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thetammyjo -> RE: Decisions (9/26/2005 1:45:54 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Dom4UA
How do you decide who your sub/slave is going to be?
I have hoops I make potentials jump through -- lots of them.
Lots of talking and a formal application.
Then there's the face-to-face training which isn't scening but training, an introduction to what I want and need in a partner, and some basic introduction to kink and helping them think about things.
After all of that (which is maybe 4-5 months minimum) then we sit down and see if a mutual interest remains to continue but now as owner and slave. If not, we shake hands, "say thanks" and move on.
I do have the right via the training contract to dismiss someone if I feel there is no connection or if I feel we aren't going to be able to progress very far.
Sounds very formal, huh? Well, yes, cause I'm a very very busy woman and if someone can't go through all of this, a good test run, and learn some stuff, then I frankly don't have the time to give. I discovered over the years that this approach works best for me. Too many built up expectations and broken hearts doing it the more casual and perhaps more common way as though it was dating. Dating does not work for me.
But I'm weird like that.
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