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ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo

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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee

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ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo

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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee
Ya know, I’d prefer to pull my boy up short and have him suck my clit…which I call my little dick. 

that reminds me, this one woman i used to be... more involved with... she never had any names for her own like "little dick", she even hated strap-ons actually, but she always referred to me as having a clit, a clit that is always in the damn way.  

Now see, I'd never do that.  Or call you a skinny worm...or a fat pig...  slut, perhaps...especially MY lovely, cocksucking slut!!!   But then, I'm into nasty little terms of endearment, not that  kind of humiliation.  What did you  think of it when she did so?
 
MsB

it certainly made me sulk a bit, but as little as this thing has ever been of any use, i had to admit that maybe it was a bit superfluous, or just in the way.  but as far as humiliation she didn't really go out of her way to say things like "haha, you could never satisfy a me or any other woman with your little useless clit". 

she sure liked the term slut as well though, but i found this even more degrading and hurtful.  i explained that i'm not slutty, i wouldn't offer myself to just anyone, i found it insulting as if it meant i was promiscuous, and that i was with her not because i held her in higher regards than others, but because i'll do whatever for whoever, whenever.  she asked me if i knew a word that describes a faithful, monogamous, slut.  i thought about it as hard as i could, but could think of nothing and said no.   she said, "then you will just have to get used to the fact that you're my slut, so shut the fuck up you nasty slut."

i was never fond of it these degradations, every time i would hear them it was like mentally getting the wind knocked out of me.  i got to a point where i stopped being surprised on each occasion i would hear them, but i was always taken aback each time.  but despite these things hurting me, there was never anything to forgive, her words would make me feel horrible, but it was as if she could do no wrong, and i couldn't hate her for saying them, i could only hate myself because she thought of me this way.  does that make sense?

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How did you move past any conflicted feelings so that you could just enjoy the process???
I havent - i sometimes cry - and i sometime fantasize uncontrolably about it.

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of how i came to terms with degredation and humiliation.  i found merit in despair because i could still make her happy.  i found comfort in my loathing from the acceptance given by her.  and i felt worthwhile enough because i was still able to satisfy her.  most importantly however, these only hold true because "her" is not speaking of simply anyone, but someone who was special to me.  i can only assume that despite how  far i can be stretched, or in what ways i can be tested, that these things will remain as both my why and my how.

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I have pondered in more than passing circumstances why ther ain't no 'big cocksuckers' only 'little' ones.........anyone out there that can field that? Ron 

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ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

Do you like being a little cocksucker?  If so, do you like it easy?   Or, rough!!??  Would you graduate to forced-bi someday?  Is it humiliating for you?  Or just pleasurable.  How did you feel about yourself after the first few times?
Were you embarassed?  Ashamed?  Especially if you liked it, were the feelings difficult to come to terms with?
How DID you come to terms with it?  How did you move past any conflicted feelings so that you could just enjoy the process???

The more a Domina enjoys making me her cocksucker, the more excitement I get out of it.  It is both humiliating and pleasurable simultaneously.  This is not a contradiction, but rather cause-and-effect.  Humiliation play of all kinds arouses me, and being trained as a cocksucker is certainly strong humiliation play.

The first few times I did it left me in a dazed and confused state.  Naturally, I worried if it would blur the lines of my sexual identity.  I worried that the Domina was preparing me for forced-bi, and I didn't know how I would react to that.

After a while, I learned to stop worrying and enjoy the moment.  My cocksucking of her strap-on and dildos was arousing to her, and increased her appreciation of me.  The forced-bi, although frequently threatened, never materialized in real time.  I was both relieved and disappointed about that.  Again, that is not a contradiction in my mind.  Although I was not anxious to "go all the way", another part of me wanted her to "force" me to face my fears and inhibitions, and be led past them for her pleasure.

As I've grown more mature, I worry less about the effect on my sexuality.  IMHO, being homosexual or bi-sexual has nothing to do with sucking cock or not.  Like being Dominant or submissive, it is a desire that comes from deep within one's soul.  Without that inner urge, sucking on any number of cocks, rubber or flesh, just makes me a little more entertaining as a submissive to certain Dominas.

Hard or soft?  Well, I like my teeth, too, but again it depends on the skill and enthusiasm of the Domina...but what doesn't??

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The more a Domina enjoys making me her cocksucker, the more excitement I get out of it.  It is both humiliating and pleasurable simultaneously.  This is not a contradiction, but rather cause-and-effect.  Humiliation play of all kinds arouses me, and being trained as a cocksucker is certainly strong humiliation play.

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

I know there's been a few threads on strap-on play.  But I want to talk about it from a cocksucking perspective.
I love to make a subject suck my cock.  I love to grab his hair and push his head down until he chokes.
I like to walk him through learning to deep-throat.  Oh...yesssssssss.....deep throat my strap on.  THAT IS HOT!!
I like it when their saliva gets really thick in the back of their throat from taking it deep and then making them spit on my cock.  I like slapping you in the face with my cock and wiping the juice all over.  Taunting you.  Humiliating you.
Do you like being a little cocksucker?  If so, do you like it easy?   Or, rough!!??  Would you graduate to forced-bi someday?  Is it humiliating for you?  Or just pleasurable.  How did you feel about yourself after the first few times?
Were you embarassed?  Ashamed?  Especially if you liked it, were the feelings difficult to come to terms with?
How DID you come to terms with it?  I know there is someone out there that is going to be reading this thread, so I would like some helpful advise from you subbies/slaves out there on how you got over the fact that you found this type of play stimulating.  How did you move past any conflicted feelings so that you could just enjoy the process???

