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Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 8:31:01 PM

ownedandcollared

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This is probably a very old topic by now, but it has been getting on my nerves alot lately.

So. i have been very annoyed lately with messages here on CM from Doms, and even male subs. Its not that i am not willing and happy to strike up a friendship with anyone, just that i would think that 1) my screenname would suggest that i am not available and 2) my profile clearly states that i am looking for friends.

i am getting lots of messages asking if i am owned, which is fine and i answer in the affirmative...but then they proceed to try to convince me to leave my Master for them. That or they just start off with messages of how i should just belong to them and thats it.

i think this shows a huge amount of disrespect for my Master, and if it continues, i won't be allowed on collarme anymore. Its very frustrating, and i don't understand how people can so casually disregard ownership...if they had a slave, they wouldn't like people trying to persuade her to leave Him, would they?

any thoughts?

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 8:35:57 PM

Bound2One

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Just the usual ... block and ignore. You can't control the assholes of the world, but you can control how you react to them.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 8:46:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedandcollared

This is probably a very old topic by now, but it has been getting on my nerves alot lately.

So. i have been very annoyed lately with messages here on CM from Doms, and even male subs. Its not that i am not willing and happy to strike up a friendship with anyone, just that i would think that 1) my screenname would suggest that i am not available and 2) my profile clearly states that i am looking for friends.

i am getting lots of messages asking if i am owned, which is fine and i answer in the affirmative...but then they proceed to try to convince me to leave my Master for them. That or they just start off with messages of how i should just belong to them and thats it.

i think this shows a huge amount of disrespect for my Master, and if it continues, i won't be allowed on collarme anymore. Its very frustrating, and i don't understand how people can so casually disregard ownership...if they had a slave, they wouldn't like people trying to persuade her to leave Him, would they?

any thoughts?

My interpretation on your post , you said that if this continues, that you will not be allowed on CM anymore...I hope you will not be punished for the acts of others by your Dominant?..surely that is an un-reasonable stance?..Tempting

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 8:54:26 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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You need to stop expecting people to act a certain way. There's no reason anyone should respect your relationship in any particular way at all.

However, if you find their actions to be inappropriate for you and you do not wish to associate with them, online that's as easy as hitting the X or simply not replying.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 8:55:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedandcollared

any thoughts?

They make for excellent snark-material. 'Bout all they are good for - just egg them on and watch them rant!

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 9:06:08 PM

breatheasone

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Geez I guess you just block and go on about your business.... I hope you don't mean your "D" type will restrict your access to CM just because OTHERS not YOU are acting improper.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 9:14:53 PM

Focus50

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedandcollared

i think this shows a huge amount of disrespect for my Master, and if it continues, i won't be allowed on collarme anymore. Its very frustrating, and i don't understand how people can so casually disregard ownership...if they had a slave, they wouldn't like people trying to persuade her to leave Him, would they?

any thoughts?

Well I wholeheartedly disagree with being driven off by strangers - that's not an option to me and I wouldn't allow it of my girl, either!. It's one thing to cease patronising some club because you don't care for the negative attention but an online media such as CM is presumably done from the privacy of one's own home and that's MY domain...!

Leaving anything online should be your own choice, not some obnoxious wanka's. What you do is as others have suggested - block & delete. Absolutely NO-ONE dictates where I go online and I won't have it any different for my girl; I make *them* go away....

Focus.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 9:15:41 PM

SailingBum

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turn your profile off.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 9:28:09 PM

Kirren

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I think as well that you can hide your profile, but as has been stated, it seems that you are also being held responsible for another persons actions. And that is something that you can not control.

You have made your feelings and where you are clear...if that can not be respected, or is not being respected, then you simply block that person, I dont feel that a warning would be needed, as you have it plainly stated that you have an owner and do not seek anything out side of friendships.

If your owner is that concerned with it, it could also be stated that yahoo groups has female submissive groups that you could subscribe to, that would also be local...and would allow you to form those friendships that you seek on what your Dom would feel was a safer level...and be a form of comprimise.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 9:35:48 PM

ItalianSMistress

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This is one of My biggest pet peeves. Just set up your bulk mail so you dont get messages from males or whoever is bothering you. Those are the type of Dom/mes that you dont want owning you even if you were free. Poachers are so undesirable.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 10:39:35 PM

crouchingtigress

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that is an awful thing to put lots of energy into....and for what result?

