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Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 9:45:32 AM

OnyxDelphi

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My question is a general one that anyone can answer. I am curious as to the favorite scenes you guys have done or would like to do. For example, one that I am currently planning is an interrogation scene (if this question is too personal for you to answer, please don't accuse me of looking for something to get me off. Just don't respond.).
However, I'm also curious as to how often you do scenes, and that if they did not happen often on a consistent basis...would this effect the M/s or D/s relationship? -Master Fiik

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 9:54:43 AM

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Often? I can really vary, a few times a week or a few times a month or sometimes maybe once a month.

If we didn't enjoy them, it would be like if we didn't go to the movies consistently. It wouldn't effect the dynamic between us, but it would effect the fun and fulfillment we have. It's a thing we both mutually enjoy doing together. In this case it just happens to be kinky play. If you took it away, it would be something missing, but it wouldn't mean we'd not be together.

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 10:05:07 AM

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i like to play as often as possible, i have some lovely playmates here and with each person i explore differnt parts of myself.

one person i explore vulnerability and shame, one i explore pain and thresholds, rope and rope magic, one i explore higher protocol, mental control and intimacy.

when my Sir is here, i explore the darkest levels of terror, taboo, shapeshifting, service and slavery...

hard to say my favorite scenes, i love them all.

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 10:19:14 AM

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What can I say I'm more of a meat and potatoes kinda guy.

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 10:42:20 AM

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Preferably we would have time and space to get the toy bag out of the closet a couple of times a week. Mostly it's just a few things in the bedside table that nobody would look at twice.

But we had a full month two years ago with no sex, no play, nothing fun. A root canal that because infected followed by influenza. He was doing all the household stuff and I could barely make a cup of tea. Play was the last thing on our minds. Did it change the dynamic? Not at all. I was told to go to bed and sleep, or at least lie there and I did it.

Play is fun but it isn't what makes him dominant.

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 11:32:32 AM

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We usually have time to scene about once or twice a week. If things get hectic and slow down and we go a month or so without it then takes a while usually to get fully back into the swing of things and does weeken the D/S aspects of the relationship. We are both career people and I swear on the times that we are both really busy we can go a week or more without noticing each other. My favorite scene is done with a wooden dowl across her shoulder blades connected to a hook in the ceiling with a spreader bar on her ankles. My second favorite is her suspended about four feet off the ground on her back with her knees up and back connected to her collar. The type of play in these positions varies a lot of course but the one with the wooden dowel is perfect for interogation type scenes and I love the full body access and she is held right out there..... as in everything is compleatly exposed. The suspended position is better for wax play and pussy torture and she can stay in those positions for a long time. Other favorites are one ankle tied to the ceiling about just high enough to start lifting her hips... this is good for torture because she tries to crawl away and has full movement except that ankle and can produce lots of anxiety. The bit gag and hands restrained behind the back and a line going from the top of the head to the ceiling which is really good for performances and practicing her walk (pony play where attitude and posture are everything.)

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 1:13:10 PM

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Everything is in the play room with the St. Andrews or on it's hook near the bed. Play time always seems to be dictated by his job, sigh, either he's headed out of town, coming back in to town or if we're lucky he gets a week or two IN town!!! When he's home, we dance, and do all the other stuff like pay bills, see movies, etc. that everyone else does. The dynamic of the relationship however never changes. Though right now he is being a tad easier on me as I am doing cold turkey off of smoking a habit I have had for 42 years. Day 3 and counting.

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 2:39:16 PM

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quote:

However, I'm also curious as to how often you do scenes, and that if they did not happen often on a consistent basis...would this effect the M/s or D/s relationship?

Our household (which just today boasts a toilet - YAHOO!) tends to go through periods of uproar. During those times, we don't scene - the energy is not there. Curling up on the couch with a B movie and popcorn feels like paradise.

Other times, we can play more.

The dynamic of the relationship does not change. It is what it is.

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 2:40:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: BlackPhx

Day 3 and counting.

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/20/2008 2:53:07 PM

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Quick reply as I have to go soon:

Firstly good luck to poenkitten and Tracy ... quitting is tough but most likely you will be SO glad you did! Hang in there!

Secondly, re scening - as My Domme side doesn't currently have a sub here I can't say a lot, only that I do love to play and with an enthusiastic subby I would be hoping to get to play weekly or at least a couple of times a month! Things have taken a downturn for my sub side with Master though ... for very understandable reasons such as a stressful poly situation which was resolved by upping tent and moving over 3000 miles across Australia a year ago, then getting established in a brand new small town. In all, W/we've played maybe twice in the last 16 months! Only now is it just starting to affect the dynamic in that i am getting a bit "antsy". Master and i had some "big talks" the last couple of days and are working out some strategies to help restore His sense of Dominance (which has been lost a bit with all the personal changes and stresses) and also to restore my submission to a proper state (i've been getting sloppy and He hasn't been consistent in correction). There is no doubt W/we still love each other, W/we still want to be together ... but in His words "W/we have veered away from what drew U/us together and W/we need to re-establish that to have the most fulfillment in O/our shared lives".

As to types of scenes, impact play, bondage, sensation play, sexual play are Our general favourites. With a sub I also enjoy what I call household challenges and puppy play. Master and i do a little bit of age play in a very light-hearted way. Neither of Us are into more verbal scenes such as humiliation, interrogation or role plays but it's whatever floats your boat!

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/21/2008 7:10:50 PM

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So what are some scenes you guys have done that rank as your favorite?

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/21/2008 9:05:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackPhx

Everything is in the play room with the St. Andrews or on it's hook near the bed. Play time always seems to be dictated by his job, sigh, either he's headed out of town, coming back in to town or if we're lucky he gets a week or two IN town!!! When he's home, we dance, and do all the other stuff like pay bills, see movies, etc. that everyone else does. The dynamic of the relationship however never changes. Though right now he is being a tad easier on me as I am doing cold turkey off of smoking a habit I have had for 42 years. Day 3 and counting.

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Day 2 for me...
Congradulations and good luck

OP- Our dynamic is infalible. Once we open/close the bedroom door, the rest falls away. Changing "scenes" is only but a very small part of our sexual relationship. And that is only a small part of our overall relationship. (small is relative)

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RE: Scenes and their hold on the Household Dynamic - 2/21/2008 9:09:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: OnyxDelphi

So what are some scenes you guys have done that rank as your favorite?

One of my favourite is the coming home from work to My Love all dolled up in Maid-ware, and attending to my every need, WITH OUT my asking. Serving in silence. Only speaking when addressed with a question. As for others... the only way to find out more of our scenes... is to be in them.

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