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AquaticSub -> RE: Qualities of a Master/Dom (2/10/2008 7:57:01 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Sub0liminal1
First let me say thank you for all of your input thus far it is genuinely appreciated.
I also see the need to be clear. I am not looking for a cash cow or some rich and prestige lifestyle. I am a single mother of three children. I work to support all of us. I work hard infact doing whatever it takes to pay the rent and all other expenses. I would say that the man I look to - to be my leader, to depend upon, to fill the need I have to be dominated must have his poop in group. If I can have mine together give my life situation then I would expect him to have his in order. He is not recovering from Divorce, he has no over the top expenses. If you are not incharge of your own life, and be responsible for your own well being how can you be a leader to another, and be responsible for another person's well being?
Many I have found look to this lifestyle as just about SEX and playing scenes. I seek the real life lifestyle, the day to day. I seek the male that not only I can respect but that I can trust can handle his own survival.
Seeking sex is a valid choice. You don't have to want serious relationships to be involved in BDSM, live a "BDSM lifestyle" or be a "true dominant". They just want something different than you.
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I am speaking of a Master, Dom, who has a job and infact makes a good living, however cannot seem to manage his money or his affairs. Who seems to be an impulsive buyer and has no restraint or maturity where money is involved. So much He living conditions are not of an independant nature. Therefore given that I have children, the ability to actually live as Master and sub is more than difficult.
Sounds like you just want a man who is good with money. Not a dominant exclusive quality - like pretty much anything else, some dominants are great with money, others are rotten.
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Perhaps I do ask for too much. Perhaps I view the man I look to lead me and for me to submit mind body and soul to; to be in at least at my level in many things not simply financially. It is the early stages of this dance and all exploratory, where you feel each other out, learn about each other. Yes there are many things I like, yes there is chemistry but the things that I thought should be a foundation or a given seem to be scued.
If you want someone who will lead you, that's your approach to BDSM relationships. It's not the one my owner and I follow, but many others do. Just understand that it doesn't interest everyone, nor all dominants/masters.
I also really agree with LadyLolly - coming into your situation is hard on any man, dominant or otherwise. While I don't think you should lower your standards, someone doesn't need to be perfect to be the best fit.
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