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MistressDidi -> RE: finding a mistress (7/29/2004 10:33:20 AM)
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ORIGINAL: sarbonn
Part of the problem for potentials in asking questions in the very beginning is there are some extremely reactive women in the scene these days that if you don't say the right thing, they cut of communication immediately, and that's the end of that. As communications on the net can be misinterpreted very easily, this fact makes it REALLY difficult for a potential submissive to want to be forthcoming with questions towards someone who may just cut commo lines and not want to speak again.
For Me, the problem is the lack of manners potentials have when they approach Dommes. you get back what you put out there. If you want to discuss your expectations, which is part of the "sane" in "safe, sane & consentual", then you need to learn how to speak with the ultimate respect -- otherwise, your actions may be interpreted as attempts to top from the bottom and you will be dismissed -- unless that's what She enjoys.
Also, do your research on the Domme you desire. My website offers all of the things I like and dislike in a sub and you will find that most real Mistresses list their requirements on their websites, as well. If the Domme doesn't have a website, respectfully request to learn what Her likes/dislikes are. Remember, you are requesting Her time, so tribute. (And if you're one of those cheap-os who only thinks a tribute is monetary, do some more research and view ProDommes' websites to see how many creative ways you can tribute a Domina.)
I have offered a FREE resource with suggestions on how to approach a Domme - click below:
How To Approach A Mistress
The original poster really needs to pay attention to what I say here because -- and it could be frustration being expressed -- the post completely lacks respect when speaking about Dommes.
As for women being reactive, We are reacting to something -- so, what did you do? Check yourself.
For example, I cannot tell you how many idiots think they can call Me by My first name and have never met Me before, certainly have not received My permission, and most definitely have not served Me to deserve any special treatment whatsoever. And typical of the idiots they are, they whine like spoiled brats and take offense when I dismiss them.
So, remember: presentation is everything.
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