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aurorasleeps -> RE: teaching a new Dom (9/21/2005 9:42:46 AM)
This same thing has happened to me. i kept it sort of quiet about me being a submissive but one day i decided to explain it all to him. Well it turns out that he is very Dominant but didn't know how to explore it. All the women he had been out with were very nilla and although they liked to be somewhat controlled in the bedroom, that is as far as it went. He thinks that has been his problem in his past relationships...his need to control someone that didn't want it. Well, needless to say...it is no longer a problem. He didn't have to learn to become a Dominant..he just had to let it out with a real submissive. He might need to learn the correct use of some toys but he didn't need to learn much more than that. He let his true self emerge...the Dominant . He needed no teaching for that.

Tempestspet -> RE: teaching a new Dom (9/21/2005 10:01:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: muzz not training as in forcing him to be Dom...i know ...doesn't happen that way...but topping from the bottom is what it kind of what it feels like...i don't like it... i will pass the link onto him...thank you... but the idea of finding a mentor for him has been suggested...unfortunately all we could fine was a very small...very exclusive BDSM community in his area...i suggested he go check them ...they wouldn't even talk to him because he had no experince...[:@] btw the training i am discussing is not the mental or emotional part of being a Dom...i am discussing the physical issues...if you go to use a whip and don't know how...it can cause some damage that is unintended... if you go and decided to play around with something such as breathe play and have never done it or been shown how to do it before...you could end up a killing someone...these are the things i am talking about teaching... my apologies for not making that clear earlier. Since you are asking about the physical issues, and understand that one either is or is not dom/sub..etc... here's my answer to that... Topping from the bottom sucks, especially if that's not what you are after. You don't have to do that though, to show him how to use certain toys and things. Do you know how to use several different toys? SHwing him, teaching him how to use an instrument is not topping from the bottom. It's just that you happen to have information that he doesn't. I know how to use several different toys, and do different things. I have taught other doms how, and they were thankful to get the knowledge that they didn't have previously. smiles...I hope that helped. Tempest's pet jennifer

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