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Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/17/2005 7:38:49 PM   
Mistressfionn


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Status: offline 		I went into chat earlier tonight and was pm (withought the persona asking me for permission first, boy is that just rude or what) and was asked a question. I answered and my answer basically hinted that I was not interested in said person. Well this person went on to say "oh your one of them, there are lots people like you here". "People like you just discust me". When I asked this person what they were refering to they said that I was a pedophile. When I asked where this person got this information from because I was not a pedhophile they continued to say "I don't want to talk to you, you make me feel dirty".

For one I am in no way a pedophile I am completly against that type of so called activity and in now way does my profile condone this activity or even hint that I am into this activity. So my question is, is this a normal responce some people do when your turn them down or is this person just messed up. I hope this person does not go around saying that I am a pedhophile to others.

I am very new to this group and I was schocked when this person accused me of such behaviour.

Some input please.
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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/17/2005 7:45:33 PM   
siamsa24


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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/17/2005 7:48:01 PM   
onceburned


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(which is scary when you think about it)

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/17/2005 7:50:24 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		Some pepole will act like children when the person they want to have contact whit, dont want to have contact whit them and make up a it is nothing wrong whit me, it have to be somthing wrong whit them thing. Or it could be he found out you were into BDSM some seam to think that becouse a peron like to tie somone down and whip them or whatever, they also like to molest children, have sex whit animals and corpses, preferable all at once, likein the joke the guy that say, I am a pedofil, zoofil, homofil, necrofil, therefore i can only have set whit dead male baby animals, some pepole just are so ignorant.

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/17/2005 8:29:26 PM   
DreamyLadySnow


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some people are freaks, that's all there is to it. No it is not normal chatroom behavior, not from what I've seen.
I hope you come back (our room, bdsm_canada) seems like a friendly, non-idiotic room.

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/17/2005 8:33:29 PM   
EvilGeoff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mistressfionn

..... So my question is, is this a normal responce some people do when your turn them down or is this person just messed up. I hope this person does not go around saying that I am a pedhophile to others.



Welcome to online. Where any nutjob with a computer can come and play. Literally.

Some suggestions about dealing with people online:

#1 - Assume that no one is who or what they say they are until they offer some sort of proof. Online you can claim to be anyone or anything. Many people are. If they can't or refuse to offer proof of identity, get references, or watch their online behavior for consistency and sanity. At least you might get a wiff of pending trouble that way.

#2 - Do not, under any circumstances, volunteer your personal information to someone until they pass rule #1.

#3 - Don't take it personal. If a nutjob goes off on you, remember that everyone online can have a pair of coconuts and clap them to make it sound like they are riding a horse. Even if the closest they have ever been to one was watching Westerns on TV. Keep your own coconuts handy. See Rule #1.

#4 - Proceed with caution, because no one follows rules #1 - #3 very well.

#5 - Online is populated by trolls, horney net geeks (HNG's), users and abusers, predators, people pretending to be into BDSM or leather or whatnot (posers). Anyone can learn the lingo and talk the talk. Very few can walk the walk. Until they prove otherwise, assume that chatter is after one thing - sex. Either cyber, phone or real.

#6 - Online, EVERYONE has a safeword. It's called the OFF SWITCH. Use whenever necessary. *grin*

#7 - There is NOOOOooo Rule #7!

Use what works for you, discard the rest.

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/17/2005 11:41:30 PM   
Ojedieu


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mistressfionn

I went into chat earlier tonight and was pm (withought the persona asking me for permission first, boy is that just rude or what) and was asked a question. I answered and my answer basically hinted that I was not interested in said person. Well this person went on to say "oh your one of them, there are lots people like you here". "People like you just discust me". When I asked this person what they were refering to they said that I was a pedophile. When I asked where this person got this information from because I was not a pedhophile they continued to say "I don't want to talk to you, you make me feel dirty".



Well my guess is it was someone who was just baiting you to get a reaction -- y'know someone with no life and no other way of entertaining themselves. Just ignore them.

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 12:15:09 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Would that we could do an immediate ID on people like this and some others and with one keystroke either melt their computer down to a smoking pile of rubble (and hopefully the user with it) or at least delete them from humanity. we'd all be better off.



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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 1:40:41 AM   
frenchpet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EvilGeoff
#3 - Don't take it personal. If a nutjob goes off on you, remember that everyone online can have a pair of coconuts and clap them to make it sound like they are riding a horse.

Especially since we don't have to wait for the swallows to bring them from Africa any more.

I had something serious to say, I think... can't remember but anyway, don't worry about this kind of idiots. And welcome aboard.

