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SEX - 9/9/2005 4:12:32 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Well now that i got your attention here is my question on sex.

With my late Master my service was all service including sexual service. I was just wondering if any subs/slaves provide services without providing sexual service. I know there are some that do i was just wondering if their other duties are the same.

littleone
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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 4:33:23 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		I provide sexual service to the Owner through oral alone and he does not desire to use me in any other way sexually or to return any sexual pleasure.

The majority of my services are finding things when they need to be found, taking care of things when he leaves town, which is often, cleaning when I'm around and being a glue that fits in the rest of the relationship.

Interestingly enough, by not being the Owners primary, I am left open to things that I wouldn't be allowed otherwise. Since the Owner has other options, he is encouraging of me to move away to be with my boyfriend because he sees the long term benefits of that relationship moving to strengthen my service and self towards him, versus the short term of being able to clean kitty litter and take in the mail.

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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 4:57:21 PM   
JohnWarren


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From: Delray Beach, FL
Status: offline 		A lot depends on what you mean by sex. Almost all my scenes are sexually charged, but Libby and I reserve genital/genital sex for each other so one could say the people I play with, some of whom identify as slaves, don't do sex.



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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 5:54:56 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Funny how the word "sex" grabs my attention.

I personally could see no satisfaction in a D/s relationship without sex being an intregal part of it all. Is there something wrong with me?

Hi I'm Kevin and I'm a sexaholic......Welcome Kevin.

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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 6:49:40 PM   
denimknight


Posts: 38
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Status: offline 		I've provided sexual service only on a few very rare occasions. Truth be told it has been my observation that male dominants are FAR more likely to require sexual service than female dominants. This difference is one of the fundamental differences I've seen between the two. While a male dominant is (based upon what I've seen) commonly focused upon sexual service more than non sexual. As a result having served mainly female dominants I've had to adapt by learning a wide array of various services from cooking to massage. Perhaps the service I am called upon for most often is entrapment in the form of enjoyable conversation. I have made it a point to be able to carry on an enjoyable conversation about nearly any subject. This is something I would encourage any slave put in their service tool kit. There are few things more gratifying than when a dominant calls you up and invites you to join them for coffee someplace simply because they find your company to be highly enjoyable.

Respectfully Submitted
denimknight

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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 7:08:31 PM   
lonewolf05


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Status: offline 		if duties are the same?

i have no sex with Mistress.......i am celebate......since 2001...my duties,..are the entire house, yards, and pool.........from painting walls,,,ceilings,,,to general clean up household...

does this help?

wolf


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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 7:18:29 PM   
ProtagonistLily


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quote:

Well now that i got your attention here is my question on sex.

With my late Master my service was all service including sexual service. I was just wondering if any subs/slaves provide services without providing sexual service. I know there are some that do i was just wondering if their other duties are the same.

littleone


My interpretation of what you are talking about is apart from SM scenes, in the non-play service area. I'm not a sex free submissive zone, but I have friends who travel across country to serve men who they aren't sexual with at all.

I think it's interesting to talk to them about what motivates them to do this without any sexual gratification.

Lily

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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 7:28:20 PM   
Hallittlelolita


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Status: offline 		Well for me if my Master wants sex i'll give him sex but we aren't like rabbits or anything lol. Master usually gives me my daily chores and i am to complete them before he gets home and if he wants sex later on he will tell me. As a slave i cant ask for sex or i will get punished by getting none for a day or two. i have to be very good to get it.

Sincerely andie and her Master Hal

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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 7:30:43 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hallittlelolita

Well for me if my Master wants sex i'll give him sex but we aren't like rabbits or anything lol. Master usually gives me my daily chores and i am to complete them before he gets home and if he wants sex later on he will tell me. As a slave i cant ask for sex or i will get punished by getting none for a day or two. i have to be very good to get it.

Not a reply really, just a note that many slaves are expected to ask for what they want, including sex.

