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cinn -> Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 5:14:04 PM)

This is always a tough one - Winter isn't the most uplifting time of year.

For me, at least in the past, 14/2 has always been a fairly sigh-inducing day. Generally I avoid going out unless I have to as there are couples everywhere being all 'smoochy and gross'. Don't get me wrong - I'm very romantic, but being out and about on Valentine's day is like a kind of emotional, romantic water-boarding, which I'd rather not endure. Not to mention seeing other people kissing is embarrassing, for some reason ;)
I also dislike the sudden outbreak of sugary niceness - to me it's more ersatz romance than actual romance. It's sometimes as if just the mere fact that it is Valentines day makes everything better, even among what appear from outside to be the most tempestuous relationships; and why? Because of an oversized card, a bunch of overpriced roses, a box of chocolates? I'm not offended by it, or accusing people of being shallow: it's nice that people take the time to show their affection, but there are 364.25 other days in the year, you know?
I'm not bitter, it just makes me realise what I don't have, I suppose.

-x-

This year was a little different, I sent someone a message for ... *thinks*... yes, the first time. Not a BDSMer but still, someone I admire somewhat hopelessly from a distance. I think they know kind of how I feel, but if they didn't they should get a hint now: it wasn't anonymous or anything along those lines - straight to their inbox. It really wasn't much. I know this person isn't into the whole overblown romantic gestures thing and thinks of me as a friend, so I merely wished her have a nice Valentine's day.

It's surprising how much better something that simple makes me feel about what is essentially no more than the four digits indicated on my calendar: 14/02.
I really suggest it, if like me you find yourself thinking "here I go again", do something about it. I'm the shyest guy in the world, and I just did it. :D

Anyone else out there?
Try and have a Happy St. Valentine's Day, fellow singles!




slaveboyforyou -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 6:02:29 PM)

I am single, and I love it.  I find nothing difficult about it.  Valentine's Day is great.  It's the day you get to prey on all those lonely single gals out there LOL.  I say to hell with melancholy and bring on the joy.  I have a huge world filled with all sorts of possiblilities, and I love every minute of the chase.  I don't apologize for being single.  It's great, and I don't feel any less fulfilled than my compatriots who are in love.  I want to be in love, but I will enjoy the hunt until I finally find that treasure.



Griswold -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 6:19:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

I am single, and I love it.  I find nothing difficult about it.  


Ditto.



Lumus -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 6:44:25 PM)

Single?  No.

Alone?  Yes.

Happy about it?

...

HELL NO.




Griswold -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 6:55:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lumus

Single?  No.

Alone?  Yes.

Happy about it?

...

HELL NO.




THAT has got to entirely suck.



angelic -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:09:16 PM)

Luckily not this year, but in recent past years (like the past 6), i was not single and spent every freaking VD alone.  i was mostly completely ignored on VD.  I grew to hate this day, actually. 

However, this year i am single and actually quite happy about it! My two sons are my Valentines.  Another wonderful thing about this year, i will not spend it crying.  (And i have saved a ton of money!) [8D][sm=mrpuffy.gif]



Aneirin -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:11:10 PM)

Oh yes, Valentine's day tommorrow, that I had happily forgot about until now.



hermione83 -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:14:38 PM)

Single and alone and cooped up in my apartment and lonely / not happy =\



winterlight -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:23:29 PM)

Another year single<

Let's see how do i add it from the age of say 15? It is just another card created Holiday? It would mean more to me to get flowers for no reason than Valentine's Day.
I might wear red but that is it.

I will stay home as it's too painful to see others happy. I am happy that they are happy. It just gets to you when u see it on a certain day of the year. I hope i don't sound
selfish. I am glad for ppl.

 I would love to see more love for others by volunteering etc. That people would treat everybody special every day of the year. It would be nice. Is it plausible no..Too many grumpy people out there! LOL



chickpea -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:42:01 PM)

This topic sound depressing and maybe it shouldn't be necessarily... because things could be worse  



Aneirin -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:49:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: chickpea

This topic sound depressing and maybe it shouldn't be necessarily... because things could be worse  


Yeah, you could be in an unloving destructive relationship where the dream of being single gets ever more real as each rock is hit.



popeye1250 -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:51:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

I am single, and I love it.  I find nothing difficult about it.  Valentine's Day is great.  It's the day you get to prey on all those lonely single gals out there LOL.  I say to hell with melancholy and bring on the joy.  I have a huge world filled with all sorts of possiblilities, and I love every minute of the chase.  I don't apologize for being single.  It's great, and I don't feel any less fulfilled than my compatriots who are in love.  I want to be in love, but I will enjoy the hunt until I finally find that treasure.


Me too.
No pushing and shoving Ladies![:D]



Leatherist -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:53:50 PM)

I worry about being together with an asshat, more than I do being happy alone.

A holiday only has the meaning you allow it to.



Hippiekinkster -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 7:57:50 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hermione83

Single and alone and cooped up in my apartment and lonely / not happy =\

I have a house rather than an apartment, but same deal otherwise. I'm completely burnt out on trying to find someone. I don't have a shopping list, I have parameters. Seems like too many have checklists they go through looking for someone. "Oh, he's 5'11.5" and I want 6'. No good." Fuck, let them stay alone. I know someone will turn up, always does. I just don't like the wait.
Ich bin kein jünger geworden. 



babygirlblue -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 8:00:02 PM)

I don't think of Valentine's Day as being difficult when alone. I have only wished it wasn't so commercial and used by shops and stores to make so much money. I like it when it's simple and quiet between those you care about. I have never needed fancy things or expensive things. I enjoy it more when it's from the person's heart even if it's hand made by them. Now, don't get me wrong I'm single this year and I went out and bought myself a box of chocolates just because I loved the heart shaped tin. I couldn't care less about the chocolates never really liked all that good they stuffed them with. I embrace the day with joy and happiness.

I actually love seeing people hold hands, kissing and hugging I think more people should be that way. Never be embarrassed showing affection do it with every ouch of love inside you.



Aneirin -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 8:05:23 PM)

Anyways, what is Valentines day other than yet another commercial enterprise.Maybe it had a good meaning once, but that is now as it seems lost or buried under layers of furry handcuffs and faux fur.

(Hey, just a minute here, the sale of masks and handcuffs, albeit of the furry safe kind, is that not just a permission to be kinky for a day and what of the mind set of the giver of such items saying, a bit of naughty fun or hoping partner picks up on kinky desires)

Why does someone have to wait until an official day once a year to be told they are loved by someone.

I will forego the special days if I knew I was loved by someone.



Gwynvyd -> RE: Single on St. Valentine's Day (2/13/2008 9:33:57 PM)

*Hugs to all the single peeps on this Early Valentines Day*

I am not single but I agree it has become very commercial. Personaly I enjoy doing the small things for my loves all year. The line from the movie "The Crow" Nothing is Trivial. Is so true.

Never settle..

Decorate and tend to your own garden instead of waiting for someone else to bring you flowers... You will be amazed at the differance it makes. Become Mr. or Miss Right to find your Mr. or Miss Right. and have a blast in the mean time.

http://positivepause.com/index.html

Gwyn



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