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BlackPhx -> RE: Question please? (2/16/2008 8:25:14 PM)
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I suspect RavenMuse that you may be misinterpreting what my Master has said. While it is obvious that Dominants are not polishing up their armor, leaping on a horse and jousting for the chance to attract a ladies attention by their prowess, all people male and female are to some extent in competition if they are seeking a compatible partner.
Before one can consider compatibility with another person, you must first attract their attention. Some do this by going through the profiles or the clubs, munches etc, and talking to or emailing a person they find of some interest. Others post in the forums, display their humor, tolerance, experience and attract attention that way. I suspect very few just stand in the middle of the equivilent of Grand Central Station and expect submissives to just flock to them and petition their attention. If nothing else a goodly majority of the dominants here have at least one picture on their profile, so that visually a submissive may be attracted by look. From the ones I have perused just in the forums, most strike a "Domly" stare, pose, or attitude. Few show themselves at their worst knee deep in crude or buried in tax forms.
First you get their attention. This is common for both Doms and Submissives. Something about that profile, posting, etc stood out and attracted your attention among all the others. That is the the competition, to first get their attention long enough for you to begin any exploration of compatibility. Few of us would like to think (either Dom or Sub) that we are nothing more than generic parts that will fit more than one model, more or less. We each hope to stand out in someway, even if you are 1 in a million that makes you part of more than 6,000 just like you out there, thats an awful lot of competition in the scheme of things as you try to find someone compatible with you. Even sperm, those mindless little bits of encoded chromasomes and protein are in competition with each other to get to that egg. It is a basic part of life and the mating rituals. If you consider that you may not be the only one engaged by a profile, seeking compatibility, etc. and that more than just yourself have contacted that sub via email, you are in fact in a competition for her attention. One of you may get it, none of you may get it, but at least she knows you have some interest and that goes the other way as well. How many have looked at your profile, and others, your postings and decided to contact you or not? We each have something we are looking for, the trick is, something has to catch our attention or we might just by pass the perfect person. That look, that stare that promise of Dominance, or similar likes, that intellect, or way with words is the peacocks feather that snags her attention over that of another Doms..and you have beaten out the competiton for her attention, allowing you both to begin to learn more about the other.
poenkitten (remembering the Territorial Imperative of life)
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