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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 11:00:22 PM

Bound2One

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Slave here answering.

Master and I met here on CM. I contacted him about something he had written in his journal which touched me. This sparked a week's worth of chatty emails and finally I requested his picture. We exchanged, and were both pleased with what we found. Two months later after discussion of our roles within the relationship we discussed my wearing his collar. I accepted and wear it proudly. We see our relationship as one of growth and learning together. He has a considerable amount of BDSM experience, whereas my experience has been much less considerable. We discuss where we stand, how we are feeling and assess our relationship at times to be sure we are both comfortable. This happened rather quickly for us, which I acknowledge can be a problem at times, but we've been able to iron out personal issues which have arisen between us. Communication is the key for us. Fortunately, Master is a wonder at listening and respecting what is said and we are able to process feelings and emotions and make them managable rather than permitting fears or doubts to take over in the relationship...which could make it turn into the dreaded drama-fest of emotions where no one wins.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 11:04:12 PM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

for some reason it's not letting me edit my original post to delete that whole comment. It sounded better in my head than on paper.

You've got a time limit on editing posts. I don't know what it is, but once the time is up you can't edit anymore. Very frustrating when you posted something at night and realize in the morning that it was full of typos.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 11:07:07 PM

ownedandcollared

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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

A few questions for all the masters out there:

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

i'm answering for my Master.

W/we met on the yahoo chat back before it was stupid and full of bots. In a D/s chatroom.

my slave-y-ness was offered to Him shortly thereafter...it didn't take long for me to realize that He was the one i would devote my life to. Our relationship was online / phone for approxamately two years, before i moved to be with Him. i did not recieve His collar for around six months after my arrival.

W/we got to know each other like everyone else does...by talking.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/24/2008 6:26:22 AM

eyesopened

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We met here on CM 6 months ago. We began by emails, IM, phone calls, every single day. InkedMaster was not about to let distance be a problem but was also wise enough not to seek so far away that meeting would be a huge burden. We met in person within 6 weeks of initial contact.

Since then, we have spent extended weekends (four days) together being just us. Yes, there's been plenty of play but also plenty of day-to-day activities like grocery shopping, cooking, watching tv, etc.

On my second extended weekend, i came to Him and begged His collar and He accepted me. (took a LOT longer than 10-20 hours because we both wanted this relationship to be as permanent as a relationship can be.)

We talked. We talked about everything from politics to religion to careers to family to which is the proper way to hang the toilet-paper roll. We shared stories, experiences, jokes. We discussed likes, dislikes, fetishes, fantasies, what we considered limits, our previous relationships, our goals for this relationship.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/24/2008 7:05:41 AM

darkclouds

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i just have to say that sometimes it does work out. my Master and i met on Alt.com, started chatting on a Monday, talked on the phone Tuesday and Wednesday, met in person (and played!!) on Thursday and He collared me on Friday. Have been together for 4+ years now.

Dont assume all who meet and collar quickly are velcro collars.

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