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juliaoceania -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 6:51:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalista07 If You found out that due to some medical issue You would never again have sex with Your Dom/Master would You stay? What if He offered to allow You to leave the relationship, would You stay? There are plenty of ways to achieve sexual pleasure without penetration... of course I would stay

StormsSlave -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 6:56:42 AM)
There's more than one way to please a man. Aside from that, yes, I would stay. What we have here is amazing, unique, and all-encompassing. I never want to be without him.

krikket -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 6:57:16 AM)
I have done so in the past, and would probably do so in the future. Like Julia said there's more than one way to exchange pleasure. The problem comes, imho, when the one who can't feels guilty and won't talk about it, when there's absolutely no touching, even of the minds, much less of the hands. But...that's a whole 'nother thread. Ultimately, however, it's a decision that should be reached by both. Good luck!! jimini

SubbieOnWheels -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 6:58:09 AM)
I have seen at least two marriages (vanilla, but committed and loving) that stayed together even without sexual intercourse. In one case the husband had erectile dysfunction (before Viagra). They slept in the same bed but did no more than cuddle. The cuddling, however, was very warm and loving. My mother was informed, after complications in childbirth, that she should not get pregnant again. At a time when effective birth control was not available, she and my dad talked about it and came to the decision that they would no longer have intercourse. They remained happily (well, as happily as any other couple I've known) for 48 more years. They satisfied their desire for more children by adopting. You have to examine what your relationship fundamentally is. Is it mostly physical, and your affection for him stems from his physical effect on you? Then you need to approach things from that angle. But if your love for him is soul-deep and you know it is forever, then think about it as if it were a marriage. And the traditional wedding vows do say something about "in sickness and in health," don't they? >>edited because my keyboard doesn't think plurals should end in "s"<<

TracyTaken -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 7:01:11 AM)
quote: If You found out that due to some medical issue You would never again have sex with Your Dom/Master would You stay? Yes, I would stay. I would hope that if the situation was reversed, he would stay too.

crouchingtigress -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 7:35:04 AM)
for me thea answer is in your own sig line... quote: True strength lies in submission which permits one to dedicate his life, through devotion, to something beyond himself. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~Henry Miller

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 8:00:01 AM)
It would depend on the type of relationship we had together. Meaning not all D/s, M/s relationships have sexual relations involved in them. I personally would stay because of the love and connection we have with each other.

LadyHathor -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 8:22:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalista07 If You found out that due to some medical issue You would never again have sex with Your Dom/Master would You stay? What if He offered to allow You to leave the relationship, would You stay? *This life is well more than sex, someday we will all be old and sex nonexistent---My concern would be more, He offered one to leave, but what did He do to offer them to stay?*

toservez -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 9:06:41 AM)
I can pretty much agree with what everything has been written for the most part but this is such a loaded type question. I could see myself easily be with my Master if tomorrow medically he could no longer penetrated me but continued to be affectionate and concerned about my sexual satisfaction. At the same time I would not stay with him if that would mean no longer being sexually affectionate with me and uncaring about this area and how it affects me. I know this because it happen to me. My previous relationship the last two years the amount of times sex or any affection happen I would need less then one hand to count. Love for my Master could only go so far. Now this could be a chicken and egg thing and unique to our relationship but what lacked in this area started to spread to the M/s dynamic and creep into all things of our life. His stubbornness to seek medical help and lack of caring about my needs for some level of intimacy combined with my frustration and growing despair was the main catalyst in the relationship falling apart. I think in theory this is an easy question to answer but my reality has shown that you just cannot strip sex away and think it might not affect other aspects of your relationship. I think with any person who is affectionate and/or has a sex drive that if it was stripped away would be a very significant change. So to me it would come down to how much effort the person with the medical problem commits to the other. If they are not willing to adjust or put in effort and just expect the other to deal then I see a major problem. If they are willing to adjust, change and put effort in I could easily see where a loving relationship could be easily maintained.

sweetwenchie -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 9:14:15 AM)
There are other ways to achieve pleasure and intimacy beyond penetrative sex. i would stay, and find other ways to give Him pleasure. i crave sex, and would miss it, but if the love and devotion were strong, i believe anything can be overcome.

