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Public - 9/18/2005 3:47:22 AM

Dom4UA

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If you and your slave are out in public,how do you carry on the lifestyle?I guess another way of asking this is do you expect the same behaviour in public as in private?

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 4:32:44 AM

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My Master does! Respect is the key here. I would never speak/act to my Master in any way disrespectful. The vanilla public really pays no attention to it, but then it really isn't anything different than what they say and do in public.

Mind you, if my Master felt I needed reprimanding, it wouldn't matter if we were in the vanilla public or not.

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 5:05:02 AM

CanisMajor

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Do I expect the same behaviour? No.

But I do expect a certain standard of behaviour. As lustiwench mentioned, doing something disrespectful to anyone is almost never permitted (we're of the opinion that all people deserve respect, unless they've done something to lose it). I also insist on competence and efficiency if we're out with some sort of goal in mind. I expect orders to be followed; if I'm inclined to give them, they should be considered important. On the other hand, I don't expect the deference that I sometimes do in private, and I don't expect some of the little rituals that we enjoy to be carried out in public, so there are some points of difference between public and private behaviour.

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 6:17:25 AM

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Hehehe, the girlfrind of a frind of mine once belived my Dom was bad for me and had to mutch control over me, and that was before we started doing D/s.

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 9:30:12 AM

MstrHellsFury

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there's only one thing different in most public situations...the dress at home is much different..(can't go running around neeked in public)...other than basic clothing...if you think I care what others think of who I am I what I do...well just stop by the old hometown and see for yourself...

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 9:58:41 AM

sweetpettjenny

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Well i act no differently in public than i do in private. If we were to go over friends house for movies id be happily sitting near his knees . There are many ways to keep the same behavior and no one would question it.

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 10:06:34 AM

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It really depends on what you mean by "same behavior". Do I defer to Master and provide service? Yes. Do we engage in corporal, nudity or sex in public? No

I believe that the general public did not consent to see those things. I'd hate to have to have some parent explain kinky behavior or sex to child before they're ready. I'm generally against doing things to shock the general public.

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 11:15:13 AM

Hallittlelolita

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i act the same way as i do in private i call Master, Master at all times but i do it in distinct manner in a low tone of voice not flamboyant about it and i wear my collar all the time as well

Sincerely andie and her Master Hal

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 6:04:03 PM

fastlane

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OMG....If I did in Public what I do and demand in Private....Fastlane would be a Martha Stewart, wannabe....inprisoned!

In Public, I am so nice and kind, with friends that surround me. PURE VANILLA

In private...I'm a mean Dominating, selfish, MF, who will get his way always, or punishes someone severely for disobeying.

Don't all Doms act this way?

Hey, but that's just me

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 9:10:57 PM

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I guess I'm the one 'out' here. My Sub is allowed to act different in public than in private. I still require the respect but I don't make her say "Yes Sir" and "No Sir", but she is allowed to be my friend and companion, not a 'Sub'. I also don't have her at my feet when I sit. It just wouldn't work with my Vanilla friends who all know my wife. My Sub has two distinct roles. A public one and a private one.

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RE: Public - 9/18/2005 9:45:58 PM

petwolf22

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i think i would like certain routines in public, even something small like where you walk and opening doors, that can be discreet and very "normal" looking to everyone else, but still something you go out of your way to do and to show your not so obvious submission.

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RE: Public - 9/19/2005 3:11:43 AM

softysub

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It would be like lustiwench said, act in a respectful way toward Him. Also, i would never walk in front of Him unless told to do so. Because i know if i didn't, there would have been consequences.

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