Aswad -> RE: Socialism (2/15/2008 2:36:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord Actually, my apologies. Apology accepted. We're cool. quote:
I still feel like people should've been able to understand. Could've and should've, though, are different, and I suppose I didn't to appreciate that. Reality is a harsh mistress. A certain balance must be struck between defiance and submission, or the options will be narrowed to surrender and defeat. quote:
This whole thread, in the way it's gone, irks me. There's a rule of thumb that applies in some schools of software engineering thought: build one to throw away. An expression that is also applicable here is to "stop throwing good money after bad money." In short, cut your losses and start a new thread with a better OP. quote:
I really don't think I was that difficult to understand if people honestly tried to get what I meant. It wasn't. If you haven't googled "affective threshold" yet, this is the time to do it. Even if people applied Aswad's Razor (which Aswad himself often fails to), you'd still snag on affective threshold. That is why I usually try (although I have admittedly expended slightly less effort in that direction lately, for personal reasons) to keep a tone that presents the material factually and divorced from emotion, while attempting to address potential misunderstandings up front and attempting to build a context and a clear premise when I think that is necessary to get a reasonable replies. I decided early on that I would rather expend ten times the effort up front, than expend a hundred times the effort in steady downpayments as a thread grows. That is similar to engineering, where there is a significant multiplier between the stages when it comes to catching and correcting errors: idea » requirement spec » design » review » refinement » plan » review » refinement » scaffolding » prototype » review » scaffolding » production model » fine tuning » final QA » launch » update » maintenance. Now, clearly, a vent needn't go through such a process; it's not worth the investment, in and of itself. But the results still depend on spending enough effort in the right places. If the world is to learn anything, ever, it must learn this: Quality is a habit. quote:
They could've matched up what I was saying to the closest good idea to understand; hell, they could've told me what words may've better expressed myself if they honestly wanted to help communication. But it's degraded quite a bit despite the true possibility for a better view. Where slack is perceived, it is either tolerated, or taken up by the one perceiving it. I often tolerate slack, as I've no desire to become the next Noam Chomsky, which is the inevitable result of not picking one's battles. quote:
And, I mean, I even saw that this could happen, so I buffered the thing with disclaimers both before and after citing my own views as the consquence of irrational thought. Good enough. [;)] Anyway, it served its purpose for me, but I probably wasn't the primary target audience. If you always try to be the neutral third party in your own threads, ignore ad hominem attacks, and maintain a result centric mindset while attempting to communicate clearly and factually (which includes bearing in mind the distance between your thoughts and those of the recipients, as well as their affective thresholds), you will probably find that the impression people have gotten of you (which is a definite factor in affective thresholds and goodwill in interpreting what is said) will slowly improve, along with the quality of the discourse that follows a post you make. Not trying to be harsh here or anything; I did far worse in this department myself before I met my girl. But some constructive criticism of your strategy is in order, based on the results. This was mine, and it was aimed at improving the situation. Health, al-Aswad.
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