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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 9:54:58 PM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: denimknight

I've provided sexual service only on a few very rare occasions. Truth be told it has been my observation that male dominants are FAR more likely to require sexual service than female dominants. This difference is one of the fundamental differences I've seen between the two. While a male dominant is (based upon what I've seen) commonly focused upon sexual service more than non sexual. As a result having served mainly female dominants I've had to adapt by learning a wide array of various services from cooking to massage. Perhaps the service I am called upon for most often is entrapment in the form of enjoyable conversation. I have made it a point to be able to carry on an enjoyable conversation about nearly any subject. This is something I would encourage any slave put in their service tool kit. There are few things more gratifying than when a dominant calls you up and invites you to join them for coffee someplace simply because they find your company to be highly enjoyable.

Respectfully Submitted
denimknight




Wonderful post, denimknight. I must say, scrolling throught this thread your post caught my eye, and I clicked over to your profile. I know that generalizations are normally out of place, but I am stating the generalization of a lot(not ALL!!) of people your age are not nearly as articulate as you are. It is evident that a lot of thought went into the creation of your profile. Good luck in your search for varied experiences, I think that, even though it is the common perception that Dominas are few and far between, I imagine you will still manage to catch the eye of a few!!!

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RE: SEX - 9/9/2005 11:28:39 PM   
mystictryst


Posts: 125
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Status: offline 		I would not do all of this for nothing (not very subby of me I know), part of my satisfaction is very much sexual and I can't imagine serving someone without that "benefit". I like making him happy, but I like being happy too and the domestic chores just don't cut it (although his pride in me does help)...

I'm a sexaholic too, I guess. ;) I'm "frisky".


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RE: SEX - 9/10/2005 12:54:20 AM   
obis


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From: Austin, TX, USA
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Not a reply really, just a note that many slaves are expected to ask for what they want, including sex.


Indeed, that's one of the most enjoyable parts of training! You do not get anything you don't explicitly ask for, and of course the more I know she will enjoy it, the more explicit I require her to be in her request. Watching her face twist up in conflict as she tries to summon the will to say such things is all the reward I need to let her have her request. :)

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RE: SEX - 9/10/2005 8:49:55 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		i guess i have to learn to br more clear. When i said sexual service i meant intercourse. But i thank all for their responses.

littleone

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RE: SEX - 9/10/2005 9:20:54 AM   
WickedKev


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quote:

Hi I'm Kevin and I'm a sexaholic......Welcome Kevin.

Kevin smiles and knows he is in the right place



It's a Kevin sort of thing.

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RE: SEX - 9/10/2005 10:13:57 AM   
lonewolf05


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Status: offline 		and when i said i am celebate it meant i have not had intercourse since 2001.....


and i STILL do ONLY service. "I" ask for NOTHING in return....for reward relating TO/FROM/BECAUSE OF my service.
someone here mentioned doing it all for nothing..which "I" do...i have no greed or lust...i have NO ulterior motives........."I" do not sleep in HER bedroom,....."I" do not do anything sexual WITH Her....i give service..just to give service.

wolf



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RE: SEX - 9/12/2005 8:12:36 PM   
Hallittlelolita


Posts: 253
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Status: offline 		i'm sorry that is hilarious LOL
quote:

ORIGINAL: WickedKev

quote:

Hi I'm Kevin and I'm a sexaholic......Welcome Kevin.

Kevin smiles and knows he is in the right place



It's a Kevin sort of thing. Sincerely andie and her Master Hal


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RE: SEX - 9/12/2005 9:05:38 PM   
fastlane


Posts: 2159
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Status: offline 		Hey, now you got Kevin...atleast this one, into puppy play....Grrrrrr, Wicked Kev, you in?

Where's that pussy, when I need it most? Pet, you around?....Grrrrr

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RE: SEX - 9/13/2005 1:17:12 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

into puppy play....Grrrrrr


mmnnn puppy play mmnnn


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RE: SEX - 9/13/2005 5:01:34 AM   
fastlane


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

into puppy play....Grrrrrr


mmnnn puppy play mmnnn



quote:

mmnnn puppy play mmnnn




I wouldn't get too excited yet, this weekend you get your rabie shots!

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RE: SEX - 9/13/2005 5:40:22 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

I wouldn't get too excited yet, this weekend you get your rabie shots!


Ouchie!


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