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ruthiexxxx -> pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 9:52:55 AM)
i'm new enough to BDSM to be feeling my way and working out who i am.. after a session with my Dom this afternoon i find myself wondering am i a pain slut...and how can one know? OK He was only using a flogger but enough to make the whole ass and thighs area bright red [still pretty red hours later]....but i was wanting more and longed for Him to change to something more painful. i even enjoyed His lousy aim when 'wrapround' and inaccuracies produced more extreme pain. But maybe this is just kiddy stuff to 'real' S/Mers...certainly the riding crops and whips look like they could inflict a level of pain way beyond what i've experienced and maybe way beyond what i would like [ but maybe i'd enjoy that too, later] i know i've just got to keep experimenting on til i find my level but i am burning with curiosity[and the flogger!]

CalifChick -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 9:58:32 AM)
You'll know when you get there. Cali

Nineveh -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 10:06:43 AM)
Sounds to me as if you are at least partly a pain slut. Also, generally a riding crop doesn't hurt all that much more than a flogger, although it depends on the length of the strands and what not. A single tail whip, like a bullwhip, can hurt a lot more though.

Bound2One -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 10:13:17 AM)
Hey, Ruthie. I'm not sure there is a definition for 'pain slut.' Everyone's perception and processing of pain is unique. But if you are enjoying a certain level of pain being inflicted on you, then I'd say you're into it. I am discovering my limits with my Master and I'm always left with a 'gimme more' feeling, which I suspect is right where he wants me so that we can learn together what I can handle and also what he wishes to dish out. I'm understanding the different types of pain there are (stinging vs. thudding, e.g.) and what I can take of each. I'd definitely talk to your Dom about your desires to try different types of pain with different implements. There are only so many minutes in the day, of course, so this will all take time. Patience. lol This is what I tell myself when I want to feel it all and right away. I definitely understand your craving for more!

softness -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 10:35:06 AM)
It doesn't matter how "hardcore" the pain is that you use to get off .. if the pain is what is getting you off ... then I would say pain is your poison. I am a world class coward .. pain really scares me and does nothing sexually for me at all. That doesn't mean I cannot "take" a fairly high level of pain .. it just means I get all fucked up in the head with it .. I am in no way shape or form a painslut .. In fact .. my Ideal type of sadist would be one who tortures me using chocolate and fluffy bunny slippers .. possibly even ... just for real cruelty .. forcing me to got to bed with a good book ...(if this is you my number is 555 -879 SLUT)

StormsSlave -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 10:39:54 AM)
I don't know about other people, but pain does it for me. I love it. I, too, am exploring my limits in this area. My dom seems to enjoy finding out far I can go. [:D]

Nineveh -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 10:47:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness It doesn't matter how "hardcore" the pain is that you use to get off .. if the pain is what is getting you off ... then I would say pain is your poison. I am a world class coward .. pain really scares me and does nothing sexually for me at all. That doesn't mean I cannot "take" a fairly high level of pain .. it just means I get all fucked up in the head with it .. I am in no way shape or form a painslut .. In fact .. my Ideal type of sadist would be one who tortures me using chocolate and fluffy bunny slippers .. possibly even ... just for real cruelty .. forcing me to got to bed with a good book ...(if this is you my number is 555 -879 SLUT) I could torture you with chocolate. Of course you wouldn't be getting the chocolate, you'd be tied to the wall, or simply ordered not to move, while I laid in bed with the bunny slippers on reading a good book and eating chocolate. Has to be torture after all doesn't it?

celticlord2112 -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 10:51:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ruthiexxxx i'm new enough to BDSM to be feeling my way and working out who i am.. after a session with my Dom this afternoon i find myself wondering am i a pain slut...and how can one know? OK He was only using a flogger but enough to make the whole ass and thighs area bright red [still pretty red hours later]....but i was wanting more and longed for Him to change to something more painful. i even enjoyed His lousy aim when 'wrapround' and inaccuracies produced more extreme pain. But maybe this is just kiddy stuff to 'real' S/Mers...certainly the riding crops and whips look like they could inflict a level of pain way beyond what i've experienced and maybe way beyond what i would like [ but maybe i'd enjoy that too, later] i know i've just got to keep experimenting on til i find my level but i am burning with curiosity[and the flogger!] Sounds like a pain slut to me..... Not that it matters much. If you like it and he's good at it, go for it. Labels are for packages, not people.

