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Saltwatergirl -> Training a new slave (2/14/2008 8:04:29 AM)
Woo hoo! I am finally training my first slave. Any tips/pointers that anyone might have would be very much appreciated! Thanks!

lilabbotsfordgrl -> RE: Training a new slave (2/14/2008 8:09:13 AM)
Well, from your profile, it seems you have most of the bases already covered! :) "I am VERY attractive and outgoing domme femme... Your lifetime goal is to have found me and to do everything within your power to please me and make me happy. My expectations are high and must be consistantly met otherwise punishment is the only option. The only thing you have to offer is to make everything better and easier for me." Enjoy!

thetammyjo -> RE: Training a new slave (2/14/2008 10:06:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Saltwatergirl Woo hoo! I am finally training my first slave. Any tips/pointers that anyone might have would be very much appreciated! Thanks! Slow and steady. Build up bit by bit. Constant feedback -- consider that praise may work wonders where punishment only re-enforces failure and negative thoughts. Make these two forms of feedback clearly different from each other. Work backwards -- have your end goal in mind and figure out how to get there bit by bit. Never have more rules and rituals than you can easily list off and enforce without them interfering in the necessary matters of life. Take responsibility -- explain and demonstrate what you want, repeat, practice, praise. Build in a routine to re-evaluate the slave, yourself and each other regularly especially in the first year. Do this outside of a DS dynamic and be as objective and honest as you can. Remember nothing is forever. Better to find a good positive match than simply a match. Don't be afraid or ashamed of saying "This isn't working" if it isn't for one or both of you.

AAkasha -> RE: Training a new slave (2/14/2008 10:26:38 AM)
When he does something that turns you on, tell him. Graphically. Or show him. Submissives are motivated by the rewards of pleasing you. Make it crystal clear for him. Akasha

MistressFaye1 -> RE: Training a new slave (2/14/2008 6:11:40 PM)
Congrats! Get to know his mindset, how he thinks, what his values are in both worlds. Some may say it shouldn't matter but knowing this will aid you in choosing behavior modification techniques. What may work for one, may not work for another. Always remember to communicate...communicate...communicate. Be patient with yourself and him. Have fun exploring and discovering more about yourself and him. Stay in touch with the wonderul ladies on the site or another Domme as a mentor. Faye

PsyVamp -> RE: Training a new slave (2/14/2008 6:24:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo quote: ORIGINAL: Saltwatergirl Woo hoo! I am finally training my first slave. Any tips/pointers that anyone might have would be very much appreciated! Thanks! Slow and steady. Build up bit by bit. Constant feedback -- consider that praise may work wonders where punishment only re-enforces failure and negative thoughts. Make these two forms of feedback clearly different from each other. Work backwards -- have your end goal in mind and figure out how to get there bit by bit. Never have more rules and rituals than you can easily list off and enforce without them interfering in the necessary matters of life. Take responsibility -- explain and demonstrate what you want, repeat, practice, praise. Build in a routine to re-evaluate the slave, yourself and each other regularly especially in the first year. Do this outside of a DS dynamic and be as objective and honest as you can. Remember nothing is forever. Better to find a good positive match than simply a match. Don't be afraid or ashamed of saying "This isn't working" if it isn't for one or both of you. What she said [:D] Seriously? Don't forget the details. If you are talking service related, don't only tell the slave "to" do it, tell the slave "how" to do it. Where are the tools located needed to do the task, do you have a particular style in mind? How clean is clean? Don't set anyone up for failure, as was mentioned, positive reinforcement works much better than negative. Do you want the slave to please you because you are worth it or because he is afraid of you? Lady Jag

LadyHathor -> RE: Training a new slave (2/14/2008 6:49:58 PM)
*Commitment, structure, routine, patience and accurate direction and reinforcement.* *Praise, communication, honesty.*

chezzy52 -> RE: Training a new slave (2/15/2008 1:56:25 AM)
Respect and treat him like he would most certainly respect and treat you.Avery wise Lady here once told me you get out of it only what you put into it.If you stribe and work hard for him he will return it tenfold if he is of the right mindset.Apparently,he is.Best of Luck.

Shawn1066 -> RE: Training a new slave (2/15/2008 10:00:47 AM)
Don't scare him off. Take things one step at a time. DV's Fox

lateralist1 -> RE: Training a new slave (2/15/2008 10:22:10 AM)
Depends how a slave is motivated. Lots of slaves seem to be motivated by physical discipline. That makes them not right for me. However to take him on you must have decided he could be right for you. All I would say is good luck and if it doesn't work out don't get too despondent.

MmeGigs -> RE: Training a new slave (2/15/2008 1:05:17 PM)
In addition to the good advice that has already been offered, I would suggest that you think carefully about what you want from him and don't make rules or assign tasks that you don't care about. Consistency and follow-up are important in training. If I insist that he, say, gets on his knees and asks permission every time he wants to enter the house, but don't really care whether he does it or not and don't get after him when he doesn't, I'm undermining my efforts on things that are important to me.

DevilishEnvy -> RE: Training a new slave (3/2/2011 4:55:26 PM)
It is always a good idea to sit down and discuss and make lists of limits and the slave's commitment to you and yours to him. It makes it easier to learn how to be the Mistress/Master that he needs and desires. Don't be afraid to laugh and have fun, too. Trust comes easier with all aspects and trust is essential in this type of relationship. Have fun!

FukinTroll -> RE: Training a new slave (3/2/2011 4:59:31 PM)
WTF? 21! Where in tha hell are you?

VideoAdminRho -> RE: Training a new slave (3/2/2011 5:20:12 PM)
Will I do, FT? [:D] ~FR~ Please do not 'necro' threads that are years old. If a thread hasn't been replied to in 3 months or more, and you wish to discuss the same subject, please start a new thread and link to the old one. Thank you. Click

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