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From a sub whom I am meeting causually, or the first time, I neither expect nor demand to be called 'Sir.' If offered, however, I do take it as a sign of respect and treat it as such.

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totally agree! Sir or Ma'am for that matter to me being born and raised in Texas then spending the past ten years in Alabama...it is how i was raised. For me i do not call A/anyone Master, Mistress, Lord etc... as that term to me will be specific and seclusive for One person in my life one day. But actually i have found many Doms and Domme friends of mine constantly remind me i do not have to say Sir or Ma'am all of the time. It is simply not a M/s, D/s, or even BDSM to me but general respect for those with who i communicate. But it is personal to E/everyone.

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Some of us aren't interested in subbing to the entire community. We value ourselves and don't submit casually. Additionally of the doms I've talked to, the ones who insist on unearned submission from every sub around are always the ones I'm least compatible with. Always.

A dom who isn't so hung up on his own ego that he has a fit if everybody around doesn't bow down to him isn't someone I want to chat with. The ones who sign their email with their first names are always more sensible, more likable, more mature. They understand that this is a relationship between two (or more) people and that the relationship must be entered into willingly by both.

Personally, I wouldn't call any random dom Sir, simply because their reaction is a good way to weed out the ones I don't want to talk to.

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Some of us aren't interested in subbing to the entire community

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I don't come here or go to my community events for vanilla relationships or friendships. I go for the D/s atmosphere and that usually implies some protocol.

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We dont say Sir or Ma'm in England we just dont unless its refering to a Teacher or someone is trying to sell you something, it doesnt slip off the tounge and its often not used in respect. When im at events I dont refer to everyone as Sir/Ma'm becuase a LOT of Dominant here actually dont like it, many think that subs have to earn the right to use the term, I just call everyone by their name Sir is something that makes me feel stupid if i just say it to anyone, because its not in my day to day vocab. this doesnt seem to change regardless of age here, generally people in the uk dont seem to do it.