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RE: Rushing into Things - 2/26/2008 6:25:36 PM

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Thank you, O4SS! He always says that "actions speak louder than words," and that even though I said that I didn't want anything to happen, how I acted and responded showed to Him that I felt otherwise. We have been constantly discussing our relationship, what we want, our fears and worries. I've realized how important communication is, and that a relationship depends on mutual effort, among other things.

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RE: Rushing into Things - 8/12/2008 11:36:20 PM

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]ittlebitxxx i think you said it so wonderful .

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RE: Rushing into Things - 8/13/2008 6:24:08 AM

subeos

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i have had a few Dom's on here try to rush things. i finally realized that i had to tell them in some way it was not going to happen. i may click with someone on here. But to get on a bus and go to meet them, nope! i must know you much longer. Taking time or progressing is a mutual choice.
ps> been talking to this guy and now he wants to take it a step further. i am not ready for that. so in the past day or so he has been saying things to push me away. Well, guess what? He pushed me away yesterday by something that repulsed me.
Work it out, work it through and KEEP talking. Good luck!

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RE: Rushing into Things - 8/13/2008 6:28:11 AM

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Each adult must decide for him/herself where they stand in the caution vs. calculated risk arena. We are adults, responsible for our decisions, but it's also important to understand that part of life is taking risks.

And, yeah, I know it's an old thread that has been bumped for some strange reason.

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RE: Rushing into Things - 8/13/2008 11:34:27 AM

lally3

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i think it depends what you rush and how.

falling at the feet of someone you hardly know is not wise - emotions are strong, judgement is poor - its need overtaking common sense.

its horribly easy to be overwhelmed by the desire to submit everything and miss the process, the process being the part when the bond is developing and the dynamic is building.

if you jump in too soon you miss those important cornerstones.

thank you for bumping this, whoever did, the advice on here has helped me work something out.

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