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Just starting out, need help - 2/25/2008 7:55:24 PM

maineman2

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Hi, just starting out and need advice. Ive had sub fantasies for a long time and want to move forward. Im an easy going guy with a good sense of humor and a fairly hard body. Im into something called "sounding" wher a guy inserts stainless steel rods of diff sizes into his penis. Clean and sterile of course. I also play around with esim. I travel often and need to be very discreet. I also have a cam and mic so talking online wouldn't be a problem. I want to find a strong, sexy, dom woman. Im for real and look forward to any advice, Maineman

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/25/2008 9:45:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: maineman2

Hi, just starting out and need advice. Ive had sub fantasies for a long time and want to move forward. Im an easy going guy with a good sense of humor and a fairly hard body. Im into something called "sounding" wher a guy inserts stainless steel rods of diff sizes into his penis. Clean and sterile of course. I also play around with esim. I travel often and need to be very discreet. I also have a cam and mic so talking online wouldn't be a problem. I want to find a strong, sexy, dom woman. Im for real and look forward to any advice, Maineman

Married and have to hide it from the wife?

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/26/2008 4:01:59 AM

MsSonnetMarwood

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Sounds like you're a great candidate to go the prodomme route.

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/26/2008 5:14:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: maineman2

Hi, just starting out and need advice. Ive had sub fantasies for a long time and want to move forward. Im an easy going guy with a good sense of humor and a fairly hard body. Im into something called "sounding" wher a guy inserts stainless steel rods of diff sizes into his penis. Clean and sterile of course. I also play around with esim. I travel often and need to be very discreet. I also have a cam and mic so talking online wouldn't be a problem. I want to find a strong, sexy, dom woman. Im for real and look forward to any advice, Maineman

Since the first response questioned whether or not you're married, and the 2nd suggested the pro-domme route, I'll ask a couple direct questions and give you my 2 cents worth. First question is, why do you feel the need for to be "very discreet"? Is that about your job, feelings of shame around exploring your submissive fantasies, or are you married as suggested by Akasha? If you claim to be real, how can you expect to be that for a Domme sitting from behind a computer via a webcam? Not only is your profile is woefully incomplete, it's essentially non-existent.

If you actually want a relationship of any kind with a woman here on CM that's about the two of you, I strongly suggest you take the time to put some thought into who you are and what you want, then put it into words on your profile to describe what you have to offer a woman on CM that might capture her interest. From your OP, I doubt you'd have that much difficulty doing that if you simply took the time to do it instead of "flexing your pecs" while you use the boards here to troll for a Mistress. Personally, I view that as trying to take the lazy way out and not being proactive on your part to show a woman you genuinely have the desire to show her enough of yourself to be her submissive.

I hope it's obvious by now why the other two ladies here have commented as they have. I don't think you'd like what a "strong, sexy dom woman" would do with you if you met her at the moment. The last things you could expect to be experiencing would be sounds being inserted comfortably in your urethra or any kind of electrical play that you've fanatsized having with her for your pleasure.

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/26/2008 9:42:26 AM

kalimachild

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Some advice for you.

1) finish your profile.
Most Dommes who see this profile are going to pass you by. When I visited it, all that was there were basic stats and a pic. Physical stats and visual proof of them do not inspire most of us to accept your submission.

2)Know what you are asking for.
If you are wanting to submit to a female, you have to understand what that means. Basicly it will mean that although your desires and wishes are taken as suggestions, the real control and choices belong to the Domme. You are there to please her not yourself.

3)Know Yourself
Know what you really want. Know what you really don't want. Know what you are willing to do to get what you need.

4)Communication
You should start with your profile, but that's just the beginning. Read and respond to the boards here. View, read and respond the the profiles of Dommes that you like and be willing to honestly answer questions about yourself and your limits. Before submission can begin, most Dommes like to know who they are taking control of.

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/27/2008 7:12:34 PM

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another suggestion would be to look for a BDSM club in your area theres usually a group for submissives and you can chat with them. looking into exactly what is out there is very helpfully. for me due to being deployed in combat bull whips are out for me, another is I'm in the medical Field so scat play is out as well. its a great fantasy having a Dominate woman but a entirely different one in reality. good luck on your journey of self discovery.

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/28/2008 8:08:44 AM

MisPandora

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quote:

ORIGINAL: maineman2

Hi, just starting out and need advice. Ive had sub fantasies for a long time and want to move forward. Im an easy going guy with a good sense of humor and a fairly hard body. Im into something called "sounding" wher a guy inserts stainless steel rods of diff sizes into his penis. Clean and sterile of course. I also play around with esim. I travel often and need to be very discreet. I also have a cam and mic so talking online wouldn't be a problem. I want to find a strong, sexy, dom woman. Im for real and look forward to any advice, Maineman

OK.....so what was your question, or was this an ad?

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/28/2008 9:03:15 AM

Cradyn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: maineman2

Hi, just starting out and need advice. Ive had sub fantasies for a long time and want to move forward. Im an easy going guy with a good sense of humor and a fairly hard body. Im into something called "sounding" wher a guy inserts stainless steel rods of diff sizes into his penis. Clean and sterile of course. I also play around with esim. I travel often and need to be very discreet. I also have a cam and mic so talking online wouldn't be a problem. I want to find a strong, sexy, dom woman. Im for real and look forward to any advice, Maineman

OK.....so what was your question, or was this an ad?

lmao, out of all the responces here so far. I loved yours the most

As for my own reply Mr. Mainemanguyishperson

*hands him an icecream cone* Go play :)

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/28/2008 8:45:40 PM

Fox108

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Hi, thanks for the reply, I have another question. The misstress that I'm refering to wants me to feel comfortable with me being her number 1, but she wants her subies to stay in the pic. She also just had one of her subies from overseas come and live with her even though I told her that I didn't want this to happen. And she has said if she wants to have intercourse, if she feels she will. I don't know how any of this helps me to come into the life style. Being that we have only known each other for less than 3 months. But she wants to continue a relationship. I don't see how she can mentor me if shes moving so fast, regardless of what I say. I think I need her for mentoring, and I would like to develop the relationship but I have reservations. What should I do

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RE: Just starting out, need help - 2/29/2008 4:35:37 AM

VelvetMaam

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You might want to start your own thread, unless this is the same OP under a different name?

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