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CitizenCane -> RE: Undoing Conditioning... blah (9/18/2005 7:39:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

While I agree that the concept of being someone's knight or rescuer is terribly over-rated, and that taking on the task of completely remaking someone is usually futile and not worth the effort, I fully believe in the concept of training and improving someone.

As a slave I accept and expect that many of my habits and perspectives will be actively changed to suit the Owners purposes. Whether it's quitting ice cream, quitting a job or quitting my worry habits, part of my relationship is such that I accept to work with him to change and train myself to become the best fit for him.

Now, it's usually best to find someone who ALREADY fits to a good degree, or who you will be fulfilled with and can train over time. And sometimes you find after you "fit" with someone, you change and no longer fit eachother at all, that's life.

But I think there's a level of reasonability here that we shouldn't lose sight of- on either side of the fence.


I think this is right. An important aspect is to have a realistic appreciation of what kind of change is possible for a given individual (and this includes their own underlying motivation, among many other things), and what is really involved in achieving it. Most people's ideas on the cost/effect ratio here are simply fantasy.

Cane




firefighteremt -> RE: Undoing Conditioning... blah (9/19/2005 10:39:56 AM)

I don't think that anyone can totally "save" another. I also think its very over rated to be superman to someone who is in need of help in all aspects of their life. I seem to find those who are looking for that in a Dom but its not what I'm looking for. We can tweak and change small things to better suit us. We can take what is a good fit and make it a perfect or nearly perfect fit but you can't put a square peg through a round hole




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