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EvilKitty -> RE: MALE DOMS DISRESPECTING FEMALE DOMMES (2/25/2008 12:19:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
I dunno..."Contessa Tigressa" has a certain ring to it. [:D] Especially if you rrrrroll that "r".
Actually, I hadn't really considered these titles from the old class nobility before....but weirdly, I can see why they might have a certain appeal.
I don't generally go for general domme titles, but people are always asking me what you're supposed to call a Femme Domme if you want to aproach her politely, and I never have a solid answer. I have to admit, though, that if everyone were part of some kind of universal protocol, "Contessa" would pretty much kick ass all over "Mistress" and "Ma'am" as a general term for dominant women, for a number of reasons.
"Contessa" or "Baroness" or whatever is a title that asserts your dominant nature as a right of birth, for one thing--and I do believe that most people who are dominant are probably born with the inclination, regardless of when they start to express it. "Contessa" also asserts your dominant nature without insinuating a sexual or personal D/S relationship with anyone in particular--people can call you "contessa" without behaving as if you've already collared them.
"Contessa" also asserts dominance without insinuating that anyone you meet is automatically your inferior (after all, there can be many nobles in any country!) and it asserts dominance without making reference to your age. You can be a Contessa at 18 or 80--it's not something that comes and goes relative to another person's status. Whereas "Ma'am" always implies an older woman to me, due to rural upbringing--I find it awkward to be called "ma'am", especially by men my own age.
And of course, it gives you that nice division there between your D/S world and your vanilla life! If someone calls you "Contessa", you're in Kinkland.
Still gonna stick with my own way for now, I think. But if the Female Supremacists take over the world, I am TOTALLY going to stake out a Barony somewhere in the north and have my castle guarded by shirtless men with tribal tattoos and silver nipple rings.
And...um...polar bears.
Screw it, I'm a Baroness, I can do what I want. [:)]
I've been Lady Cat ever since I HAD to have some sort of a name to be announced by with the fetish troupe. Just plain "Cat" isn't terribly smooth or lyrical in sound. I couldn't get past "Mistress", since it denoted having mastered something that I doubt I'll ever master. But my mama raised me to be a lady, so I decided it wasn't too pretentious & could stand being called by it. Unfortunately, I've also been in this medieval club for 28years & have earned the titles of Lady, then Baroness, then Countess. But Countess Cat for a BDSM name? I'd have constantly been snarfing my drinks or spewing them on others in laughter! But both B & C mean the medieval club to my mind, so I'm not comfortable with 'em. "Goddess of the Whole Freaking Universe & Anything Else that isn't Nailed Down" Nah, not even with MY sense of humor! So....Lady.....sounds polite but not greedy to me; who was raised never to call an adult by their first name till invited.
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