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Bound2One -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 9:55:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx No, He wouldn't be angry at me. I have a very legitimate reason for going to that site, as I use the services of the type of person that is rated there. I am concerned that it may affect His self-esteem. One of His parents just passed a bit more than a week ago, and...I don't want to give Him more grief. ~Christina I don't see any harm in waiting a few weeks to share it with him. There's probably nothing immediate he can do about it anyway, but yes, I'd tell him sooner or later.

softness -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 10:31:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx I went to a website, (rate my _____ dot com), looked up the place HoneyMaster works, and His name and there was a rating there regarding Him. It wasn't very flattering. I'm pretty sure He doesn't even realize this site exists, so, if I don't show it to Him, it's possible He could go His whole life unaware. Otoh, this IS what He does for a living, (although the people using His services don't have a choice as to whether to use Him or not....it's very specialized) (think of it like, when you go to the hospital, you don't have a choice-usually-as to which doctor or nurse helps you...it's similar to that.) The people that leave the ratings give NO personal info. Not even a user name. I even considered leaving a very good rating even though He hasn't been my _______ before. But, I decided against that. So far. Sooooo...... Any thoughts or suggestions? ~Christina I can guess what blank is ... trust me ... tell him ... people in "blank" .line of work take negative all the time from their "clients" , it is more than likely just going to bounce right off ... unless of course he can idetify who it is from what they say ...which means he might be able to change his or their attitude to the problem has a mixed rating on blank ... thinks its just funny the clients make the effort to add anything at all if they really hate working with me that much

xxblushesxx -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 10:34:04 AM)
lol It was written in 2005, and HoneyMaster's ________ are very advanced, so, unless this person was extremely slow, it's safe to say they are gone now. ~Christina

TracyTaken -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 12:20:15 PM)
If it was me, I'd sure want to know. Wouldn't you?

xxblushesxx -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 12:40:55 PM)
I don't KNOW!! lol That's why I asked....[:-]

AquaticSub -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 12:43:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx One of His parents just passed a bit more than a week ago, and...I don't want to give Him more grief. ~Christina Since it does involve his work, I'd strongly go with tell him. But you might want to consider waiting a little bit. This may not be the best time.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 12:48:40 PM)
quote: Any thoughts or suggestions? although your moccasins weren't an exact fit, after trying to "walk a mile" in them on this subject...this slave would tell Him. even if the only rating was a bad one...from her, even.[;)]

TracyTaken -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 12:49:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx I don't KNOW!! lol That's why I asked....[:-] LOL! Okay. Well, if I were you, I'd want to know. [;)]

AmbrosialWench -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 12:56:50 PM)
If this is rate my teacher dot com, then it is no big deal. In fact some teachers like having negative feedback. The supper easy teachers always have received excellent ratings.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 1:02:54 PM)
Well...He's not EXACTLY a teacher. And that's not the site... I don't think He'd care too much what a bunch of 10 year olds had to say about Him. lol Although I could be wrong. ~Christina

BlackPhx -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 2:36:53 PM)
Wait until he has his feet under him a little more. Parents passing can be devestating even if you don't like them, if you do, then more so. When you feel he has recovered a bit or is turning his mind towards other things, Definately tell him. While the information at the site may not be 'critical" to his employment, it always helps to see the negative comments and the positive ones so you can correct any minor problems before they become major. poenkitten (wishing you luck and courage)

littleone35 -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 3:19:43 PM)
I would tell him, but not right away i would give him time to get over his parent passing. i would not want to hit him with a double whammy. He does have the right to know if someone is saying bad things about his work though. Matt's littleone

laurell3 -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 4:58:01 PM)
Yeah I would. It's public information he probably should know about. I also tell the person I'm with pretty much everything. Trust to me kind of implies the necessity of disclosure. I would question though whether this would be a good time for him. As you pointed out he's recently had some trauma, it may not be a good time. Then again, anyone can put anything on the internet anonymously and it doesn't make it valid. Hell half the stuff I read here is complete bs imo....if he's not in the right frame of mind to see that, I would wait if I were you. Your call, you know him.

faithfulfemme -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 5:58:35 PM)
Yes, absolutely tell him, but at a bit later time when He has had time to adjust to His parent's passing. However, keep in mind that competitors are continually trying to sabotage other businesses on sites such as these with poor comments and low marks. i'm sure that He knows this, and won't give your information a second thought. But if He does, then you're there for Him, yes?

xxblushesxx -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 7:43:54 PM)
He has no competitors. There are only a few of Him in the country. That's not even an issue. (He's incredibly educated and gifted, and I'm not just saying that 'cause He told me to...) lol Seriously.

