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hejira92 -> RE: Spoiled Rotten (2/28/2008 8:00:04 PM)
We can't do enough for each other and our only conflict is who is the luckier one! We were just talking the other day about brats. I said I could never act out for attention because He lavishes me with it. And He is constantly touching me (I am a total physical affection person and was starved for it for the entire length of a 16 year marriage). He pays more attention to the little things than any other man I've ever known pays attention to anything. (He knows when my blood sugar is dropping before I do.) He always considers me and my needs first in any decision. And that includes my family and ums. He works tirelessly to help me overcome my insecurities and scars from the past and leads me down new paths of self-discovery. He massages me ! He treats me like a hot chick (!) Sometimes I don't feel submissive enough, because I feel so cherished. But He just reiterates to me that He will always treat me as I deserve to be treated. (and then He'll demonstrate just how submissive He can make me. [:D]) There is nothing I would not do for and give to, this man. I am the lucky one.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Spoiled Rotten (2/28/2008 8:58:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bound2One quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: toservez part of me feels I have let him down. Graciously accepting a gift is a form of service to the giver. Many independent, strong people -- male and female -- do not think that way, and it takes practice to change. Also, if someone has a history of receiving "gifts" or money being used to manipulate instead of to show love, it's harder to accept presents without feeling suspicious. I think this "problem" comes from the same mindspace that causes people to be unwilling to ask for help. Interesting thoughts. I've been instructed to work on being able to receive a compliment from Master w/o feeling I have to give one in return. Same idea - gift of a compliment or a gift of something concrete. Thanks for the food for thought. I can relate to this..I have been told I have difficulty accepting compliments, I really try to accept gracefully...I guess I am just not sure as to how to do that..!!..I always smile and say thank you and though I never doubt the sincerity of the compliment..I guess I always doubt the actual validity of the compliment given....I think I am given more credit then I deserve???..~crosses eyes~......Tempting

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Spoiled Rotten (2/28/2008 10:30:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSubI can relate to this..I have been told I have difficulty accepting compliments, I really try to accept gracefully...I guess I am just not sure as to how to do that..!!..I always smile and say thank you and though I never doubt the sincerity of the compliment..I guess I always doubt the actual validity of the compliment given....I think I am given more credit then I deserve???..~crosses eyes~......Tempting These feelings are understandable, I have them as well. But I realize to do anything other than accept them means to deny my friend not only the opportunity to give me something nice with good intentions (a big no no for me) but also to deny my friend good judgement. I choose friends with good judgement, so obviously if they judge me worthy of praise or whatever, I need to admit there's something there OR I'm basically saying I think my friend has sucky judgement. I drilled this into my partner a lot in the early days- how to deny or dismiss a compliment from me was basically telling me I have no idea what I'm judging and waste my time with crappy people.

EvilKitty -> RE: Spoiled Rotten (2/29/2008 8:18:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rubberpet I'm with Shawn. Mistress and I are going to spoil each other rotten. She is very nurturing and considerate. Plus, She's even going to break a cardinal rule among dommes...She's already promised me that She'll rub my feet after I get home from work! gasps [sm=hair.gif] It's scary to think of such a thing...I hope it doesn't cause Her to lose Her domme card! LOL Hell, I'm going to cook for Her, give Her massages, bathe Her, wash Her hair, take Her out on the town, and do anything else I can think of to make sure She remembers Her place above me! [:D] Nahhh, her Domme card will be fine!!! My #1boy worked in a printing plant for a decade; 3 floors of vibrating concrete & steel. I finally had to ORDER him to lie still & let me rub his feet. Made him VERY uncomfortable at first, but that's fun, too! 11 years & we still spoil each other rotten. 25 years with my vanilla husband as well, & WE still spoil each other rotten! It makes for a very happy existence & one VERY happy Evil Kitty!

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Spoiled Rotten (2/29/2008 8:23:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSubI can relate to this..I have been told I have difficulty accepting compliments, I really try to accept gracefully...I guess I am just not sure as to how to do that..!!..I always smile and say thank you and though I never doubt the sincerity of the compliment..I guess I always doubt the actual validity of the compliment given....I think I am given more credit then I deserve???..~crosses eyes~......Tempting These feelings are understandable, I have them as well. But I realize to do anything other than accept them means to deny my friend not only the opportunity to give me something nice with good intentions (a big no no for me) but also to deny my friend good judgement. I choose friends with good judgement, so obviously if they judge me worthy of praise or whatever, I need to admit there's something there OR I'm basically saying I think my friend has sucky judgement. I drilled this into my partner a lot in the early days- how to deny or dismiss a compliment from me was basically telling me I have no idea what I'm judging and waste my time with crappy people. You are right I cannot argue with such excellent advice and common sense.And I certainly do not wish to demean my friends either...I will reflect on these words next time I am paid a compliment...:0)...Tempting

mnottertail -> RE: Spoiled Rotten (2/29/2008 8:27:24 PM)
say thank you like you mean it shut the fuck up and obsess about it later when you are alone and no one can see you. Really, Ron

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