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LadyHathor -> RE: Advice (2/24/2008 11:17:09 AM)
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oh dear, I do hate to hear of this kind of thing and I apologize for casting stones--ugh I am so human sometimes, it sickens Me--
if I could offer a bit of wisdom---how you are treated, how you are trained, how you are brought under control---should feel right--there should be a feeling of calm, of comfort, of safety--even in the midst of humiliation, ( if that is a preference)--there should be a developing sense of "yes this may well be right for me", "i like how this is going',"She is testing me, however, it is this that i want"--
I think too many times, submissives think that along the way they must sacrifice themselves in the process--one of the wisest slaves I know says, submission begins when you let go of what brought you here in the first place---it doesn't say, check your person at the door.
I also believe that Dominants forget one very important fact--you are not their submissive until YOU agree to it too----
if it doesn't feel right, chances are it isn't. As for not allowing CM contact or emails--pffttt, IMHO that screams insecurity---screen them, maybe, have other Dominas contact Her instead of you--maybe--but zap community contact---not My style. Remember you too are a human being at the other end of the keyboard, you deserve respect too.
I wish you well.
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