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cuckhold - 2/12/2008 4:29:12 PM

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What do you expect from a cuck?

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RE: cuckhold - 2/12/2008 7:40:14 PM

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I expect him to be utterly devoted to me, monogamous, and to assist in finding men to pleasure me -

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RE: cuckhold - 2/13/2008 8:40:13 AM

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and assist in any way when You are with Your lover? possibly as a fluffer or clean-up boy?

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RE: cuckhold - 2/16/2008 8:45:36 AM

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If you scroll on down to the bottem of "ask a mistress", right below the reply box, there is a search box, with search term inside it. Type cuckold in it and you will get previous post on cuckolding. Very detailed info.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/16/2008 9:30:48 AM

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What do you expect from a cuck?

To sit, watch, and suffer. Emotionally and psychologically.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/16/2008 12:01:51 PM

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1 Informed consent by all three players - cuck, stud and female - for emotionally mature, sane reasons.

2 Certainty the scene will be good for our primary relationship and good for me (emotionally and spiritually).

Some cuck's desire to be cockolded is driven by deep unspoken hatred or fear of women. Some do not respect the woman and/or the stud. They have to have sex while the cuck watches to fulfil his voyeuristic fantasy. So there is endless debate who really controls who in cuckoldry scenes

But I have met a few seemingly happy couples that do it. Good luck.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/16/2008 7:35:53 PM

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Um, I guess I can offer some sort of perspective in that I do take part in a pseudo-cuckolding, I guess you could say. Personally, I really don't understand why a person would want to be cuckolded...but I can sort of see the masochistic side of it. My Owner does have another pet, Angel, who does not serve her sexually, and basically he's cuckolded. We've never met, he never watches or anything, but he knows that it goes on and he gets a thrill from it. It took me a little bit to understand that he really wanted it and it wasn't something that actually hurt him at all. If it did, then I would personally feel pretty terrible and I have no doubt my Owner would too. If the person being cuckolded was truly suffering from it and not enjoying it, then I really wouldn't see a logical purpose to it.

It is kind of different knowing that you play a role in somebody else's fantasy, though.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/19/2008 7:25:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

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What do you expect from a cuck?

To sit, watch, and suffer. Emotionally and psychologically.

Uhhhhhmmmmm.....yeah....that works :)

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RE: cuckhold - 2/20/2008 4:51:12 AM

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Remember the famous words of Richard Millhouse Nixon who proclaimed.."I am not a cuck"!!

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RE: cuckhold - 2/20/2008 5:30:55 AM

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Should cucks wear chastity devices?

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RE: cuckhold - 2/20/2008 2:33:36 PM

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Greetings folks. as a learning submissive i would love to touch and explore all aspects and areas of BD&SM. This particular aspect has had me intrigued.. Mean while sex with the Dominant partner can make one feel good it may tarnish the need for a sub to experience denial and the fact that his Superior is so much higher then him that his not allowed to experience Her in that way. On the other hand yes inside the denied submissive will be experiencing great emotional and psychological distress for this type of treatment that he receives.. But he gains in the sector that he may have the opportunity of observing his Dominant from a very different point of view. One that he can really has a need to feel as low and privileged as he really needs to feel. The role is very exciting and certainly intrigues me but i dont like to be treated this way.. i can certainly have a very good understanding of it as Shwaun said..

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RE: cuckhold - 2/20/2008 2:56:02 PM

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What do you expect from a cuck?

That he drools over the bull's cock more than me.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/20/2008 6:54:35 PM

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What do you expect from a cuck?

That he drools over the bull's cock more than me.

omg..*eyes popping out my head reading that*

in my deepest thoughts of thoughts, that would be something that commands to do so, and whispers of things in hear could cause i would thing. would have to be very exciting to Her of course. that being the key to the whole thing

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RE: cuckhold - 2/21/2008 6:54:48 AM

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I am a cuckold, but not gay or bi. I don't drool over any cocks.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/21/2008 7:08:13 AM

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In a sense isin't cuckholding a form of denial. Other forms of denial can come from,
being bound and not touching your Mistress
being told that there is never sex with a slave
being femmed so your never seen as a male
or other denial events in the vanilla life
being married and not being even considered by the hot girl at the bar
feeling your age makes you unconsiderable for others to think of you for a relationships
Not being considered for job advancement becasue they wont consider you
Dieting
giving up smoking
giving up pain killers

