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nineofone -> Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 8:20:42 AM)

Viagra-Levitra for sex play? Anyone have experiences to share about this?
Being a 46 yr old male,I still dont have much of a prob getting it up.  However, after some ball squeezing and strapon fucking I'm noticing that its starting to go soft after a while. Is it doing long term harm by using these aids,or a simple matter of taking a vitamin for pleasing my partner? Or maybe its just time to confront my age..lol
thanks...



Shawn1066 -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 8:25:45 AM)

Um, I'm 20 years old.  I'm still at the point I can get aroused randomly for no real reason...  :-p

That being said...certain things, like strapon play, will cause me to go soft for bits at a time.  That's not because I don't find what's going on erotic, or pleasurable...  It just seems to be a side-effect of the activities.

So, it might not be that you're having erectile dysfunction problems...  Though, I would certainly consult my doctor about viagra if I were you.  I'd probably stay a little mum about other stuff, but that's me. :-p

DV's Fox



nineofone -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 8:38:54 AM)

Thanks Shawn!
I remember when my ex bent me over and used the strapon for the first time,WOW!!!I was erect like never before and my ejaculation was mindblowing!! She really got off on it as well, but the last few times she did it(months ago)it went limp and felt I no longer got pleasure from it. NOT TRUE. I dont have ED for much else,maybe pain and focus are more the issue now I'm not sure. I hope some others will share.THX



AquaticSub -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 9:21:56 AM)

Talk to your doctor. Remember that Viagra isn't going to give you the insta-boner, you still have to actually be turned on or it will soften. You will also want to consider if you have any heart problems.



nineofone -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 9:33:04 AM)

Thanks AquaticSub..not sure how I feel about sharing this stuff with a doc though..lol



AquaticSub -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 9:47:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: nineofone

Thanks AquaticSub..not sure how I feel about sharing this stuff with a doc though..lol


I'd advise getting over it. Trust me, they've heard it before. Just be tactful and say you have an interesting sex life and your erections are softening up a bit before things are done. They may ask some questions and answer them honestly.



LadyHathor -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 9:55:46 AM)

At times, I think it can be mindset, what's going on that's distracting--or maybe like eating fried bugs, its ok--once---after that its a little hard to approach again--after all men are not wired for the anal stuff--it takes work, preparation and getting your head in a different place.( no pun intended)



nineofone -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 10:12:23 AM)

Thanks Lady Hathor-i didnt mention it b4 but since you brought it up,yes there definitely was some emotional stuff involved as well. Mostly trust and security issues.For me,as erotically exciting as being penetrated by a woman is,its (for me),the most daring demonstration of trust.Admittedly it was her attitude towards me that changed in this regard. With this changing attitude-mine changed as well. There something almost undefinable that happened or was broken from that point on. Maybe she couldn't respect a man who thrives on these forms..i dont know....She wasn't much of a talker,so we just never had the chance to repair our fractured intimacy i believe..
THX



BitaTruble -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 11:45:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: nineofone

Viagra-Levitra for sex play? Anyone have experiences to share about this?
Being a 46 yr old male,I still dont have much of a prob getting it up.  However, after some ball squeezing and strapon fucking I'm noticing that its starting to go soft after a while. Is it doing long term harm by using these aids,or a simple matter of taking a vitamin for pleasing my partner? Or maybe its just time to confront my age..lol
thanks...


It's time to confront your age and consult with your doctor. 50% of men over 50 (and you are on the cusp) have some form of ED from mild to severe and many factors can increase the likelyhood of being affected (high blood pressure, diabetis etc.) You're not going to tell your doctor anything he hasn't already heard and most doctors will give you some samplers to try out before you start spending money on 'scripts which, even with insurance, can be quite expensive.

Celeste



LadyHathor -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 11:47:11 AM)

It is hard when the dynamic changes, it can be so fragile--at times playacting to secure or procure someone--it takes work, constant work and commitment-- it takes loving who and what orientation one is.
 
