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Brand Nedw - 9/15/2005 5:25:26 AM

Wndering

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Ok, How does a brand new virgin, vanilla, or just plain perplexed guy meet a Domme in SW Missouri for safe discreet fun and exploration.

Thank you for your time

michael

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RE: Brand Nedw - 9/15/2005 5:42:36 AM

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This is a good start. Ask questions and read what has already been asked. If you see a Domme here, that you find interesting, even if she is not in your geographic location, contact her and begin a friendship if she is willing? You can then begin to see what it is like to be told to do certain things...even at a distance.
Lastly, if there is a BDSM group in your area, if possible, begin to associate with them.
Good Luck! Kevin

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RE: Brand Nedw - 9/15/2005 8:25:13 AM

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Hey michael,

Fastlane offered you good advice (and was even serious for once LoL).
Talk to people here and get comfortable with your kinks, then venture out and make friends on the local scene. I say make friends first, because it helps in meeting people if their friends know and like you.

I know there are groups in Joplin and Tulsa that my SW MO friends attend. If you don't know of em, google BDSM Groups, and check MO. If your looking for a Pro DOmme, google aslo works, and I believe there was a DOmme from the Ozarks who posted in the professional services forum.

Good luck!

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RE: Brand Nedw - 9/15/2005 11:25:53 PM

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The first thing I would notice is the word "discreet" which usually translates to "married and looking for some kink on the side". However, there are some who use discreet to mean they are more high profile and need that discretion.
The next thing I see is "fun and exploration". Well, we all do have to start somewhere, but you will have to be patient. There are not bunches of Dominas in your area, or anywhere, that are anxiously awaiting a new bottom because We desperately want or need a play partner.
Best advice: Go out to some local events...make some friends. If "discreet" does mean "married", then that may be more difficult for you.
Do a search for Dominas in your area. You have the ability to do that right on this site. If you choose to write to anyone, be honest.
Welcome to the boards.

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RE: Brand Nedw - 9/15/2005 11:49:49 PM

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quote:

Ok, How does a brand new virgin, vanilla, or just plain perplexed guy meet a Domme in SW Missouri for safe discreet fun and exploration

Does the discreet mean you are married (it's what I think when I see it).
As has been said, post here, read, learn, write to dominas who interest you on the profile side to introduce yourself, and state what you seek.
Good luck, and welcome to the boards. M

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RE: Brand Nedw - 9/16/2005 5:50:04 AM

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I will add my 2 cents about
"discreet + married = personal fun & exploration"

If you fit this equation, you will be hard pressed to find a dominant woman that will be interested in fulfilling your kinks & fantasies outside of it being her line of work. You might want to seek the services of a pro-domme in order to experiment.

I am sure that many of the women you will encounter on here that are non-pro will agree that the one thing we are not lacking is contact from male submissives seeking... what we are lacking is quality/available/sincere male submissives seeking.

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RE: Brand Nedw - 9/16/2005 5:40:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
Best advice: Go out to some local events...make some friends. If "discreet" does mean "married", then that may be more difficult for you.
Do a search for Dominas in your area. You have the ability to do that right on this site. If you choose to write to anyone, be honest.

GoddessDustyGold is giving you solid advice. To get you started you might want to join your local BDSM mail list: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SWBDSMofMO/

I did a quick search of the profiles here at Collarme and I see three dominant women (39+) who live in Springfield, MO and have visited this site in the past month.

Before you contact anyone I encourage you to consider reading 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression. It might make for smoother sailing.

And before you go to your first munch, you might consider reading A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM Munches. It will answer many of your questions and concerns.

Good luck! I hope you will continue reading these forums... there is a lot of good advice to be had.