fixed it. Now I do not fear heights.. and it gives me a thrill instead. I went from fearing it.. and hating roller coasters because of it to loving them.

Start out small.. and work your way up.. over years you can over come it. Remember it's not the fall but landing. *smiles*

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/9/2008 10:43:59 PM

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Yeah. A break down at a zoo would be bad. Because I'd just go into shock and sit there.

I was fine with spiders until I was 8. And learned that they jump. I just learned today that cockroaches fly!

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Like babies having hamster cheeks.

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/9/2008 10:57:21 PM

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Everyone has weak points or fears. As an example, I'm deathly afraid of grasshoppers. Odd, but normal in an aspect. I adore my Masters flaw, find them cute, endearing, etc. Its what we do and how we let our fears affect us that make us strong or weak.

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/10/2008 3:45:24 AM

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I just have to have 75% of the lights in the house on when home alone at night.

i am not going to judge as a weakness in Dom, but how big is your carbon emissions footprint?

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/10/2008 4:49:49 AM

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I stopped thinking ANYONE'S fears were amusing when I developed a mild fear/strong distaste for anything pink. I won't even eat strawberry ice cream anymore (unless it's the white kind with big chunks of strawberry). I'm also deathly afraid of mirrors if the lights are turned off, and I can't be indoors for more than a few moments if there is a power outage at night. Oh, and hornets... I've been known to soak even the dead empty nests in bug spray as soon as I find them.

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/10/2008 5:04:29 AM

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Okay I think I will end up with the unpopular opinion here and that is fine ... I would see it as weak on a whole but more so because they seem to be irratrional fears to me the bear at least and the weakness would come from not taking steps to learn to deal with them even if it took professional help.

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/10/2008 7:00:32 AM

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Fear of the dark is a phobia. Having a phobia isn't submissive. Phobias tend to be the body's reaction to, usually, childhood trauma so your fear/ reaction is a natural warning for your well being.

Phobias can be worked on, the memories released if you wish, EFT ( Emotional Freedom Technique ) and NLP, Hypnosis.....

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/10/2008 7:27:44 AM

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Dear WaratahBlossoms,

To overcome a fear of something you need to find the cause of it. I used to be afraid of the dark, which was something I never was as a child growing up. I only developed a fear for the dark when I left home to live by myself. Living in a new town, among strangers and an area that had a high crime rate and after someone attempted to break in, I became afraid. Leaving a light on somehow made me feel safer... it didn't, of course, and I was still afraid of what might be lurking in my wardrobe, etc... It became an irrational fear when I didn't even want to go into my own home at night b/c it would mean coming home to a dark house. I'm not sure what made me aware of it, I'm glad something did and I realised I needed to face my fears. It was hard initially, I didn't sleep much for almost three weeks but I forced myself NOT to have any lights on at night. Imagination is our own worst enemy at times, especially at night. After almost three weeks of refusing to indulge my fear I began to develop a different perspective. If someone was breaking into my home I had the advantage - I could see them (eye adjust to the dark), they couldn't me, and also didn't know the layout of my abode.

It is not a weakness to show that you are human. I sit and cry infront of my sub at sappy/moving old films. I'm not afraid to show how worried I am, and yes, even fearful at times. Two nights ago my sub was laughing hysterically at my having let out a blood-curdling scream at 1am - I was playing Oblivion - we were sitting with no lights on playing our individual games, mine had led me into the bowels of a castle to look for a body, I was surrounded by coffins and just as I achieved my goal I went to leave the area only for something to jump out at me - I screamed - LOUDLY.

My sub has broad shoulders, he understands and never thinks of me as weak. I guess the difference is that I have many more strengths than fallabilities.

Re-empower yourself. Take back what is rightfully yours. A fear was instilled in you, don't allow it to focus the rest of your life. Kick it out, it doesn't own you, you can disown it anytime you want. Remember that.

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/10/2008 1:07:59 PM

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My girl still laughs about me stalking through the house naked with my long sword in hand about to hack up intruders. At least I had enough presence of mind to toss on a robe when I went outside to circle the house and check for a lic. plate number.

Gwyn

LOL I love ya..at least I am not the only one who has at LEAST one sword in every room ( and a gun in da bedroom, but I always reach for the sword..hmm). I figure the person who breaks into my house is gonna have a BIG surprise, after he has tripped over the black and white cat, the 85 lb black chow cross, the 150 lb black and white akita, he is gonna be very unhappy to see the wild haired, nekkid woman taking a slice out of him with a long sword. Thats If Komodo (akita) has left anything for me to slice and dice, or Master hasn't woken up and shot him ( he reaches for the gun)

LOL that reminds me of my Guardian. i'm allowed to sleep only on one side of the bed cause he has his knife and MP stick on his side ready to attack anywho who is stupid enough to break into his place. he's also got a lot of PCV pipe around his place right now so while he distracts them with knife and arse kicking stick i'll just pipe 'em to death *evil grin*

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/10/2008 4:22:34 PM

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it depends ... are you a Weak Dominant? ... or a Dominant with weaknesses?

Handle is an interesting word ... manipulate is what instantly springs to mind for me .. i know myself .. i never said i was a good submissive ,.. if there is a weakness i know i would exploit it ... I would eat a weak Dominant for breakfast ...(try it girls ..very tasty with maple syrup) .... but a Dominant with weaknesses .. well that would depend. If they were the type that meant I had to be the strong one in the dynamic then yes it would be a problem for me, because I do not want to be the strong one ... being a strong person yes ... but not the mainstay.

I admire and desire strength and power .. it turns me on faster than anything else, men who radiate with power, authority and strength are an instant turn on for me even if they are arrogant, butt ugly and even if they like football! A man who radiates his faults and weaknesses .. and seeks assurance from me at every turn ... will never make me want him.

but this is just me, I am a little harder of heart than many,

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RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? - 2/13/2008 6:57:53 PM

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i dont think being afraid of the dark could be coupled with weakness, but i cannot take a dom who is physically weaker than I. I can sometimes be... welldefiant as most of us can be, and if they cannot handle that, i just dont think it would be pleasant for either of us

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