Not just the motions--but the passion for what the dynamic is.  IMHO
 



WalterRego -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 11:56:39 AM)

If you don't otherwise have a problem getting hard, it may just be that these particular activities are ones which may excite you mentally or you may enjoy them, but don't get you hard or turn you on in that way. Unless you're a masochist, pain may not turn you on or get or keep you hard. Some types of pain excite me, others don't. I do very much enjoy the subspace of real or intense pain, but it does not make me hard - just the opposite.

Similarly, a strap on is a real mind fuck for me. Makes me feel totally used, submissive and controlled. It's a total role reversal to feel myself moving to her lead. But even though I may be bucking up and down,  pushing back into it, panting, moaning, and making a lot of other sounds ....it doesn't really or always make me hard or make me cum.

For that matter, if you're being taken with a strap on, what's the point of being hard any way? Obviously, you're not going to be using it. Same for having your balls squeezed - what good does a hard on do? Maybe she doesn't even really care if you're hard when she's doing any of those things. Perhaps she just likes to see the reactions she can get out of you. Has she said anything about your not being hard? Maybe she is just not sure if you like it, or how you are reacting to it. If you are concerned about pleasing your partner, there are lots of ways to show her that you are enjoying what she is doing to you. Make some noise for one. Tell her for another,, beg for more.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 11:57:27 AM)

I just want to mention that after a certain age things affect performance more than perhaps before. When a man is young he can perhaps drink all night and still get it up. After a certain age alcohol will effect you more. Some wont be able to get it up, others will be able to get it up but not be able to cum.



SubbieOnWheels -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 12:50:05 PM)

If you do decide to talk with your doctor, do please remember that Viagra and its clones are prescription medications for a reason. There are many variables to consider when deciding to use it.

But then, I would hope your doctor will mention all this to you.



subguyca2000 -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 2:13:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: nineofone
Being a 46 yr old male,I still dont have much of a prob getting it up.  However, after some ball squeezing and strapon fucking I'm noticing that its starting to go soft after a while.


I am 47 and experience going soft when anally trained.  It has nothing to do with my excitement level.  From my review of message boards, all people react differently.

I like Viagra not to just get hard, but to get very hard and very big for intercourse.  It does not make me cum any more, but maybe it makes me cum easier.

There are side effects that I do not like such as flushing and stuffy nose.



SirMIkeSD -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 2:19:17 PM)

I have used it and it worked for me, the cost is a bit high if you really don't need it unless your insurance covers it.  I can tell you that one of my boy's loves to be fisted and is not normally errect for that.  This is a common thing for most men getting fisted, you could be having the same type of reaction.  I really would not worry about it, as the more you worry the more problem you can have.

Mike




nineofone -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/26/2008 6:52:00 PM)

Thanks Mike,LadyHathor,subguy,subbie on wheels,lusciouslips WalterRego,and Bitatrouble.
I dont really need help getting hard like I mentioned b4-I was just concerned that my enjoyment of strapon was becoming crippled. (I still love it hard or soft)



malloves69 -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/27/2008 5:16:33 AM)

nothing wrong with taking vitamin v if you have too ...mals 50 years young [:)]  and yes i still love sex [:)] and if i have to take viagra before my lady cums over then so be it ..not much fun if you cant get hard and with viagra for me im hard and ready to go whens shes in the mood ..wish i didnt have too but like i said i still love sex [:)] have fun ..mal [:)]



MasterTrainerV -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/28/2008 5:13:13 PM)

Well, viagra - not the best thing in sex.
I remember, somebody sharing his opinion about viagra, said that it turns on your dick, but not your mind.
For me, a hot female partner works better than viagra could...
Also, it's very important how you were sexually educated and trained.
Properly educated and well trained male can hold his erection as long as needed...
MasterTrainer Vlad, sexologist.



LPslittleclip -> RE: Viagra for sex play? (2/28/2008 5:46:24 PM)

before taking any supplement or medicine talk to your doctor!! really you need to do this if you have a underlying undiagnosed problem or just weren't in the mood it could cause that problem. if you take the med and have a or a priaprisim (painful erection and cant pee) you might end up with a new hole to pee from or worse. it really doesn't hurt to talk to the doctor, I'm a military nurse and this is nothing new to the clinic. most of the time a spouse will ask for them and make a appointment just to get them in. a doctors visit would do you much more good than just taking a pill without knowing the full implications of it on you body.
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