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Everyday Chores and Tasks - 2/16/2008 9:00:31 PM

Araven

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Im really curious about the dynamics of relationships still and how people handle them. I apologize in advance if this has been asked before.

This particular question is about chores and mundane tasks around the house, such as paying bills(the errand of running to the place the bill needs to be paid), to laundry, to dishwashing, to vacuuming?

What tasks do you reserve for yourself? Which ones do you hate and give to your submissive/slave?

Me personally, Im learning to do some of the chores and to clean up better after myself. When Mistress and i have our cleaning day, we try all to clean the house together, so its a "together" sort of thing to do. Im still learning the ins and outs, but hopefully Im not too displeasing to her when I clean and am learning how she likes things cleaned.

how about the rest of the community?

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RE: Everyday Chores and Tasks - 2/17/2008 2:12:46 AM

nick2020

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As a submissive it seems to me that the dynamic of the relationship is that the servant/slave is to do as he/she is told and the Mistress supervises the task.

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RE: Everyday Chores and Tasks - 2/17/2008 4:21:52 AM

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In my house, I handle the finances and cook meals. I try to remember to pick up after myself and not make too big a mess in the kitchen. My Al does everything else – dishes, laundry, vacuuming, yardwork, etc. We share the shopping. I clean the cat box. It’s my cat, and it’s the only thing he really hates to do. I’ll help out if we’re having company or if he’s putting in a lot of hours at work, but other than that I leave it to him. I don’t supervise. I’m not picky about how these tasks are done as long as I don’t have to be involved in any part of the process.

It wasn’t really my plan to have him do all the housework. Frankly, I couldn’t imagine that there was any fellow out there who would do that. Most subs I discussed the issue with seemed to see housework as something that would be my responsibility and that they would help out with. Some were willing to do housework as part of a scene, but there’s nothing I find appealing about that. Some were willing to take responsibility for the bits of it they liked, but my Al’s the only fellow I came across who was willing to take responsibility for all of it. Bless his heart.
It was kind of tough for me to let go of it at first. I didn’t want to get used to this if it wasn’t going to last, and I expected that once the New Relationship Energy wore off, his willingness would wane. It’s been about 8 years now, and he’s as willing as he ever was. I don’t even have to think about this stuff anymore. That’s pretty wonderful.

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RE: Everyday Chores and Tasks - 2/17/2008 9:46:51 AM

LadyHathor

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There aren't any chores I hate, if I did, I don't think I would have gotten the style of life I have--in My home we ALL share chores as I have an 18YO UM, no one skates out without--

I manage the finances, he runs to pay.

We all cook. Sometimes he does, I do, UM does

UM cleans up ( allowance money), unless she cooked.

UM does her laundry, he does O/ours.

he makes the bed, keeps My room tidy and clean

W/we share gardening as we both love it and its great alone time ( UM hates bugs, lol)

W/we all work the horses---he cleans the leathers for My horse.

UM walks the dog, no questions.

We all keep the common area clean, he cleans the fireplace.

he makes the last minute grocery runs, we all make the 8 week stock up, he pushes the cart.

After that, its by daily assignment, one thing I learned ages ago, a slave/sub whatever you call yours, need specific tasks to succeed at.

< Message edited by LadyHathor -- 2/17/2008 9:47:40 AM >

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RE: Everyday Chores and Tasks - 2/17/2008 11:17:42 AM

AAkasha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nick2020

As a submissive it seems to me that the dynamic of the relationship is that the servant/slave is to do as he/she is told and the Mistress supervises the task.

There's a big difference between chores/tasks for fantasy/fun and a little kink, and a household where the man really does do all the domestic work, and not just to get off.

In the real world, a femdom does not have the time to supervise. The big drawback of some "service submissives" is that their happiness is directly related to: being given direction, being supervised, being praised, being needed, being punished, being corrected. My response? Hire a maid and you do less work!

My husband is not a service submissive. He's incredibly devoted, and gets joy from making my life easy, and he does not need constant attention, direction or correction. What's remarkable about him is he will observe something that needs to be done, or me doing something, then do it himself the next time. He doesn't need me to tell him, instruct him, or constantly praise him. Thank god! I don't have time to do the chores, and I certainly don't have time to supervise him doing the chores.

That said, my husband does everything domestically - from cooking, ironing, cleaning, errands, grocery store, banking, bathrooms, pets, yard, cars - and also acts as an executive assistant to me in my career. That includes packing for my trips, airport runs, accompanying me on the more complicated trips and handling the itinerary/driving, typing memos, screening calls, taking notes at meetings, doing research. He also sends all the birthday cards for family, gets presents, does all the Christmas shopping, maintains our social calendar, etc.

He does not have a job outside the home but does volunteer part time depending on how busy we are. I make the money and work full time.

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RE: Everyday Chores and Tasks - 2/17/2008 6:20:34 PM

MsIncontrol

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I am currently not working so it has changed our household dynamic drastically because I was the bigger bread winner. I am trying to make a career change to a much less stressful and also less paying profession so we've had to make some major household changes. Previously we had a housekeeper to attend to the main weekly cleaning of the home and a landscaper to maintain the exterior. I handled cooking, finances and handling the social calendar and suprevision of any contractors we hired. My submissive took care of daily cleaning (like dishes and baths), laundry, home and car maintenance. We both shared responsibility for our pets.

Now that I am not working I do the majority of the housework (except vacuuming because I hate it), cooking, social calendar and handle the finances.

It is a nice change and I do not feel any less dominant. I take great pride in my home and cooking and consider this work relaxing and fun. I am able to do everything in the time my submissive is at his job and we have a lot more time to spend together as we are not both doing errands and chores after work or on the weekends.

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RE: Everyday Chores and Tasks - 2/17/2008 6:48:20 PM

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My Owner enjoys doing the cooking. I tend to do the dishes, take out he trash, vacuum, mop the floor, and clean various things. I also make coffee. I help do and fold the laundry when I can, but more often than not that's something she does. If the apartment needs straightening up, then we will do bits of it seperately and bits of it together. She will do the dishes if I'm away and such as well. She's won't hold back on keeping things in line just so I can clean it when I'm around...since we aren't always together due to school.

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