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 2:07:29 AM   
MissDiandSirHugh


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Status: offline 		This may be the word of the month with it being seen so often nowdays on every news service.
Just remember the "Sticks and stones" saying and as soon as you start saying it just close off from the person throwing them if they have a profile at where ever see if you can put a little note there to inform others of their behaviour as well or even be spitefull and post it for all to see that may not melt their computer but may burn their typeing fingers.
G'Day and Welcome also Mistressfionn dont let one sad case destroy a great thing in not only chatrooms but the internet as well.

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 2:27:13 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		I't so difficult to weed out the following:

  • underage children playing while Mommy does the laundry or is at work!
  • the deeply disturbed
  • prison inmates
  • law enforcement investigators
  • dangerous predators
  • money scammers, identity thieves
  • silly people in general

I've gotten to where I block someone at the FIRST red flag. If it doesn't feel right, block it and don't give it another thought.

Texas Maam

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 6:22:05 AM   
FTopinMichigan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ojedieu

Well my guess is it was someone who was just baiting you to get a reaction -- y'know someone with no life and no other way of entertaining themselves. Just ignore them.


I agree. I truly feel they are onliners that do this type of contact as their fetish interest. They get off on saying such things, and even more so, if they are able to get any type of reaction from the person they contact.

K

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 6:26:38 AM   
cellogrrlMK


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Status: offline 		Mistressfionn, you must have been in the lobby, yes? There are plenty of rooms here to visit, where the ops quickly and mercilessly dispatch those who don't follow room rules of PM'ing without permission.

I hope to meet you in one of them one day.

cello

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 8:44:56 AM   
MstrHellsFury


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Status: offline 		I just have a few simple things I do...

1. if someone comes to me without asking first..if it is a polite thing I still express that a request to do so is proper...and I may or maynot continue

2. my usual response..I ignore

3. I permenantly ignore...

unless the sky is falling and I'm not aware of it...there's nothing I do on my computer that I don't control...

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 8:48:24 AM   
WickedKev


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Status: offline 		A chat room I go into regularly has people, one in particular, who keep coming in and insulting people just trying to upset everyone. I pay these people no heed, I get called all sorts of names etc etc but I won't let them win nor wind me up. I treat them as what they are poor little cowards sitting on a computer and they can act big because there is no real consquences to thier actions. In real life they are just scared little people. Most in the chat room I know real life and I refuse to give it up just because of the idiots. I wouldn't let it bother you what he said you know yourself so just dismiss him as one of the little people.

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 9:06:52 AM   
perfection20005


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Status: offline 		Sounds to me like they can't handle rejection very well. They have to make up excuses as to why you wouldn't want them.
If you are on a Collar Me chat room, the person is suppose to ask you first before they PM you. If this happens with out your permission, tell the chat room monitors. I have had the happen and they get booted out of the chat room if they do PM without asking first.

BTW I love your hair, I'm trying to get mine that long, but I don't know if it will ever get there!

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 11:25:24 AM   
slavedesires


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quote:

ORIGINAL: siamsa24

This is one of the many reasons that I keep far, far away from the chat rooms



me too

besides there are somedays even my cat thinks i am a terroist

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 12:06:48 PM   
DrkAngl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mistressfionn

I am very new to this group and I was schocked when this person accused me of such behaviour.

Some input please.


Ok, I get wierdos all the time. Most insult because they just wanna jack off and you don't wanna play their game. Me, I'm not looking for anyone, and usually when they find that out, that's when I get insulted. Sounds like that's what happened to you. They didn't like your answer of "NO", I've noticed a lot of guys cannot take it, and decided the best way to make you feel guilty was to insult you.

I've learned to ignore it or put them on ignore. It's not you, it's their own insecurities.

If they are bugging the whole chat room then the room operators can block them out. If they change their nick and continue to harass in email even though I might have put them on ignore in chat, that's when I contact the owners of CollarMe and let them handle it.


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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 12:31:53 PM   
ehlovindom


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Status: offline 		Normal behaviour? Well that all depends of what you believe normal to be! I think other responses have answered your question but something that hasn't been suggested is that you should have messaged one of the OPS (they are listed at the top of the list of names of people chatting, usually with an identification that they are OPS), not so much for the PM without asking, but more so for the content of what the person said.

Don't let one bad message spoil the chatrooms, they need more Canucks!

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RE: Is this normal behaviour in chat??? - 9/18/2005 12:32:49 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

"People like you just discust me". When I asked this person what they were refering to they said that I was a pedophile. When I asked where this person got this information from because I was not a pedhophile they continued to say "I don't want to talk to you, you make me feel dirty".
I'm Sorry Fionn,
but you played right into his hands, by defending such insanity. If you're going to chat, you need to learn the block button can become your best friend when there are a lot of weird/insane people around who get off on ruffling your feathers.
There was a thread that spoke of how bad people can be even when not in chat, so get used to online world. I like EvilGeoff's rules. M
http://www.collarchat.com/Worst_rejection_reactions_%2D%2D_subs%2C_what_NOT_to_do/m_145321/tm.htm

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