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breatheasone -> RE: Need Feedback please (2/21/2008 9:12:41 AM)
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Okay, lets look at what we know.
You had a strong reaction AGAINST "daddy play" when you first heard about it. WHY?
Because how could ANYONE make "fun" playing with a daddy that way? It certainly wasn't fun for me when I was growing up.
You started to get interested (perhaps as your trust in the relationship grew?)
Well...I began to see that it wasn't sexual...that it was about intimacy, yes and trust.
It was very emotional when you did it and you felt wonderful.
Yes...but I was SCARED to death and I felt a bit awkward.
THEN you found out there was ANOTHER and you again had a strong reaction against it.
Yes...and this is what I need to quit focusing on. Easier said than done.
SO, the question is, what was your relationship with your father like?
Its wasn't great.
Basically, what did he do or not do that caused you to react AGAINST the idea until you found out it could be given by someone you actually do trust and love, in which case you embraced it?
I'd rather not get into it, but my dad wasn't a nice guy much.
You need to find answers to those questions.
A note of encouragement. Don't rush, you have a lifetime together. There are things BSB wants to do for me that I am not ready for her to do for me, some things she wants me to do to her that she isn't quite ready for. We don't rush, we have a lifetime to explore together, so do you. Enjoy and relax into it.
This is so true....sometimes I need to remember that Master and I are not in a race....and we don't need to do everything in the 1st year!...
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