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/19/2008 10:44:43 PM

MissMagnolia

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I have whole reams of do's and do nots on my profile that not many seem to read and do anyway.

Some guys will try to chat you up in a club, even if you have a wedding ring on. Here is no different. It's not that dramatic. If you see a dark blue name delete and block it before opening it. It's that simple.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 12:43:01 AM

HeavansKeeper

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I somewhat enjoy the letters My Pet gets. Since she doesn't post she gets very little traffic, but the occasional letter that reads

"babey u and me would be good i mean REAL good so loose your master for a real master."

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 3:32:37 AM

OldBastardly1

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I know....it is a terrible thing when somebody else thinks you are attractive, when somebody else wants you, even if just to taunt you with it. And of course, it is near hell for a Dominant to have to endure having a s-type that others want. Competition is a bad thing when you are not sure of who the victor will be.

Actually, if he can't handle competition, he should close up shop, and that doesn't mean closing your profile. I am guessing this is an online relationship.

And just as I was thinking that the starving kids, eating flies in some 3rd world country was a huge problem. Thanks for putting things in perspective.

< Message edited by OldBastardly1 -- 2/20/2008 3:34:45 AM >

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 4:25:38 AM

lusciouslips19

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Yes. hard to believe that a Dominant might have enough ego to think he could win you away or charm you away from your Master. Perposterous!!

I usually say thanks, I'm flattered but unavailable. They grow tired soon after and on to the next.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 6:32:34 AM

Leatherist

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Set your filters to send males to the junk folder, and delete them unread.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 7:12:28 AM

toservez

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I agree with others who wrote that to be bothered by this when all it takes is barely a second to delete and hope a Master has enough trust in you that somehow strangers will not change your mind.

But my biggest suggestion is to put in your profile you are actually owned. Right now it just says looking for friends. I know your name says owned but the goal is to minimalize the messages and the ones who actually write you are certainly just doing a mass market campaign and probably do not take two seconds to study the name.

In terms of the profile you would be surprised at how many profiles that are on this site from both genders and roles that infer just looking for friends but are for whatever reason but are also still hoping to find someone. It is not an automatic assumption that looking for friends means I am taken. Not saying that justifies people who write to assume one is looking but the goal is to minimalize the brain dead not the ones engaging their brain.

Edited to include the not as not change your mind.

< Message edited by toservez -- 2/20/2008 7:29:27 AM >

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 7:42:10 AM

Kana

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sigh, more windmill tilting.
Why get upset at the world for being what it is.
Why waste time trying to get others to change the idiotic things they do.
You don't like it, hide your profile.
Spend your days engaging imbeciles in useless arguements.
Poaching is never aceptable, but hey, the jokers keep trying.
They ain't saying nothing about you but are letting you know everything about themselves right out of the gate.
Maybe you should thank them for showing their true colors so clearly.
Hows that for a thought?

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 8:28:02 AM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

I know....it is a terrible thing when somebody else thinks you are attractive, when somebody else wants you, even if just to taunt you with it. And of course, it is near hell for a Dominant to have to endure having a s-type that others want. Competition is a bad thing when you are not sure of who the victor will be.

Oh yes, it's so delightful and flattering to watch little boys pretend to be men, listen to them insult the man you love while they try to convince you that they have something worth fucking (sorry guys - if you try to steal a girl away, as far I'm concerned it's two inches and you'd be best served by removing it and attaching a strap-on), as though there is something about their pathetic selves that is worth serving.

There's interested and then there is sheer pathetic, disrespect. Seriously, don't flatter them by pretending that their efforts are anything more desperate attempts to get laid. As I said before, their only use is amuse. Toss a truths at them ("Real men don't try to steal other men's women" and "If you could buy me with jewelry, I'd just leave you as soon as the money is gone, making you my slave - kneel bitch") and watch them go.

It's not worth getting angry over it but it certainly isn't flattering by any stretch.

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RE: Respect for the property of Others. - 2/20/2008 2:20:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

I have whole reams of do's and do nots on my profile that not many seem to read and do anyway.

Some guys will try to chat you up in a club, even if you have a wedding ring on. Here is no different. It's not that dramatic. If you see a dark blue name delete and block it before opening it. It's that simple.

Right after I get past your cleavage, I will read your profile...:)

To the OP. This is the internet, it is worse than real life. People feel free to say anything at all to anyone. Since you are here for Friends those people are actual doing you a favor. You can cross them right off the list of possibles.

Jeff

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