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probablyknowme -> RE: After taking a break............. (2/26/2008 1:30:11 PM)
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I recently had an experience that might shed a little light on this subject. Now, most of you know that I am a masochist, some would even describe me as a heavy bottom. That being said, I was enjoying a very heavy body impact scene with the Domly One, really processing the pain well in a very primal way that often happens for me in a heavy pain session, and he decided to change things up. He brought out the knife for some mind fuck/abrasion play (which I am normally crazy about!). But I could not make it work. He read me well enough that he knew that it wasn't working and asked me if I had something to say to him, at which point I used our safe word for "yellow" and he went back to the impact play.
This is a classic example of something that is normally really yummy for me just not being good at the time. He and I both know my body and my masochist needs well enough to know that if it just doesn't work then there really isn't any reason to worry about it. There is always next time.
Lady Hibiscus has a very good point as well. Two months without that kind of input will make your body's reactions different. So I would say to you, don't sweat the small stuff. If I know anything about you as a submissive you are kicking yourself for not taking as much as you would have liked for your Sir. Did you ask him what he thought was the difference? Did you ask him if he felt dissatisfied with your play? Did he act like he was? I think that if you were to talk to him about this, you would feel much better about it.
Just my quarter's worth,
kat
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