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LadyHugs -> RE: Be True to Thyself (2/12/2008 1:03:04 PM)
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Dear Rorec, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Rorec, in seeing your profile, you are a very young man at age 19. As a Dominant myself and in my 50's; I can honestly say--that what measures/standards used in my youth is not the same as in my ancient state and or judgment.
I personally feel, opinions if you will -- Sadism is a very broad term and can mean so very much and so very different to many. Perhaps, what you 'judge' as Sadism is mild in more experienced hands and or judgment. Both are very correct/valid; given the measure of your personal and individualistic journey. What the key is--not looking to a forum but, look to those who are real, who press hands into yours. Words will fail to put into communications as to what you 'feel'/'experience' what and is--being true to yourself. Only 'you' know the truth, to include why you are into BDSM, M/s, D/s and or S&M.
Given the fact that some may consider some bad jokes are torture and or sadistic, tickling, annoying and or to the extreme on the other side, such as blood play, hanging by modified 'fish hooks' and suspended from the skin, body modification--mutilation to some--well; you will hopefully define what 'is' the measures of what is mild, middle and or extreme; as far as sadism goes. Though most of the afore has been physical--it bears repeating and underscore the importance of all Dominants have to be responsible for their own behaviors, actions/deeds, attitudes and spirit of intentions in this area--It is the wounds, the pain, the breaking, the injury that never really heals that are connected to the mental, the reasoning, the emotions, the spirit and or will, the desires, the hope, the trust--are what, in my opinion--subjected to the most abuse, the most sadistic attacks.
In addition, I will say that the flogger, the cane, the paddles and such--are not the real problem. It is the person who holds it. Ignorant of the power of innocent looking devices, such as a cane and or anything else--can/may/will/could harm another. So, because what we (in general terms) come to enjoy--it also comes with sincere respect for the power of these extentions to our hands and our pleasures. Learning your tools and become extremely dedicated to the art, skill and management of things, like floggers, paddles, single tails, canes and more--is extremely important, in my opinion.
What is 'real' and or 'pleasure' as far as my slave(s) go; it goes into the same 'trap' if you will; as to who has the right/authority as to determine what 'is' real or not, as well as it deals with 'pleasure.' I do have my personal views and opinions--often I express them. But, that said; I really am of the hope that you will come to these on your own through real time interactions and begin filling your 'knowledge' basket as to draw on it--and not living through other's experiences. Maturing as I have--it takes time to learn how to learn; to be patient, to pick up on the bits of details. Life's lessons never end.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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