How did you move past any conflicted feelings so that you could just enjoy the process???
i would hope the connection between myself and my Mistress, my Domme, my protector, would make that possible.

again. a GREAT topic and post. there also being a number of other terms that could be used, things a sub could be called, that would no-doupt deserve their own topics.

this is a bit off-topic, but i have learned that the mental is 60% or more, then the physical. however, i never felt more fulfilled then when, after trying MANY different types of strapon toys, the One that introduced me to strapon use, came multiple times during O/our first session of finding just the right combination of toys, angle, and force with wish i thrust back.

hope You have a great day and love Your open, honest, and RAW, postings m'Lady!

mark

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there also being a number of other terms that could be used, things a sub could be called, that would no-doupt deserve their own topics.

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mark,

A very awesome response that I'm sure will draw quite a few out of their shell and help them to, perhaps, enjoy the gusto of that type of scene.  This is the 2nd time you have "stepped up" to share in a manner that can be quite beneficial to both subs and Dommes alike.

Now as for the other terms referenced in your quote above...(of which I have quite a repitoire, myself), I would love for you to mention a couple and we will see what kind of brew we can stir! 

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I`m scared again..... lol

The humiliation aspect to this must be quite something.

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How do you get over it? You dont. You enjoy the fact that you feel ashamed and embarrassed and turned on, and that you did it anyway. Just like any kink you might be ashamed of liking, learn to savor the shame

~submissiveAK~

P.S> I'm a bisexual slut trapped in a shy male's body, can I play?

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    Okay, I’ll bite. Or at least open my mouth wide and take the question all the way in. Just the way You want me to, just the way You like it. But I want to lick around  it first, Mistress Venus,  all around. Get it wet, so it slides better. So I don’t have to taste that nasty rubber taste, but my own saliva. Please don’t put a condom over it, that is worse, I hate that. Let me pretend that I’m taking it from You bare. You’d rather see me do it that way anyway.  I’ll take a few passes at it from the side, with my mouth around it,  like a harmonica or a corn cob. And then take the head into my mouth and suck on it like a tootsie pop. Make some mmph and mmm sounds I’ll hope You’ll enjoy. So You’ll give me some time to get it all wet and slippery before.....before You get tired of watching me get myself ready for it. Work myself up to it. Before You reach around my head and grab the hair on both sides , or put one hand behind  my head to push it deeper in.

   Yep, You got me on this one,  Mistress Venus. Skewered on  the end of that big fat black dildo on You’re wearing. Impaled on my own drooling need to get down on my knees and suck on it for You while You look down. And maybe tell me some of those nasty things You so love to say to me while I’m down there in that position.

   I still can’t believe I was naive enough the first time not to realize what deep throating really felt like. How many blow jobs had I gotten when vanilla and taken for granted? How many times had I taken a   woman’s head and pushed it in deeper ‘cause I liked the feel.  Until that first time when I found out what  it did to my gag reflex. When I found out what it was like for all those girls. And I have to admit, they all took it a lot better than I did.  I’ll never forget gagging and coughing and thinking I was going to throw up with that thing so deep in me.  Wanting it out.  And she laughed and didn’t stop. She loved seeing me gag on it.

   Waterboarding? Ha!

   I still don’t like deep throating it. But I love to hold it tightly in my mouth or against the side of my cheek so that I can press it back against You. Hoping that I’ll press against Your labia and clit and that You will start to enjoy it for real. Not just because I’m down there, but because it feels good. Looking up at You , when I can, on the outstroke, or what I can see of You up there from down on my knees. Mostly though looking at the harness as it moves closer or slams into me.

   Then it doesn’t matter to me what I look like to You or to myself. Cause I just love that feeling of having You do it to me. Knowing that nothing else makes me feel so submissive, so open, so used and taken (unless that is, You decide later to use  it somewhere else too). There’s nothing to come to terms to with. I want You to do it to me, I want to feel how it makes You feel when You do it.

   The only thing I don’t like is when You ask me if I want a “real” one. This is a real one to me. What makes it hot and real and nasty is that it’s on You. That You are doing it to me.  That I can smell Your perfume. And Your smells, A Woman’s smells, while se  makes me take it. I don’t want a man, I don’t want the smell or the feel of one,  I don’t want to see his hairy  thighs. I want to see Yours: a woman’s. That’s the only reason I do it. Cause You strapped it on and because You love doing it to me and seeing me do it.

   If only....if only You would buy one of the kind that You could squeeze a bulb and make it cum inside me, into my mouth, down my throat. Even all over my face. That’s the one thing I’ve never felt. The one thing You’ve never given me yet.

   Please Mistress? I've done this for You.  Right here. Will You do that for me?

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very misleading thread title...thought someone called me...as you were Ladies....{{{walks off sulking...}}}