BoundDown -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 7:57:12 PM)
I'd tell him about the negative one....and maybe even leave a positive one. I have to say I am now more than a little bit curious as to the nature of the web site, at first I thought it was rate my cock, til I got to the 2nd sentence.

Tapestry -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 10:40:49 PM)
You've gotten very similar feedback from everyone, so I almost didn't post. But perhaps that one last note that says Yes, show him the site, or send him the link in an email which he can check at work. But in all ways, in any relationship of any flavor, honesty is best. I don't think it's a submissive's job to protect her Dominant from the harsh realities of this world, especially one whom you describe as being a hard-ass. Just let him know what you found and let it go. If he's strong enough to be your Dominant, he's strong enough to handle a poor rating from a client he had 3 years ago who may not even be alive any longer. Keeping such info to yourself feels like a bit of power over, and even unscrupulous, when I think your intention is to protect. It could very well backfire on you. Blessings and Peace

HerLord -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/20/2008 11:44:09 PM)
Two things... 1. If your intent is to better Him as a _____, then by all means tell Him. If you feel that He will recieve it well, then you may need to be delicate about how you show Him. In a professional capacity, I would certainly want to know how to better serve my clients/patients/other... If My Love found something like this, I would EXPECT to be informed. 2. You have as a signature "I am xxblushesxx HoneyMaster, and I approve this message. " If He has indeed approved this message, would this have exposed Him to said revelation? Not to be picky... But when My Love posts, I will not put my "name" on it till I have in fact read and approved... Just a thought. quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx I went to a website, (rate my _____ dot com), looked up the place HoneyMaster works, and His name and there was a rating there regarding Him. It wasn't very flattering. I'm pretty sure He doesn't even realize this site exists, so, if I don't show it to Him, it's possible He could go His whole life unaware. Otoh, this IS what He does for a living, (although the people using His services don't have a choice as to whether to use Him or not....it's very specialized) (think of it like, when you go to the hospital, you don't have a choice-usually-as to which doctor or nurse helps you...it's similar to that.) The people that leave the ratings give NO personal info. Not even a user name. I even considered leaving a very good rating even though He hasn't been my _______ before. But, I decided against that. So far. Sooooo...... Any thoughts or suggestions? ~Christina spelling corrected(I hope)

eyesopened -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/21/2008 2:02:16 AM)
Owner4SexSlave was spot on in my opinion. i would tell him. If the negative ratings were from 2 years ago, he might not even care, he might even be aware of the site and thinks its not worth much. Only you know how the timing, coming so soon after the passing of his parents, will effect him and only you know how he's going to take these ratings. However, if you approach it like it's a horrible thing, then he may misinterpret your concern about the comments/ratings as a sign that they caused you to think less of him. If it were me, i tell him immediately (i can't bear the thought of keeping anything to myself) but i would make sure he knew that i did not agree with the assessment of these strangers.

Constrictor1 -> RE: Would you tell Him? (2/21/2008 5:59:29 AM)
I would want to be told. For several reasons. First , there is this thing called a lie of omission, and it is still a lie. Tell your owner the truth always or accept that the relationship may have problems. Second, it's not like you said these things. Someone else's opinion. I would like to believe your master would know the difference and "shoot the messenger" and third, from your description your master seems intelligent enough to read, evaluate , and determine the validity of the negative commentary without somone "protecting" him from some bad words. Apologies for grammar and syntax errors. I have not had my coffee and am a caveman at a keyboard. Constrictor

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