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masterdeltafire -> RE: Other than apperance. (9/26/2005 4:36:46 AM)
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Ok we are having a discussion on how apperances affect atraction to a possible partner, but what aboute other things. i might be shallow but i am mostly atracted to pepole that have at least some intrest and knowledge aboute the spiritual, occultists and occult knowledge is to me werry sexy, a man can e as ugly as the elefant man, but if he practice magick, is spiritual or into the occult, he is sexy in my book, while a hunk of man meat, that might be eye candy is totaly uninteresting if he dont have ny spiritual intrest or knowledge. anyone else have anyhting other such things that deterime atraction to somone?
Since first post here will make it a fairly good one.
What I look for in a girl.:
Deep submission
desire to learn, even when new.
willingness to learn and grow at a safe pace and environment.
a desire to do do their best, regardless of outcome, knowing mistakes happen with the new ones.
What turns me off in one.
One who cannot tell the truth
One who judges others
One who categorizes nice men as pushy, or too gentle too playful not strict enough etc.
One who tosses all men into the lying cheating abusive bastard category.
One who thinks all men wish is sex.
Appearance outside means very little to me. I have met some bombshells who would make hugh heffner shoot their loads at first glance who had the personalities of toads and snobby as hell, and some bbw's who had very charming and beautiful personalities.
As long as the girl is between 18-25 i do not mind.. Single as well.
Compssion
love for writing
vampirism
someone who is not afraid to show their submission openly, but not be considered a doormat.
someone who will hold their head up high and proud showing their collar and know it is heir most prized posession.
Things that royally irk me..
lying
cheating
deception
hiding issues till deep in the relationship (ie something that should have come up MONTHS before)
Velcro collars (ones who collect collars just for the sheer hell of it and seeing how many they can get)
no communication (even an empath has to have some idea what is wrong to make changes).
I do not like controlling every aspect of one's life. I like a girl who can do things on own at times to give each other some space. A dom should not have to watch their girls like hawks to make sure they are not playing games. I will crack down, being gorean up to the point of making one squirm when she must ask permission for everything but to breathe and swallow if need be.
And yes been badly hurt.. Engaged twice. on my third one now.
An example what NOT TO DO to good men:
Lie for 8 months solid on a second engagement, Lie through the teeth while professing undying love on the dom, sit back watch as he gets attaccked left and right called everything from mentally imbalanced, to words i cannot post here, seldom if ever backing him.. totally killing his reputation with the actions. Then when destroyed come out smiling like a cheshire cat, admit it was all a lie, then disappear two weeks later to the first man, leaving the dom crying destroyed inside on a Domme friend's shoulder for a month while the girl sits on the sidelines laughing.
That pretty much sums up my second engagement. Why i nearly retired from the lifestyle, annd did for about 6 months while i regrouped.
Good men are hard to find as many have told me over the years. Trying to put them in a early grave knowing they have a heart condition and wishing they were dead for 6 weeks after on heart murmurs that damn near killed me. pretty much sums up why if i cannot trust one 100 % and that trust goes both ways it will not go over well.
Yes i move d on, to my third engagement.. but the scars were still there. Even though i know she is genuine part of me never will trust again, never before. Once nearly killed is enough.
So take all of this into account before you consider using the truly gifted men as canonfodder tossing them away like they were worthless and trash. Because eventually they will disappear like so many before them and there will not be many left.
What one sees online is the true Dom behind the computer I made a promise long ago to train exactly online as i would real life. I do not hide who I am, and do not expect the girl to either.
That is just some of the long post. hope all are awake and did not bore others.
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