Bound2One -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 11:05:16 AM)
quote: my Ideal type of sadist would be one who tortures me using chocolate and fluffy bunny slippers . I have to share yesterday when Master tortured me with chocolate .. and a few other things, though no bunny slippers. I was bound and we were engaging in wax play. Just before he started dripping, with me blindfolded, he slipped a piece of Ghiradelli between my teeth, telling me not to eat it. So there I was, enjoying the wax, chocolate melting into my mouth and ordered not to eat. The torture! lol There's nothing like some sweetness with my pain. [;)]

softness -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 11:09:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Nineveh quote: ORIGINAL: softness It doesn't matter how "hardcore" the pain is that you use to get off .. if the pain is what is getting you off ... then I would say pain is your poison. I am a world class coward .. pain really scares me and does nothing sexually for me at all. That doesn't mean I cannot "take" a fairly high level of pain .. it just means I get all fucked up in the head with it .. I am in no way shape or form a painslut .. In fact .. my Ideal type of sadist would be one who tortures me using chocolate and fluffy bunny slippers .. possibly even ... just for real cruelty .. forcing me to got to bed with a good book ...(if this is you my number is 555 -879 SLUT) I could torture you with chocolate. Of course you wouldn't be getting the chocolate, you'd be tied to the wall, or simply ordered not to move, while I laid in bed with the bunny slippers on reading a good book and eating chocolate. Has to be torture after all doesn't it? drooooools ... my kinda man ... but how hard would i be beaten for laughing at a naked guy wearing bunny slippers?

Nineveh -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 11:39:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness drooooools ... my kinda man ... but how hard would i be beaten for laughing at a naked guy wearing bunny slippers? Always best to make the punishment fit the crime I think. Laugh too much and you might end up in a bunny suit with a sign that says "bad bunny" while you sit in the corner at the next appropriate social gathering.

subtee -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 11:47:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ruthiexxxx i even enjoyed His lousy aim when 'wrapround' and inaccuracies produced more extreme pain. [snip] When and if you decide to move beyond the flogger to some other types of pain play, it seems to me it would be wise for you both to learn, practice and become adept at anything new before it is intense.

softness -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 11:52:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Nineveh quote: ORIGINAL: softness drooooools ... my kinda man ... but how hard would i be beaten for laughing at a naked guy wearing bunny slippers? Always best to make the punishment fit the crime I think. Laugh too much and you might end up in a bunny suit with a sign that says "bad bunny" while you sit in the corner at the next appropriate social gathering. marry me?

Nineveh -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 12:15:44 PM)
To Softness: Already married, although we are looking for a toy..... On the topic: I agree with subtee that it is important to get some practice with anything more serious, especcially a single tail whip. If one of those hits where it is not supposed to it can cause scarring. A riding crop is pretty easy to control, and I think that the wraparound from a flogger is fun personally, but with a single tail whip precision is vital.

softness -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 12:21:25 PM)
snaps fingers .... shucks ... another one slips through the net .... NEXT!

mnottertail -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 12:24:16 PM)
To the OP........... When he is kicking the living dogfuck outta you, do you go......... 'OOOOOOOoooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhh!!!!' and get dripping wet right here? ===> ( Y ) PAIN SLUT. Bill is is the mail. Dr. Demento

BlackPhx -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 12:27:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ruthiexxxx i know i've just got to keep experimenting on til i find my level but i am burning with curiosity[and the flogger!] You gave yourself your answer right there ruthie, experiement, see what works for you and what doesn't and realize that what feels good one day may not the next and vice versa. Me..I am tri-sexual..I will tri anything 3 times, as it could be the wrong partner, wrong night or wrong head space the first time or two i try something. It's kinda 3 strikes that's out :) poenkitten

BBWnNC72 -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 12:59:26 PM)
For me, i am sure i am a pain slut. Why? Because i ache, crave, cry for more and more. i get wet thinking about it. When i am being spanked, with what ever He grabs, my ass goes higher and higher and i get wetter and wetter. So far, i haven't found that "too much pain, please stop" or "red red red" threshold. So my advise, go with what feels right, experiment SAFELY, see where it takes you. And enjoy. Also, never be afraid to say when too much is too much. People can get hurt with out good communication. Remember: safe words, safe objects or motions if you are gagged. End of my lecture, lol.

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 1:02:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ruthiexxxx i'm new enough to BDSM to be feeling my way and working out who i am.. after a session with my Dom this afternoon i find myself wondering am i a pain slut...and how can one know? OK He was only using a flogger but enough to make the whole ass and thighs area bright red [still pretty red hours later]....but i was wanting more and longed for Him to change to something more painful. i even enjoyed His lousy aim when 'wrapround' and inaccuracies produced more extreme pain. But maybe this is just kiddy stuff to 'real' S/Mers...certainly the riding crops and whips look like they could inflict a level of pain way beyond what i've experienced and maybe way beyond what i would like [ but maybe i'd enjoy that too, later] i know i've just got to keep experimenting on til i find my level but i am burning with curiosity[and the flogger!] You are experiencing what many experience and wanting to push your horizons. It's totally errr normal. Just keep enjoying yourself. Labels don't mean shit. Z-

chellekitty -> RE: pain slut? how does one tell? (2/15/2008 2:58:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail When he is kicking the living dogfuck outta you, do you go......... 'OOOOOOOoooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhh!!!!' and get dripping wet right here? ===> ( Y ) PAIN SLUT. what does it make you if you crawl up his leg, cum on his knee when he does that, and then cry when he stops?

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