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Need Profile Input.. Among Other things. - 2/13/2008 10:55:17 PM

newlychaste

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I feel as though my profile is essentially self-explanatory; however, I am concerned that the intent and tone will be misconstrued. As my profile is representative--as representative as a profile can be, anyway--of my personality, is my personality worth working with?

Any constructive feedback is greatly appreciated.

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RE: Need Profile Input.. Among Other things. - 2/14/2008 6:05:27 AM

ProlificNeeds

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I am able to sense the dynamics of the relationships in which I become involved and, in a d/s dynamic, either become quickly bored and/or dissatisfied with and by the quality of a Domme's will and input."

Is this suppose to be a challange to someone? Maybe it's honest but that's quite the put-off. Why should someone invest interest in a sub who quickly becomes bored and possibly contemptuous of them?

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" The latter makes submission difficult for me because I need a lot of attention--or perhaps I just need a higher quality of attention--to feel appreciated; treasured. "

Again a big trouble sign at first read. Are you trying to say you'll be needy and demand attention? I doubt it, try rewording this to something more like: "I enjoy frequent time spent together, and doubt any sort of 'casual' arrangements would be satisfying to me."

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" - tenacious and intuitive. Relationships are defined by conflict. The wisdom to minimalize and the strength to quell even the most difficult conflicts are qualities I demand of a partner. Yes. Demand. "

If your type of relationship is defined by conflict, I would expect drama. I much prefere relationships that are defined by communication and progression towards common goals. If it's a constant 'battle' I'm sure many people would grow tired pretty quickly. To me, this line reads trouble, the strength to quell even really rough fights? If you want a loving relationship, a valid and difficult arguement should be talked through, not whipped down.

The general tone is quite 'self assured' you certainly don't lack in confidence. I would probably expect to see more about you, the person; not you, the kink miester. Outlining what you like and what you're looking for is good, but if you're looking for a close working and personal relationship 1 on 1, you'll want to attract the woman first, and the domme will follow.
Try to put your best foot forward in regards to politeness, tactfulness, and an easy going nature. You'll strike up more conversations with a good sense of humor and practicality than with discussion of your list of demands for quality so you don't get bored.

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RE: Need Profile Input.. Among Other things. - 2/14/2008 6:49:22 AM

chamberqueen

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I have done an edit that I think will make others more appreciative. Please see below and feel free to take or leave any of the suggestions. (I have helped many with their profiles.)

I've been in and out of the BDSM "scene" throughout the years, due in part to moving from place to place, and the nature of my partners: while I identify as a submissive with heavy slave tendencies, I consider the entirety of my partner's personality when deciding whom to spend my time with.
(Remove the second paragraph. Bragging about your intelligence is not a good way to come across.)

My ideal partner will be someone I'd be proud to introduce as my "girlfriend" to the conservative, midwestern, traditional side of my family, as well as my "Owner" to the more liberal side. While I'm openminded enough not to narrow my search for the perfect partner based on my idea of such, it doesn't hurt to clearly express the idea. I'd like my partner to be:

- near my age, if not a little older.
- passionate about something. (You don't need to give examples)
- tenacious and intuitive.
- attractive, and attracted to me.
- kinky.
- financially stable.
- irreverent.

I am:
- open to open relationships, but would prefer a strong relationship already exist between my partner and I before the concept is discussed and/or put into practice.
- an archetypal Pisces.
- bisexual, but practically straight.
- STD-free.
- a fair-weather hobbyist.
- good with building, fixing, and creating. I build my home furniture, fix my own computers, etc.
- kinky.
- And these are only the tip of the iceberg. I have many layers, interests, and unique values.

Go with the idea that less is more. You don't need to explain every statement. Some of what was originally there was pretty grandiose - not sublike at all. Save that for personal conversations.

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