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Introduction - 2/23/2008 7:38:37 AM

ltlJohnDowe

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I'm a recently "Divorced" (As of December 13th, 2007), 33 year old, straight male, top Living in Jefferson, GA.

Let me spill my guts here in the hope that I can make some friends, get out into the BDSM community, find the Hotspots to hang out, ...
Who knows, maybe one day I'll even find another Sub. But, that will be a slow process.

I've really only had one "SUB" - my ex-wife. She turned me onto bondage when we first married 12 years ago. I took to it like a duck to water and we were VERY active (Privately) for the first 8
years of our marriage.

Then, I was hurt BAD in a car wreck. I was a pedestrian hit by a truck going about 50mph and launch through the air into a brick wall. I nearly died, my head was busted clean open, I had to have surgery to correct some of my injuries and I've just recently, after nearly 3 years, put down my cane. (I still need it if I'm going for a really LONG walk, or I use my Hiking staff in the woods - more for balance than for strength.)

After the accident, both of our outlooks changed. We were put through situations where we were COMPLETELY out of any control of our lives. For someone that associates with being a DOM, that is very disturbing and really made me appreciate being able to be in control that much more.

As for her, she no longer wanted to be Out of control again. I can understand that. However, she became a very "Cold Fish" in the bedroom. Not even wanting vanilla sex but about once a month.

I've always had a problem with my weight (6ft, 250 lbs at my "Prime"). It's always been a job for me to keep it off (I walk, Hike, Bike, Work out, Geocache.... ). Given the LONG period of down time I had after the accident, I put on some pounds (At one point, I hit the 408 lbs mark). My LOVE not being interested in me put me into a depression funk that compounded the problem.

In 2006, she had a miscarriage of what would be our first child. She took it VERY HARD. So did I. She pushed me away, pushed our friends away, and made a new set of friends that she went out partying/drinking with and just did not want to spend time with me.

Then she broke my heart. She had an affair and left me.

Well, we decided to part ways, no messy divorce (Just "Uncontested" with NO ALIMONY).

I have decided I have to get my LIFE BACK. I'm working out again. I've dropped about 80 lbs since last August.

Ideally, I want to find a partner. Someone willing to accept me as I am, knowing that I am trying to make myself better (Again) and that is willing to HELP me do it. Someone that, while a total submissive in the bedroom will be a EQUAL outside of the bedroom.

I don't just want a new Sub. I want a new lover, friend, companion that is willing to be a sub for playtime.

I have considered a 24/7 relationship, and if I find someone who is interested in that, I am open to. It's not what I'm seeking, but the thought does "Excite" me.

Sorry for the long winded introduction, but now you know my story, why I'm here and what I'm looking for.

I look forward to meeting some of you in person, even if it's just to meet and talk over coffee.

Any advice given will be given HONEST consideration.

Robby

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RE: Introduction - 2/23/2008 8:53:29 AM

CalifChick

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Welcome Robby. As someone who decided, on July 1 of last year, to get her own life back, I can appreciate your pain. My advice at this point is to read through the forums, use the search function at the top of the page to see how questions have been answered before, and when you do ask a question, to not fall into the pattern of so many others before you that post a question and then instead of really hearing the advice, merely spend their time justifying their own point of view.

Cali

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RE: Introduction - 2/23/2008 9:18:37 AM

bardtothebone

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Welcome to the group. You'll make many friends here, among whom
may well be the lady you deserve. Be well, be happy, be kind.

The Bard.

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