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As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 1:11:54 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Some of us couldn't really answer the question about forced sharing (along the lines of "you can't force the willing")... so to those of you who are okay with, or even welcome sharing, what is or would be the equivalent in terms of going against your nature that your Dominant could do to you or has done?

For instance, while I am a bit of an exhibitionist, it has always been on my terms. And those terms never involve full nudity, broad daylight, etc.  So if my Dom were to tell me that I was going to be a fully nude demo model for a class, that would seriously rock my world (and not in that good slutty way).

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(who has a feeling this question might be clear as mud, but hopes someone knows what she is asking)


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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 1:33:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		Actually being shared sexually has been in my experiences what rocks my world the most in terms of without being in the “good way” when the act is ordered and carried out. I am monogamous by nature it just does not hurt me that I am not in a monogamous relationship.

The attraction by itself is not the pleasure, it is the fact it rocks my world not in a good way and he still orders it and enjoys it on some level or to show my devotion to him and our way of life that does make it rock my world in terms of a bigger picture. So anything that I am order to do or is done to me that I get no direct pleasure from actually plays into my overall pleasure and number one turn on which is power being exerted over me.

It is why while I do not have a masochistic bone in my body I am completely in love and devoted to a Master who is very much a sadist.


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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 1:35:40 PM   
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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 1:36:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like the question is "What are your limits when it comes to sharing when sharing itself is ok?"

For me it's generally free informed consent and safe sex practices.  Anything else is up for discussion.

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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 2:04:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like I misread the question.

Ignore me if I did.

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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 2:13:40 PM   
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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 2:29:06 PM   
Statepalace


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Status: offline 		I think the question is -

"Forced sharing is a hard limit for some. For those that this does not apply to (can't force the willing) and are fine with being shared, what thing WOULD be the equivalent? Something that would go against your nature, something that would cause a visceral reaction similar to the one that forced sharing causes for others?"


*nope, I'm not brilliant, but I am the one that posted about the nude demo model thing being just fine, while sharing would go against my nature, so I kind of had some insight. 

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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 2:50:25 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Yes, state, that was my question. LOL.  And I usually am of the opinion that I can state what's on my mind. Clearly not today.

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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 3:05:59 PM   
Statepalace


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Status: offline 		Well, I understood your question.

Everybody else was just too busy thinking about being "forced" to have sex with someone other than their Dom, lol. Made their brains all hot and bothered.

I get that way with rope stuff, heh.



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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 3:08:06 PM   
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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 3:28:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Against my nature would be to engage in bondage without My Lord present.  I trust him, but have trust issues with other men.  I don't think that I would enjoy the feeling of being completely helpless without him to act as protector.

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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 3:54:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I dunno, imagine sex with gary coleman. Maybe it is not the concept, but with who?




*twitch*


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RE: As bad as sharing? - 2/21/2008 4:21:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Forced sharing I do not list as a hard limit but something I would prefer not to,  that is with other doms people he knows well with him present,  but being prostituted out by a dom would really rock my boat in a way that is not good

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