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New Territory - 2/15/2008 7:08:28 PM

LadyPact

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I'd like to get some reactions for those who have recently crossed into a new territory. Let Me explain.

On Valentine's Day, I did something I have never done before in the lifestyle. I branded My boy. It was a very intense experince on both ends. I was really surprised that My maso sub went straight to subspace from the action. It was fantastic, as neither had ever done it before, so it had a groundbreaking sense to it.

This made Me want to discuss the feelings associated with doing something for the first time. Whether it be your first play experience, or just something you've done recently that was a new frontier. It can be your first time in a scene, or maybe a scene that was different for you in some way. I'd like to hear a reaction to those 'firsts' out there. After all, not everyone has done absolutely everything. I thought the post might encourage those old and new alike, to talk about new things.

As always, thank you in advance for your participation.

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RE: New Territory - 2/15/2008 8:32:53 PM

chezzy52

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I'm 55 so when my cousing and his buddies hired a pro dominatrix on my 20th birthday to "have a little fun with me",well the experience jump started everything for me.While in high school i was playing tie up games basically with girls i was dating,that is all it was.But this was the real deal so to speak.I was collared and leashed in front of everyone and led upstairs to be bound and gagged and blindfolded.I was also paddled and spanked for the first time that night.When the pro was done,i asked a ton of questions which she politely answered and so i became involved on a limited basis with a very secretive group of lifestylers in the greater Lauderdale area.I was taught the ropes so to speak,the basics,the ettiquette and so on.I'll never forget that as long as i live.

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RE: New Territory - 2/16/2008 8:28:37 AM

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I'm not use to, nor driven by inflicting pain BUT... a couple of weeks ago I knew I decided to push "bart" and really teach him a lesson. In my mind I wanted him to admit that he is not slave material because there isn't submission in him but he needs certain BDSM kinks. I talked to him about his negative behavior and detailed the disipline in store for him.

At one point when he was in a certain "postion" against the wall (electric chair position) and I expected him to maintain the position even though he had physical discipline prior to the wall. I didn't use restraints because I wanted him to be able to simply walk out after admitting he wasn't going to take it anymore. Each time he got out of position, I'd hit him with a wooden spoon across his legs. When he finally did protest by saying, "I'm sick of this bootcamp s--t!" I told him to get his bag of chains and get out or get back to where I put him. After what I now call the stare down, he got his ass back on the wall. I was actually surprised that he went back.

I found myself feeling proud of him that he got past his will and began to do what I wanted him to even though he was stressed. Once I let him off the wall and he committed to staying, he was chained, whipped, and left for hours that way. There was a big difference in his attitude. I told him how proud I was of him and I give him more benefit of the doubt now as to his "submissive" nature.

I see him through new eyes but he still has a long way to go. I've noticed that he is calmer and appears more submissive (he calls himself a diamond in the rough).

This was a new experience for me because I have NEVER, done anything remotely like that and for the length of time this went on. I am fond of saying, "I'm not sadistic" but I have to confess... I LIKED what I did, felt an incredible sexual rush and pleasure from it all. I now see myself using him this way because he talks about wanting and needing a sadist Mistress and I find there is something about him that drives me to be just that! It's opened another door. I don't think it will be my usual way of being but I do know that certain personality types can bring it out.

I think it's been there because I am always thinking of sheer evil ways of dealing with folks that cause real harm to those I love and I admit dark fantasies. I just couldn't see myself ever carrying any out but now... I know I can and probably will explore this.

Faye

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RE: New Territory - 2/16/2008 9:02:24 AM

azropedntied

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I can relate this to the first cutting and brand i received it was a very close moment and very intense almost as a two souls bringing together as one moment .Later in life after much learning and research i did both as a Top and found that same closeness that same melding of shared energy . I do not know how some can do this with a casual partner and not come away with out a connection .When you do activities like this i find a almost spiritual connection .Congrats again Lady Pact on your further growth experience and your new shared bond .I can tell just by your words that your beaming and i bet your boy is still flying too - warm smiles .

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RE: New Territory - 2/16/2008 9:54:54 AM

MistressVnus

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Geesh, LadyPact. There have been so many firsts.

First of all, congratulations on your new marked property.

I haven't branded yet. That will be a new first for me as well.
I've had so many firsts I wouldn't know where to begin. Some of the most memorable firsts.....first time making a slave cry.....first anal fisting......first vaginal fisting........1st time w/needle play.......and the list could go on and on.

However, one of the most "surprising" firsts was something I discovered about myself about 3 years ago. And, in similarity to MistressFaye, I had no idea how this was going to affect me.

First of all, let me say that my feet are my erogenous zone. You rub my feet and lower legs and I will begin to purrrrrrr if it is done correctly. And, it would only make sense that I like the feeling of having my toes sucked and being tongued in between my toes. However, I have only ever had this done to me one foot at a time.
Now, on this particular day I was entertaining myself with 2 slaves and at one point I sat on the medical table with my feet hanging down while having the 2 slaves lie on the floor, face up, and each getting one foot to worship.
I gotta tell you, what happened next almost made me get up and leave the room. They both began sucking on my toes and the whole tongue thing in between the toes and such and, all of a sudden, I got these sensations that shot right up both legs straight into my crotch, simultaneously. I thought I was about to cum all over myself. I had never experienced any sensation like that, physically, in my life. And although having one foot worshipped is a turn on, I had never felt that sensation run up my leg like that. And this was in stereo. I must be hard-wired in such a way that both left-brain and right-brain must be engaged before it happens. But holy cow!!!
Anyway, that was my new "awakening" about myself. One that will always bring a smile to my face when I think about it. Almost makes me want to start laughing when I remember my reaction to it.
I remember going.."OH SHIIITTTT!!" And all of a sudden the slaves stopped and started asking, "Whats wrong? Whats wrong? They thought I was hurt or they had hurt me somehow. And, I didn't want to tell them what had happened so I just started laughing. I laughed till tears came to my eyes and they were just sitting on the floor all wide-eyed wondering if I had lost my mind. *chuckle*
After I regained my composure, I had them resume. *grin*

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