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JohninNY -> Tasks (9/10/2005 7:10:22 PM)
Hello I am taking on a new sub. One of the things we enjoy is I assign her tasks for the day. After a few weeks, however, I am running low on ideas. I came here to ask what tasks have you assigned or what tasks have you been assigned. I am working on keeping that spark alive and fun for us both. Thank you in advance. John

Focus50 -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 7:40:33 PM)
Yep, that's inevitable if you're doing it as a means of fascillitating role play rather than an actual need for specific tasks to be performed. It's like making up rules with no greater purpose other than to have rules.... It works best if rules or tasks etc are practical and have a meaning beyond role play. Mind you, you can still have rules simply because it's what you want, I certainly do.... Keep it simple! If you really have a task or two you want her/him to do, then concentrate on making sure they're done to your satisfaction. You'll get a lot more respect for consistancy than you will for an endless and ultimately fruitless search for variety. If you feel you need to keep thinking up fresh ideas for their own sake, BDSM is gonna become really tiresome, really quick for you! Suddenly you become slave to the same tasks, too....! Focus50.

JohnWarren -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 7:48:46 PM)
Rio took a pedicure course so she could better do Libby's feet and nails. I like to let her shampoo my hair and then bath me with a loofa sponge and nice abrasive soap. She even warms the towel in the microwave so it's toasty warm when she dries me off. This is followed by a sixty minute massage with warm scented oil and finished up by "a trip around the world" after which I usually curl up and nap for a bit. When Smiler is staying with us, she awakens Libby with a foot massage followed by oral sex. Usually she prepares breakfast just before she comes in so after the sex, she brings in the trays and serves us breakfast in bed. To me, "tasks" should be useful and bring either Libby or me pleasure.

lonewolf05 -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 9:16:53 PM)
running out of ideas? is this r/t or o/l? r/t --so many things to do.... o/l,....can be tricky...yes. how about a self made essay on what this person looks at in 5 yrs/ 10 yrs/ long range goals..outside of lifestyle... and/or anything thereof and herein? wolf

KittenWithaTwist -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 9:26:04 PM)
Give her tasks to do that need to be done, whether or not she lives with you or if you see her. Make the bed when you wake up. Don't hit the snooze button. Shower with a particularly scented soap or shampoo that you enjoy. Shave her legs/genitals/armpits/arms every other day. Eat a certain amount of calories/grams of fat/ounces of food/water per day. Wash/wax/polish the floors/tables/cabinets/countertops/stove/fridge by hand/with a toothbrush. If she is more of a sexual submissive, try: Bringing herself to the point of orgasm (without releasing) once a day. Teaching herself to tie knots (great for bondage play). Practice a different type of masturbation each day for two weeks and write about it in a journal. Write a journal about fantasies, one entry, specific word count, per day. Etc. Etc. Etc.

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 10:04:55 PM)
I like the practical things, clean the house, organize the CD collection, read some new books on a topic, organize and weed through wardrobe, there's always ways to add or change an exercise routine. If you keep pushing for more things to do that aren't natural and useful in life, you will both get tired of it. Everyone enjoys the occasional "only eat mushrooms on Tuesdays" or whatever irrational weird fun cute idea you can think of, but that doesn't work in real life long term.

PassionsHarmony -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 11:02:00 PM)
Tasks to me as well should be useful. They can be things to prepare for full time service. Cleaning schedule... ie.. floors done on x day, bathroom done a certain way. Laundry sorted and done on certain days. Clothing ironed and put away right after being finished. Meals to be prepared and eaten at a certain time. If you require your submissive to kneel before the bed and ask for permission to join you, perhaps have her kneel before her own bed for a set time and think about the day past before getting in bed as to prepare her for the time when she will do so with you. Have her learn to make favorite meals that you enjoy. There are many things you can do that are task oriented that will make life more enjoyable for when you are together full time. The bathing ideas and such are also nice. Perhaps you have a way you prefer a sub to prepare for session or an evening out. Nothing says she cannot practice that prior. Harmony

JohninNY -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 11:16:39 PM)
Thank you. I was hoping for more sexual, playful things a female with three children could do in real life.

PassionsHarmony -> RE: Tasks (9/10/2005 11:32:19 PM)
Ahh well now tasks is broad and that was not clear as I think you saw from most of those that answered. Perhaps wearing a butt plug varying size as you can for a set time or to a store ect. Having her use a vibrating egg and having it turned on at certain speeds and intervals without allowing her to cum, but to maintain a heightened awareness. Choosing the method of her self pleasure, time and whether she can cum. Have her find perhaps stories on a site that speak to her own needs and sharing them with you. Have her write why it does, what she liked or didn't like about the story. Is much harder to give ideas for sexual things because so much is individual on what pleases. Harmony

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Tasks (9/11/2005 9:31:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JohninNY Thank you. I was hoping for more sexual, playful things a female with three children could do in real life. No wonder you're running out of ideas. I'd suggest having her practice her kegel and gag reflex exercises...but that's not really "fun."

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