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AquaticSub -> RE: interference (2/17/2008 2:46:10 PM)
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ORIGINAL: NazjamRa
When is it ok to step up and tell someone that their reputation and name is being trashed by their Dominant, and how do you tell that person it's going on.
Depends. That sort of thing can be emotional abuse, it can be just their way of joking around, it can be a form of humilation play or any number of things. Watch what they say in front of the sub - is it something as drastic as tell her she is beautiful, drop-dead sexy and giving her chocolates and then behind her back cracking cruel jokes about how he is fattening the cow up further?
If you should say something or not is pretty hard to call. There are definately things that, if Val were to make fun of behind my back, I should be informed about. But if he was talking about my previous sexual history, someone might think he was destroying reputation when he was just telling the truth. Consider what the fallout could be - is he just making himself look bad or is this something like posting nude pictures on her internet that could get her fired?
If you really think you should say something, think about why you want to do it. Do you have an interest in this sub at all? Is there anyone else you could compare notes with, someone with no interest in the situation? Maybe you are being overly sensitive to particular comments. If you do feel you need to tell them, be as honest as possible. Don't say that their dominant is destroying their reputation - tell them exactly what was said and that you weren't sure if they knew about that and you felt they needed to know. Let them decide if that is hurting their reputation or not.
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