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Are You actively involved in your BDSM community?


Yes, all the time. I/We love it!
  24% (13)
Yes, Occasionally
  18% (10)
Sometimes, but not that often
  14% (8)
No, it doesn't appeal to me
  22% (12)
No, its not right/I'm too private for that
  12% (7)
No, there isn't a BDSM community near me
  7% (4)


Total Votes : 54
(last vote on : 3/24/2008 6:11:36 PM)
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Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 4:20:02 AM   
bislavegirl4434


Posts: 43
Joined: 2/18/2008
Status: offline 		Well, are you? Why? Why not? Personally i'm not the kind of person that could ever get involved in the community that way. Although I have been dragged to a few gay bars in Soho, London by my OTT-Very Dom-Gay friend.

Just wondered what everyone elses view was, and if you would recommend anything.
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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 4:25:37 AM   
TotalState


Posts: 278
Joined: 9/3/2007
Status: offline 		To the extent of going to events, and even lending a hand when required, I sorta involved.

It's tons of fun.  The scene here is small and intimate, and has a lot of great people in it.


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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 4:39:50 AM   
Jayxkes


Posts: 138
Joined: 7/8/2004
Status: offline 		Yes,  we visit the local fetishclub.  I'm also co manager of the York munch and organise events too.

London is full of fetish events of one type or another,  so take your pic!

We're even having discussions about bringing an event down to London that's aimed at those who are new to clubs and public play etc.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 4:42:03 AM   
colouredin


Posts: 4279
Joined: 2/2/2007
Status: offline 		where I am there isnt all that much but i get up to brum whenever I can. Im moving up north in a few weeks and will be involved far more due to the conveniance of it. I love going to fairs and stuff its so comfy and feels like you can totally be yourself without judgement. 

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 5:25:18 AM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Over an hour to the closest munch. As it happens, the members of it I know about appear to be all single males since I've been invited to it repeatedly by men who don't seem to understand the word no. That by itself is a turn off. The other thing is that I live in a small town. I don't want to go into the grocery store and be accosted by someone. I'm a parent, being outed would cause long lasting problems for my ums. Not only would I be a pariah, so would they. They don't deserve that. Plus there's that over an hour drive each way which is dark both ways half the year. And in good weather, I'd rather take the kids mini golfing.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 7:42:24 AM   
kittinSol


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Status: offline 		It doesn't appeal to me.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 7:45:21 AM   
Jeffff


Posts: 12600
Joined: 7/7/2007
Status: offline 		I have to agree

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 7:53:41 AM   
DaddyAndCarina


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Status: offline 		I have tried a time or two but I  really really really  dont like it. So much so that when I was here alone I  wouldnt even chat with  someone that was interested in me if they were envolved in a group

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:10:19 AM   
MsBearlee


Posts: 1032
Joined: 2/15/2006
Status: offline 		I am more than an hour from the closest club that holds munches and parties regularly.  Denver is the next closest at two and a half hours (three or more, depending on traffic).  I'm not interested in attending a function that has me driving around late at night or in bad weather, so I generally don't go this time of year and when I do, I stay overnight with friends.
 
The reason I enjoy these groups, and especially MAsT (which is a group that only gets together to discuss assigned topics)…is for the educational value and camaraderie.  It’s hard to be so involved with something and never be around folks of a like mind; who likes to be so damn secretive?  So, when I go up north, it’s like ‘old home week’ for me; I see friends and meet new people and watch demos and learn new stuff and perhaps get to practice a bit on someone’s backside. 
 
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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:10:48 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		It does not appeal to me. I don't feel the need to "join a club" to prove who I am.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:22:19 AM   
MsBearlee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

It does not appeal to me. I don't feel the need to "join a club" to prove who I am.


Ouch! 
 
While I 'know' you well enough to understand that comment was not directed at anybody in particular, I wanted to add:  neither do I. 
 
As I said, there are several reasons I enjoy rubbing elbows with like-minded people...as proof of who I am, isn't one of 'em.  While my BDSM pals are good friends, they are not my life, either...I have vanilla interests as well.  I am a birder too, and enjoy hikes with other birders now and then, too.  <shrugs>  They don't prove who I am either.
 
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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:24:00 AM   
rubberpet


Posts: 1743
Joined: 4/6/2006
From: The Land of Voodoo
Status: offline 		I wish there was a local BDSM community where I live.  I wish I had time to participate in the ones a few hours away from me, like New Orleans and Houston.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:29:07 AM   
MistressHolly71


Posts: 354
Joined: 7/4/2007
From: Southern Maryland
Status: offline 		No. It's over an hour (traffic permitting) to the nearest club & it doesn't appeal to me anyway.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:33:59 AM   
LaTigresse


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Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline 		Sorry Bearlee, apparently my quick and short sentence came across more curtly than I intended it to.

No, it was not directed at you.


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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:40:29 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		no, i'm not active in the Chicago BDSM scene though i'm good friends with a couple of Dominas and get invited to scenes/parties.  i rarely attend them since they're usually scheduled on the same night when i'm covering a band.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:41:19 AM   
Jeffff


Posts: 12600
Joined: 7/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

It does not appeal to me. I don't feel the need to "join a club" to prove who I am.


I know who you are!!...:)

Ward

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:42:05 AM   
burningdesires47


Posts: 120
Joined: 2/22/2007
Status: offline 		I'd say I'm pretty active.... I go to at least one munch and one discussion group a month, and usually at least one play party... But then, I'm not on a board, I'm not a munch organizer (more than anyone else in the group is, anyway), and I rarely actually PLAY at the play parties. I joined the discussion group I'm in because it's local, and my age group. The munches and play parties I go to to hang out with that group, to spend time with my friends. Outside the discussion meetings, conversation is only about kink about 25% of the time... and that much, only if you count the fact that we're a fairly sexually liberated group that discusses sex and kink laws and politics, as well as planning other events to attend.

That being said, without a group of people to involve myself with, I don't know that I'd be interested. The educational value is magnificent, but I get intimidated by heavy public play without a constant partner. So it's not out of line to say that I'm in the community to open myself to the possibility of a kinky relationship more than I would be otherwise. Besides, it gets me out of the house, which is a rare enough occurrence.

ETA: Wow, that last paragraph is a bit misleading on a second re-read... I don't mean to say that without being involved in the BDSM community I'd be less interested in BDSM. I mean to say that without a steady group to see on a regular basis, I'd be less interested in the community, because I'm there more for the friendship than the kink. Also, not that if I weren't involved I'd be less interested in a kinky relationship, just that I feel being involved opens/increases my chances of finding a kinky partner. I do the online dating thing, but it's not really my preference.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:47:33 AM   
crouchingtigress


Posts: 4387
Joined: 3/19/2006
From: Maui
Status: offline 		Yes, i am no International Ms Leather or anything, but i do what i can to encourage the wonderful, supportive community we have here.

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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 8:56:26 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

It does not appeal to me. I don't feel the need to "join a club" to prove who I am.


I know who you are!!...:)

Ward


Perhaps I should have worded it something like........."for my own personal validation"? OR better yet, "I am a nasty tempered unsociable bitch!"?

June


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RE: Are You actively involved in your BDSM community? - 2/21/2008 9:00:51 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		have not gone for many years.  something very bad happened to me at the last event i went to and will never go again.

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