RE: Bribery? Maybe?

RE: Bribery? Maybe? (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive

Message

ownedgirlie -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 10:07:41 AM)
I heard a lot from my ex husband (before he was my husband) about all the clothes and jewelry he had bought his former girlfriends. It was appealing to me but it was not what actually "lured" me. I never saw any of that stuff. I heard a lot about what he used to do, and a lot about what he planned to do, but in the present...well that was a different story. You are right to ask how you will be treated and what your submission to that person will look like. Gifts are nice treats but they do not provide for overall needs. I would look at someone like that rather skeptically, myself.

RCdc -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 10:16:11 AM)
I totally agree Cradyn. I think the problem for people and that goes for s-types and d-types is that there are people who expect an awful lot - with so many dominants wanting tributes - submissive get burned and with so many 'princess' type submissives or those that are just in it for the easy ride - which does happen a lot - some dominants get into the mindset that they have to 'proove' they can provide and give,give,give. Which is fine if that is your kink, but it's a bit of a mindblowing realisation to come across a s-type that wants to submit and not just want to be 'cared' for (not sure if that makes much sense either) - so you do find a growing amount of d-types who are extravagent. I don't believe it's a BDSM thing, I believe it's a general thing, because people want moremoremore and where credit (was) easily available and advertising leads people to believe you 'must' have this latest thang. But then I could be over analysing.[;)] the.dark.

Dnomyar -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 10:31:18 AM)
sends Cali a Yugo to see how easy she is. Aileen brought bologna sandwiches. lauren I have 2 good feet. Do you want me to put the right or left foot forward.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 10:34:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar sends Cali a Yugo to see how easy she is. Aileen brought bologna sandwiches. lauren I have 2 good feet. Do you want me to put the right or left foot forward. Liverwurst. Liverwurst. Never bologna.

lauren0221 -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 10:39:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar sends Cali a Yugo to see how easy she is. Aileen brought bologna sandwiches. lauren I have 2 good feet. Do you want me to put the right or left foot forward. Either would be fine, just don't try to bribe me with presents, unless they are realllly good presents:) Jeeze, I was being all selfless and subly, and Cali got a car!

Cradyn -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 10:53:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar sends Cali a Yugo to see how easy she is. Aileen brought bologna sandwiches. lauren I have 2 good feet. Do you want me to put the right or left foot forward. Liverwurst. Liverwurst. Never bologna. I just thought of a great punishment if i do something wrong... Force me to eat one of Aileen's Sandwich's >.>

Aileen1968 -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 10:56:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Cradyn quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar sends Cali a Yugo to see how easy she is. Aileen brought bologna sandwiches. lauren I have 2 good feet. Do you want me to put the right or left foot forward. Liverwurst. Liverwurst. Never bologna. I just thought of a great punishment if i do something wrong... Force me to eat one of Aileen's Sandwich's >.> Bwuahahahaha. I have a great meat wallet.

SubbieOnWheels -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 11:05:03 AM)
If I accepted the "gifts" offered to me in the hopes of making me his sub, I would not respect the d-type. Therefore the process would backfire. (I did have one d-type say he would pay off all my debts, including the monster hospital bill. I declined. I'm going through bankruptcy to rid myself of the debt, but I have my own self-respect because I looked at all the options and made that choice.)

littleone35 -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 11:42:20 AM)
Master buys me stuff, but that is because it pleases him to do so. It is not you submit to me so you get gifts he does it because he loves me. I am not saying he will buy me a new car, but if i neeed money i am sure Master would give it to me. Not as a bribe just because i needed it. Matt's littleone

Bound2One -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 11:52:08 AM)
I've experienced it with potential Doms in the past, but it's usually more subtle - something like what a great car they drive, house they have, vacations they've taken. Something to hint that they have money and don't mind throwing it around if need be. ::meh:: I can do without. It's the gifts that don't cost a dime that mean the most to me.

toservez -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 12:09:25 PM)
It is human nature from both roles and genders to want the other to be dependent or show their other in some way qualities they like in themselves to subconsciously help the other like/love them more. Some of those things may come off as shallow or wrong but many do not and the intent is actually quite sweet if you think about it. Now obviously one doing that to get you to feel that way or for you to commit to something is a big red flag. But when it is not done out of an intentional conscious angle I see this as just natural human behavior when a person has feelings for another and sometimes acts in an overt manner to show the other what they have in front of them. Just a little peacock showing their feathers and going I am very good for you!

CalifChick -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 1:36:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lauren0221 Either would be fine, just don't try to bribe me with presents, unless they are realllly good presents:) Jeeze, I was being all selfless and subly, and Cali got a car! A yugo is not a car. It is a windup toy. And selfless gets you nowhere fast (not even as fast as in a yugo). Cali

StormsSlave -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 5:32:39 PM)
Wondering where all these sugar daddies are hiding?? I could be motivated by the right gift....say, something in a 5-speed?

SubbieOnWheels -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/28/2008 5:41:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StormsSlave Wondering where all these sugar daddies are hiding?? I could be motivated by the right gift....say, something in a 5-speed? Me, too. I wouldn't mind being supported in the style to which I would like to become accustomed.

DesFIP -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/29/2008 11:28:15 AM)
Isn't it a guy thing? You know, part of that whole "He who has the most toys wins"?

Cradyn -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/29/2008 11:46:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Isn't it a guy thing? You know, part of that whole "He who has the most toys wins"? I've noticed alot of middle aged guys doing it. And it's the boys and girls around my age i've noticed..who tend to be looking for that "sugar daddy" type thing.

Sundowner -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/29/2008 2:54:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lauren0221 quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar sends Cali a Yugo to see how easy she is. Aileen brought bologna sandwiches. lauren I have 2 good feet. Do you want me to put the right or left foot forward. Either would be fine, just don't try to bribe me with presents, unless they are realllly good presents:) Jeeze, I was being all selfless and subly, and Cali got a car! But Cali's shallow and easy (and, as certified elsewhere, a slut no less) - and Aileen has to go on the A list - she brings sandwiches! ------------- There's another angle to this, which is that some people find it very difficult to voice emotions like love. Giving gifts, even money, can be a demonstration (for them) of the love they feel but can't express. (Fortunately I have no such problem Cali, so no car from me - I'll tell you I love you as often as you like. And Aileen, and GT and lauren and ....) (StormSlave - any chance for us if I could wheedle the Yugo off Cali for you?)

Aileen1968 -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/29/2008 3:03:45 PM)
Here I discover that sandwiches get me on the A list. And all this time I thought it was blowjobs.

IrishMist -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/29/2008 3:10:13 PM)
Quite honestly, if someone was trying to 'win me over' by talking about all the 'things they bought' their previous partners; I would show them the door faster than wind could blow through. I have no need, nor any desire to imagine myself with a person who feels the need to try and buy me or impress me with such nonsense.

CarrieO -> RE: Bribery? Maybe? (2/29/2008 3:20:16 PM)
Jeez....I'd love to have a Daddy take me shopping.....with my OWN money! I'd want Him to come along just for imput because I'm still really into my jeans and all these Doms like skirts/dresses! Take me shopping...I'll buy, but, please let's go shopping. :) btw....any man that has to try to impress me with "things" is trying the WRONG way.....it doesn't impress me.

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.046875