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tsatske -> RE: What is a munch? (2/27/2008 10:32:46 AM)
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I usually describe a munch as a gathering of people who all share one common interest, who get together to share company, NOT to participate in said interest. So, if you went to a chess munch, everyone there would be a chess geek, but there wouldn't be any chess boards sitting about. (My son, who is a major geek, and, among other things, a language geek, challenged this defination by asking, what if it were a gourmands munch? How do you get together in a resteraunt to share your common interest in good food and to eat together, without enjoying the food? Hmmm.)
Munches do generally take place in a resteraunt, and generally you have a meal. Each one is run different, but as has been pointed out here, blantent lifestyle behavoir is frowned on, and clothes should be street safe. (try not to scare any little children that may be in another part of the resteraunt with thier parents.) Since the clothes are street safe and there is no kneeling or geneflecting going on, you do not need to worry about being 'seen' there - anyone who sees you will simply see you are at some kind of meeting. Tell them it's your computer club or church group or something. They won't know the difference.
In my experience, at a munch, about half of the talk is about the common tie - in this case BDSM - and about half is about everything else - news, politics, kids, laundry, for some reason, the health care crisis in America is always a popular topic.
Write the orginazer first, they will generally tell you how to identify the group. Often you will be told to ask the hostess for the 'computer group'. If the group meets there regularly, the waitress knows better, but, hey, gotta keep up apperences, right? <grin>.
As someone said, don't be put off by cliquishness, these are people who have devoloped friendships and may only get to see each other once a month. Go for three months in a row, if you haven't made any connections by then, maybe that particular group is a bit too cliquish, or not a good fit for you.
Just be yourself and have fun. There is no better way to meet real people in your local area.
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