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Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 9:19:30 PM   
Feric


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Status: offline 		My sub has been transferred via her company to another state, so I am once again searching. Any tips on things to watch out for when choosing a sub?

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 9:25:10 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		well if its subway..you have 5 choices of types of bread...figure that out first.
then you go look at the menu posted on them boards...and decide what you like.
then you have to decide if you want 6" or 12".  then you need to decide what toppings you want..... and finally what sauces you want.... then you gotta get out your money and pay.


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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 9:27:06 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Dont forget to decide whether you want the meal deal or not. Those chips go well with a BMT special

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 9:31:24 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		yes but the question asked was about a sub.  not about meal deal or chips 

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 9:32:39 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Well it looks to me as if you just started a new relationship a month ago?..now she has suddenly been transferred?..and so hence you seek a new submissive the following month?..do I have this right?....Why do you need tips on choosing a submissive?..Dont YOU know what you seek?,,Dont you know what appeals to you?..if you do not know, then I suggest you figure that out first!..Tempting

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 10:51:43 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I have had three hole subs, I am trying to find one with four holes and three tits.

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 10:55:35 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		Michael.. are you willing to count piercings as holes?

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 10:57:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		make sure at least some non-kink activitys match up.



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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 11:06:06 PM   
atursvcMaam


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Status: offline 		They don't seem to have subs here in Philly area, they all seem to turn into hoagies.  i can't figure that one out. 

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 11:09:00 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		hoagies...cheesesteaks... *whimper*

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/20/2008 11:12:09 PM   
PrizedPosession


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Status: offline 		ohh i want a meatball sub now....


and sorry no advice for the OP as i am a sub...but on my end, be yourself, honest, and i am sure you will find a new sub soon enough Good luck

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 12:19:56 AM   
travelgman


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    I believe what these fine folks have been trying to say in their own amusing way.

    Is find a sub you mesh well with as a person. Someone who you want to spend as much time with when she isn't tied and bound or doing whatever kink appeals to you. As you do when she is.
  
I myself have gotten quite lucky. I have  been chatting with a submissive I met on CM.. And from the word go. We have been clicking on all levels. Finishing each others thoughts and sentences. And while we talk about our lifestyle likes and dislikes and what we both are looking for and would expect out of each other as a Dom and sub. These things come naturally as part of the conversation. Rather than being forced out all at once. And just as important to me is the fact that we have so many of the same interests outside of the lifestyle kinks that we share.

 Neither your question nor your profile  state just what kind of relationship you are looking for. Play Partner,  24/7? This factor could also affect what kind of sub you end up looking for.

 

As for Subway. Make sure you get one of the Macadamia cookies for dessert. And don't forget your Bonus Points card.

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 12:26:11 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		I was just trying to say that I miss having access ro honest to god philly cheesesteaks and hoagies.*sigh*

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 12:46:28 AM   
Justme696


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like...him/her
that is my short answer

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 2:47:45 AM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

At OP

like...him/her
that is my short answer


definitely an excellent begining. 

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 3:33:46 AM   
Justme696


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quote:

ORIGINAL: adoracat

quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

At OP

like...him/her
that is my short answer


definitely an excellent begining. 


lol yes..but sometimes people seem to get lost  in difficult questions..while the beginning and the basis can be very simple.

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 4:29:43 AM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

quote:

ORIGINAL: adoracat

quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

At OP

like...him/her
that is my short answer


definitely an excellent begining. 


lol yes..but sometimes people seem to get lost  in difficult questions..while the beginning and the basis can be very simple.


when i was still seein vanilla(ish) guys, one of my rules of thumb was always "be sure he can hold up his end of a conversation".

cause dammit, sooner or later you have to TALK to them. even if its just "pass me a towel, please". 

kitten, who really should get some sleep one of these nights...

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 4:33:50 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Perks up. Did someone say meatball subs. Op leave the yellow submarines alone.

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 4:37:27 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		Really, you are not choosing the sub, the sub is choosing you. You cant club her over the head and drag her home until she gives the green light. So remember to mind your p's and your q's.

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RE: Tips on Choosing a sub? - 2/21/2008 5:27:07 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Make sure to lie to the next one, telling her she's special when the truth is you consider them all as interchangable.

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