I mean there is somethign to be said about controlling the emotional aspects of someone specially when they seek it. Sex is easy to get for most ...but does it really satisfy a person who really doesnot connect to the person in the first place. Someone who you have a level of attachment to (I believe) makes it more itnense, more enduring, and last so much longer afterwards.. Yet sadly most won't let that attachment grow .It does not usually happen the first time you meet. But with a lot of trust , it can be wounderful for those who enjoy this level of intense denial as more of a pleasure than pain

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RE: cuckhold - 2/21/2008 7:28:34 AM

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Cuckholding is about the denial of the cuck...not about fulfilling some deep bi-sexual fantasy...which I think is what most guys think about...(Kal I know better with you lol) it's a way for them to work out their own repressed sexual feelings and not take responsibility for them. However, given the nature of things and society some guys are bound to twist it.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/21/2008 3:18:49 PM

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If it was only about denial, why does the cuck's have to watch? Clean up? Fluff?

It is an act of group sex (usually with one woman and two males), but only two have pentrative sex while the third is a willing voyeur.

When I had a non-sexual slave, non-sexual TV maid and a yummy boyfriend, the slave and maid would get quite sad when I left home and went out to have sex.

Some might say they were "cuckholded", but I never got my jollies making either of them watch us bonking, so I don't think denial alone is the whole kink.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/21/2008 4:57:49 PM

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If it was only about denial, why does the cuck's have to watch? Clean up? Fluff?

It is an act of group sex (usually with one woman and two males), but only two have pentrative sex while the third is a willing voyeur.

When I had a non-sexual slave, non-sexual TV maid and a yummy boyfriend, the slave and maid would get quite sad when I left home and went out to have sex.

Some might say they were "cuckholded", but I never got my jollies making either of them watch us bonking, so I don't think denial alone is the whole kink.

I think that's an oversimplification (but I liked your reasoning in the first post).

There can be a few motivations behind cuckholding. The one unifying one is the strong "reaction" provoked from the spectatorship of the female engaging with another before the cuck. What that reaction is, however, varies completely with the people involved.

- The cuck can be utterly devoted to his partner, and seeing her fulfillment pleases him to no end.
- The cuck can (as you pointed out) hate her or women in some way and seeing her defiled gratifies him deeply
- The cuck can have his own self-loathing issues, and is gratified from the shame
- Fill in the blanks as you see fit then you can also mix and match 1-3 of them

Thus, the "servicing" the bull can be a gratifying/humiliating experience that amplifies the dynamic, it could be the hidden motivation for engaging in the act in the first place, or it could be a fatal mis step that lands in blows, depending on the people involved and their motivations. I think the simplest things in our lives such as impact play with a couple of partners over the years truly illustrates how we all can be into the same thing but for completely different reasons.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/21/2008 7:20:28 PM

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Which neatly brings us full circle to zariah's question "what do you expect from the cuck"?

Depends why he is doing it, why you are doing it and why the bull is doing it.

Hopefully everyone is on the same page so it works out well.

Its funny you should mention cuckolding that ends in blows. Years ago I was talked into a cuckolding scene. This guy wanted his pretty little wife to have sex with another couple while he watched as his 10th wedding anniversay "gift" to her. She seemed keen. Sounds kosher, right?

However, when the show got on the road and the wife was actually having a great time, the cuck got jealous! He tried to join in and got firmly shoved back in his chair. Swinging wasn't the deal. He then totally blew a fuse and threatened violence. I had to run out of that hotel room so fast, my gorgeous shoes got left behind

Goodness knows, I have done some super stupid things in my life, but I guess I learned a valuable lesson: IME, cucks ought to be careful what they wish for. Real life is horribly real compared to those naughty fantasies. And the other players should be very wary of the cuck's real motivation.

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RE: cuckhold - 2/21/2008 7:26:10 PM

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".... cucks ought to be careful what they wish for. Real life is horribly real compared to those naughty fantasies. And the other players should be very wary of the cuck's real motivation......"