MsBearlee -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 9:24:25 AM)
If, by this question, the OP meant no physical intimacy at all, ever…I’d leave. Like so many have pointed out already, there is so much more to life than penetration (regardless of whose dick we use!), but I’m not going to live with someone who is incapable of warm intimate cuddling and even hot monkey-sex…regardless of how we achieve it. MsB

azropedntied -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 9:27:47 AM)
If your questioning if to stay or not to stay just due to "sex" there is already doubt , thats a shame .There is so many more things than just the act of sex or intercourse . Lack of all sexual contact yeah that would be tough , lack of the act of intercourse come on use the imagination a bit .YOUR kinky Think people think [:D] I am almost positive many other acts of pleasurable sexual things can come to mind . Use your biggest sex organ YOUR BRAIN [:)]

Skully7000 -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 10:00:52 AM)
ONE WORD: HITACHI!!!

azropedntied -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 10:45:22 AM)
Skully > the other fun word though more pricey . Sybian [:D]

APhacetoSit -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 11:17:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalista07 If You found out that due to some medical issue You would never again have sex with Your Dom/Master would You stay? What if He offered to allow You to leave the relationship, would You stay? Just a humble suggestion...Look at yourself in the mirror, and say the following words. "i will love You until the end of time....i will miss You, but i will love You." Look at Yourself in the mirror right after having said this. if you don't cringe, or burst out in hysterical laughter or shy away, then leave. otherwise, try to figure out a way to make it work for Y/you both. Good luck and best wishes for all involved.

Smoothicen -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 11:31:11 AM)
This is a personal choice Kalista and it depends on the individual and the relationship. How much does sex mean to your relationship and how much value do you place on the relationship without it? You and your dom may also ask yourselves if you're willing to obtain sex outside of your relationship and if so, is it a choice that you're both willing to live with? Answering these questions may help. Best of luck.

Skully7000 -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 12:04:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azropedntied Skully > the other fun word though more pricey . Sybian [:D] my friends and I had a little late night Sybian ride at AVN in vegas last month... we found out the next day we had burnt the motor out. I do love a sybian.

DesFIP -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 12:07:54 PM)
Okay, say he gets diabetis and becomes impotent. That doesn't mean I can't have sex with him, it just means I can't have penis in vagina sex. He still has hands, mouth, toys to use. Now if he chose, because he couldn't orgasm, to refuse me anymore orgasms, then no I wouldn't stay. More because of his selfishness than anything else. If I'm doing everything I can to make him happy, then it shouldn't be such a big deal to lend me a hand for 20 minutes.

CreativeDominant -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 12:26:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalista07 If You found out that due to some medical issue You would never again have sex with Your Dom/Master would You stay? What if He offered to allow You to leave the relationship, would You stay? Another one of those reallllllllly loaded questions. I was married to a woman who rarely engaged in sexual relations with me for the last 4-5 years we were together. First, it was anxiety...then it was not getting enough sleep...then it was unresolved anger issues. All of these called for medication and counseling. Sadly, she sought out the first but never the second after one or two sessions each time...seems she did not like what the counselors had to tell her. Last I knew, she was being treated for depression AND anxiety. Does the above mean that I don't believe that there are medical conditions that create a lack of sexual interest or an inability to engage in sex any longer? No...I know there are. But I would be one of those who would definitely seek a second opinion and, because of my past circumstances, I would want to be there to hear exactly what is said. Would I stay? Given what I went through, I doubt it. But then, I do my best to find out before things get going too deep what sort of sexual partner I am considering getting involved with. Things happen...that is the course of life. But to get involved with someone that within a year let's say, began to experience sexual difficulties...that is a tough call. If there could be engagement in other forms of sexual play, then yes. But no sex? Sorry...been there, done that, have the wasted years to show for it. Don't want to go there again. If that makes me shallow, then shallow I am. You don't say whether the medical condition is yours or his. If it is his and he has offered you a choice to leave, that is a choice only you can make. I've given my reasons for staying/leaving above. If it is yours and he is offering you the choice to leave...then I have to say that he is giving himself a bit of an easy out by laying a decision that should be his...or a joint one...on you alone.

azropedntied -> RE: would You stay? (2/22/2008 12:50:06 PM)
LOL skully , looks like you and your plas may have to get the twin turbo nitro hemi version [:D]

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