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Public discipline - 9/18/2005 3:49:26 AM

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Have you ever been disciplined in public,and if so how?

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 4:34:22 AM

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No, I haven't been. My Master wouldn't hesitate though if He felt I needed it.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 6:07:51 AM

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Yes i have and i must say it was embarassing and i felt broken emotionally from it. because others saw something , ( i was punished publically for something i did wrong privately).

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 6:18:28 AM

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Is this a normal thing to be punished in public for something done in private?

Do a lot of Masters/Doms do this?

Can a Master/Dom agree to keep punishment private, or are you bound but what he wants?

Sorry for the questions but I am seeking to be a submissive and am trying to learn the boundaries.

I don't want to be punished in public, not because I can't take it but because this part of my life, at least for now is private.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 7:09:26 AM

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Well it depends, if that is a limit one sets, that things like punishments should be kept private, then private they are, i think it wary grately, some punish in public, while others keep a vanilla aperance when in public, it depends on the pepole involved in the relationship in wuestion.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 7:20:35 AM

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I've never needed to be - He just has to look at me and I know. We've been together a while tho' and neither of us were into public displays of anything and this works better than any words or (physical) discipline he could give.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 9:13:46 AM

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I agree with Nella. My Master would never do anything like punish me in public because he wants to keep His lifestyle life private(if that made any sense). It just depends on the people involved, and where the public is. If it was with others in the lifestyle, I believe he would do it if I needed it.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 9:33:13 AM

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Discipline is not necessarily the same thing as being punished.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 9:46:52 AM

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Well my relationship was Master/slave so really it was his choice to do so..even though it was upsetting to me.

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Is this a normal thing to be punished in public for something done in private?

Do a lot of Masters/Doms do this?

Can a Master/Dom agree to keep punishment private, or are you bound but what he wants?

Sorry for the questions but I am seeking to be a submissive and am trying to learn the boundaries.

I don't want to be punished in public, not because I can't take it but because this part of my life, at least for now is private.

Beth

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 9:48:09 AM

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Good point. She's always disciplined in public. I haven't punished her in public because it hasn't been necessary.

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Discipline is not necessarily the same thing as being punished.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 9:58:35 AM

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Based on the replys, I think the public discipline would be very effective. It felt emothionally breaking, because it was meant too, it was meant to drive a point home.... smiles...

Master would if I did something that bad, but as I would like to remain his, I know the rules.... and wouldn't do anything like that.

For those, it may be a hard limit, or maybe you wouldn't mind but your situation demands that you keep your private life just that, private. It isn't abusive to discipline in public, it's just someone cvhoice to do it.... just the way they choose to handle a situation. I think that's one of the things that should be talked about before entering into a relationship of this nature.

Ok, off to find coffee...smiles... Good morning everyone!!!

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 10:17:09 AM

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i have not been punished in public. and while a punishment might carry out into public, such as not being allowed to touch Him in a certain way for a certain period of time, an actual punishment would occur in private.

however, the OP asks about being disciplined. and for my part, i have had Master discipline me in public. sometimes, this is something as simple as a veiled pinch on the nipple (that Man can get it through a bra, a sweater, and a coat while looking in another direction!) for poking Him in the ribs when He was teasing me.

with Him, discipline is more than a swat on the ass, it is control, and even a little behaviour modification. it is very important that respect is maintained, mine for Him, His for me, and respect between us and anyone else.

There are times when i feel the active discipline (think of a soldier being told "chest-out! chin-up!" while marching), because i have gotten a little too bossy, or balked at something He told me to do. while He does not bark an order like that, His eyebrow is enough. and most of the time, no one else knows what is going on. i am lucky, i guess, He sees nothing wrong with my being graceful and maintaining my dignity in vanilla public, even when i get the eyebrow. i can modify what i am doing without a scene. it feels good to have Him proud of me. as much as He likes when i am proud of Him.

so anyway, i see punishment as different from discipline. it may be rectangles and squares, though. the discipline is ever present with Master and myself (not live-in 24/7 yet, but getting there, so take this for what it is worth), but the punishments are rare and private. it's Domination and Discipline, y'know?

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 10:19:43 AM

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*lol* ok, i was composing and proofreading while Emerald, LaM and Tempestspet were posting. i was also watching a movie. sorry.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 10:53:59 AM

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Since I do not know what you define as discipline, I will give my Lord's definitions of discipline and punishment and then answer from that perspective.

"punishment... Negative Consequence due to improper behavior" and "discipline... to train and develop to adhere to a specific mode of behavior"

Yes, I have been disciplined in public and I actually tend to think of it as my behavior being corrected. At the first formal D/s function that we attended together, my Lord had to correct a specific behavior. There are certain protocols that are followed and one is that my Lord is always served on the right. I forgot and served Him a drink on His left. He just simply said, "You are on the wrong side, girl." It was not humiliating or embarrassing but just a simple reminder to "adhere to a specific mode of behavior." There are other instances when I have been reminded of the behavior that is expected whether in public or private. My Lord does it in a way that most people would not even notice that it has happened. Now if I am being sloppy and intentionally not following protocol, then I can imagine that the correction would be less subtle.

As for punishment, I have never been punished in public or private.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 11:33:10 AM

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i agree about the look thing too, my Master looks at me and i know uh oh i said the wrong thing LOL because his vein is popping out on his forehead

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I've never needed to be - He just has to look at me and I know. We've been together a while tho' and neither of us were into public displays of anything and this works better than any words or (physical) discipline he could give.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 11:48:23 AM

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Okay, I think I was thinking a smack or something, I think the idea of punishment vs discipline makes a lot of sense.

I can understand a look that says, "Excuse me but are you suppose to do that?" or the "you are on the wrong side girl" to me those are not punishments but more like you say a way to remind of the boundary that you know you have.

I was wondering more about physical punishment, very noticeable and not necessarily easily explained to the "vanilla world", I just love that vanilla world!!!

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 5:31:23 PM

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I would think one would have to be either very careful, foolish, or both... to try physical punishment in public....
Likely, it could get your dom arrested.

Also, for my own situation, Master does not physical discipline me, as in spanking and such. I enjoy those things.... why mess it up for both of us by turning it into a punishment, or a chore?

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 6:21:48 PM

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Around friends who have told us they're ok with it--yes.

Around the general public who still has problems with same sex couples holding hands? No.

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 6:33:55 PM

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My Master is the same way He doesn't physically punish me either. Master said it defeats the whole purpose of the punishment because spanking is what i enjoy and it is a pleasure not a punishment. A punishment Master would give me would be cleaning or mopping the floor by hand. So i agree with Tempestpet on this one

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I would think one would have to be either very careful, foolish, or both... to try physical punishment in public....
Likely, it could get your dom arrested.

Also, for my own situation, Master does not physical discipline me, as in spanking and such. I enjoy those things.... why mess it up for both of us by turning it into a punishment, or a chore?

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RE: Public discipline - 9/18/2005 7:05:40 PM

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Well things like having to eat the food you dont like, not being alowed to go into your favorite show when you are out, or simply him canceling that cosy eveing that the movies might be a punishment in public that none would see as that, and might be an effective one to.

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